Completely irrational post....

[Walton776]

The craziness has started! We decided we would have a chilled night post transfer and get a takeaway. We had a pizza and now I’m worried I shouldn’t have eaten it.... will it harm the implantation?! Am I been really silly 🙈

[LizzieBW]

Hi Walton776,

I haven't started treatment yet but I recently explored my personal irrational thoughts or fears about being unable to control the outcome of my upcoming ivf treatment. My counsellor very simply put it to me that we all spend an immense amount of emotional and physical energy, convincing ourselves that we can eat things, do things, drink things, think things that will positively or negatively influence the outcome of treatment when in reality the facts are this is simply not true. It's a medical procedure to help biology along the way & we cannot change the outcome. This gave me comfort, I am slowly coming to terms with the lack of control but can aim to stay relaxed and do things that make me feel good. As I say I have yet to experience the emotional rollercoaster of ivf but thought if my recent chat with my counsellor might help, even a little it was worth sharing.

Enjoy that pizza 🍕. In fact, eat some more if that's what you want to do! Treat yourself my lovely xx

[Walton776 in reply to LizzieBW]

You have made me feel so much better! Your counsellor is very wise and deserves his/her weight in gold! I was worried I’d fallen at the first hurdle ☹️ 🍕

[Peony85]

I would say honestly don’t worry about it. If it’s just post transfer, it’s still hatching. The FET when I got a BFP, I had a really stressful day trying to close an M&A deal and had a teleconference with Asia at midnight UK time. It still implanted! Goes to show if the embryo is good quality it can withstand other stuff. Wishing you all the best xx

[Walton776 in reply to Peony85]

Gosh that does sound like a stressful day! But congrats on your BFP 😘 I was back this afternoon working and presenting to our sales team! Thought I’d welcome the distraction ... but between that and the pizza I’m having anxiety this evening 😂 it’s going to be a long 11 days to OTD!

[Jen37]

Hey my lovely, I know it’s easier said than done but you have to try and relax and not let every little thing worry you. As Lizzie’s counsellor said it really is out of your hands. Of course there are things you can do to help it along like, no heavy lifting and trying to relax as much as you can. I had five transfers in total and worried about everything with the first two. I then decided that I would live my life as normal as I could and what would be, would be. I always went back to work after each transfer as the clinic wasn’t far from my office. I finally fell pregnant on my fifth transfer with a 5 day embryo and I am now 32 weeks pregnant. We had breaks in between each transfer just a couple of months and had some lovely holidays in between. It was a long and stressful 2 years. All I can say is never give up hope, it is natural to worry and you always will, but just don’t be too hard on yourself. You are going through a hell of a lot and putting your body through a lot too. It’s stressful and emotional and no one who hasn’t been through IVF will understand, you will get frustrated with that but just take it in your stride. If you have a bad day, have a good cry and then treat yourself to some tasty food and a bit of chocolate if that’s your thing. That always helped me!

You’ve got this and remember nothing is too silly or stupid to put on this group we all know what you are going through, so never worry about what you post on here. This group helped me so much when I was going through it.

You’ve got this, wishing you all the best of luck with your journey ❤️🥰xx

[Walton776]

Thank you so so much for this. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and so nice to know people have the same ups and downs as me. I honestly don’t know what I would have done without this group! Wishing you all the best in your pregnancy, you deserve it xxx

[jengi]

Oh lovely, absolutely not, you deserved the pizza! I hope you enjoyed it at the time. Now release yourself from the guilt, it’s not worth it. Best of luck. What will be will be, there is nothing you can do to change the outcome. Stay positive, keep your mind busy, be kind to yourself and most importantly don’t allow the guilt to creep in. Big hugs Xx

[London_Lady1]

Pls don't worry! Avoid lifting and strenuous workouts. But having a takeaway with hubby means you had a lovely and relaxed evening. So surely that's a good thing for implantation. I know it's so difficult but try not to overthink things. Distractions (like lovely evenings with hubby) are going yo be the best way to get through the 2ww. Wishing you lots of luck xx