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Sorry for the upset of my last post was not ment to upset anyone after ur complaints it’s now been taken down sorry again x

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Kelz2020

What upset? X

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Pinkpaw2 in reply to Kelz2020

Admin messaged me say she had reports my post was to upsetting to some lady’s as the covid 19 holding them back of having their dreams come true it wasn’t ment to upset anyone just a post that I had heard my baby’s heartbeat as I brought myself a Doppler to put my mind at rest that baby was ok due to symptoms stopping x

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Pinkpaw2

Now I dare to post anymore news from now on as I didn’t intent to hurt anyone and Won’t again x

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Kelz2020 in reply to Pinkpaw2

You didn’t know. You innocently posted with the best intent and not to offend. This forum is extremely sensitive because of the nature. Try not to worry, you’ve removed it now and it’s forgotten. Please don’t let this hang over you xx

in reply to Pinkpaw2

congrats on your pregnancy that is lovely news. I can see it from both sides- fighting infertility is tough even more so with COVID19 thrown into the mix of uncertainty- being pregnant after a painful journey is also very difficult - I was lucky enough to become pregnant with my daughter ( whose 11 months) after a long 7 year struggle I wanted to enjoy the pregnancy instead I spent the entire pregnancy worrying.

I would say not to relay too heavily on a Doppler as some women have & haven’t sought advice or help from their midwife thinking all was okay coz of the Doppler. One women who lost a baby tried to get the sales of home Dopplers banned unless you are medically trained you can get it wrong. That put me off getting one. I do understand the need for reassurance but do be careful.

There are some sites successful ladies have progressed to from here- NCT & Baby & Us where you can get all the support you need & share your pregnancy journey with us we would love to be part of it.

Please don’t feel bad tho you won’t trying to upset anyone & all the best with your pregnancy xxx

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KiboXX

Hi Pinkpaw2,

Don’t feel bad, you weren’t intentionally trying to upset anyone.

As this forum is for fertility and is mostly IVF support, I would recommend using either the NCT or Baby and Us forum for pregnancy related questions or posts x

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Sorax

Don’t feel bad at all a lot of woman on here are worrying after what they’ve been through you was just saying something that helps that’s all. Don’t be upset 🤗😊💖

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Ranchu90

Don’t feel bad at all. My cycle also been cancelled due to Covid 19 just before my stimulation but I feel good when I am reading about success stories. Here you can choose which post to read or not so I don’t really understand 🤔

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Stay well, stay safe ❤️

Dont feel like that. I have heard of it and didnt feel upset by you posting it. Posts about guessing gender and stuff are more upsetting for me as most here struggle-to get pregnant and gender is last thing on the mind. X

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Cinderella5

Awww dont be sorry! I didnt see your post but personally I like to hear news like this....success stories are all we hang onto in all of this!!xxx

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ttcemmie

Hi Pinkpaw. Haven't been on today and so didn't get a chance to read/respond. Don't feel bad, but equally thank you for taking it down if it was (inadvertently) upsetting. I know you have been anxious about your pregnancy and wanted to share any good news. Glad you are feeling reassured with your doppler. xxx

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Jonesy84

Congrats on your pregnancy! It’s amazing news and enjoy it xx

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Picalilli99

Don’t feel bad Pinkpaw2! I didn’t see your post but it sounds like you put it up with the best intentions so don’t beat yourself up about it. Congratulations on your pregnancy lovely! xxxx

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Pinkpaw2

Thanks lady’s xx

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Flower5000

However tempting it is to be reassured by a hand held Doppler this really should not be done unless you’re a midwife or trained health professional. If you’re not trained you can pick up your own heart rate or a pulsating noise from the placenta. Going forward if you have any problems or reduced fetal movement in later pregnancy you must seek medical advice/help. Unfortunately the company’s that sell handheld dopplers target women who are worried and anxious. I agree with Jess1981 above advice. I am a nurse myself but not trained in use of handheld dopplers and therefore wouldn’t buy one. Sorry to be so blunt but I wouldn’t want you to be reassured incorrectly and not get trained help. Wishing you all the best for your future pregnancy.

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Pinkpaw2 in reply to Flower5000

I know the difference between mine and baby’s heartbeat not being funny but it’s up to me if I want to use one at home to rest my mind as I have no symptoms anymore and hearing the baby’s heartbeat reassures me everything is ok as my scan is not for another 2 weeks yet , yes in some cases it’s to early to use one at 9 weeks 5 days but I found it with in 5 mins and have done everyday since it’s what makes me happy 👍🏻

in reply to Flower5000

That's so negative to say if anything makes pinkpaw2 feel reassured that is better surely that is good for her and mental health... thinking of the worst is a horrible feeling negative thoughts etc..you saying it could be the placenta etc.. how must she be thinking now probably even more anxious now and I hope not.😐

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Flower5000

Don’t want to get into an argument with you ladies because people have been known in the past not to seek advice because they have used a Doppler at home. This is the medical advice re dopplers, I’m not suggesting for a minute that there is anything wrong but if it was used incorrectly in the future it could have devastating results. There has already been a negative impact nationally with ladies not seeking medical help with reduced fetal movement etc, I think mainly because people are scared due to covid. I’m not being negative, just reinforcing they can be used incorrectly so shouldn’t be used in replacement of medical advice/help!

I understand that. If it was me and excited I would want to hold on to that hope and for no one to comment anything negative because it's not exactly positive and ruins it.. Then if it were to be bad news then take it from there.. that would be on me my choice that is how I see it and will all ways be like that with my future transfers.. not like my last one should of just enjoyed it whilst it was there...

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Flower5000 in reply to

It’s so difficult when it is a public forum and anyone could read the post. I would hate for someone to read this post and use a Doppler instead of getting medical advice. It’s so sad that ladies haven’t been seeking help because of covid. It’s a difficult journey, wishing you all the best for the future.

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Hope4040

It’s so hard knowing what you can and can’t post. I’m very aware of people’s feelings. It’s now made me feel I shouldn’t post anything too. It’s frustrating because we’ve also been on this incredibly difficult journey and suffered losses.

I always thought it would help to show others it is possible and to not give up hope!

Please don’t beat yourself up about it. I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong x

in reply to Hope4040

Could not agree more xx

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