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Hi Ladies, happy Friday

So it's been 8 days since my FET of a 5 day beautiful embryo (natural cycle) and I have been having all sorts of symptoms from day 3. Today i woke up with swollen face, headache, pains in my ovaries, 100% PMS symptoms which i get right before my period starts. My period is due on 09.03 and test date is 10.10. I am super scared and i can't take it anymore! I check my panties every 20-30 mins. This is the hardest time in my life. I try to have positive thoughts but it's impossible. I was determined to wait for my test date but i don'y know if I have to anymore.

I see pregnant women everywhere and i always ask myself if they realize how luck they are? Do they?

Help!

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Luna_79

Oh honey, don’t know what to say to you other then you’re not alone, it’s so so hard but hang in there, don’t test early. Why not do something nice for yourself, if there someone you can go for a coffee with? Decaff of course!!! 🙄 or take a walk in this beautiful sunshine - you’re still in the game, your body will be going through all kind of things, don’t read to much into anything. Just go and do something nice for yourself , sending you lots of hugs and 💕💕💕💕💕 x

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Bubunoto in reply to Luna_79

Hi Fozzy, that's a good idea, but i am at work today. I might go for a walk around the river in my lunch break though. I will not test early. I will not!

Thank you for your kind words!

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Luna_79 in reply to Bubunoto

A walk by the river sounds perfect especially with this sunshine 😊 x

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Bubunoto. It's the hardest time we ever have to go through, and you have certainly fallen into the "knicker watching" trap! Bless you, hopefully all is well, but you need to distract yourself if you can. We can't get away from bumps and pushchairs, but perhaps you could get a friend to pop round and have a cuppa/coffee with you. Hormones do awful things to our body, so try not to get too stressed. Not too long to wait until test day. Thinking of you. Diane

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Bubunoto in reply to DianeArnold

Hey Diane, i have never heard about the "knicker watching" trap but it made me smile!

I am researching some courses i could start also making plans with my BF for the weekend. Checked the forecast, Sat should be nice so we gotta take advantage.

I will be fine!

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK in reply to Bubunoto

Hi. Brilliant! Enjoy yourselves. Diane xx

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CLDxxx

Hi Bub.

Sorry you’re struggling. I know how hard it is 😔

Since joining this forum, I try and look at pregnant strangers a bit differently than I did before.

I look at them and wonder if they were once on this forum or maybe still are and perhaps had struggles as we have had and maybe they have shared their experiences with us too. It makes me feel little better.

I know this isn’t the same for people you know & believe me I don’t always feel as positive but it helps me as none of us know a strangers story.

Sending hope to you lovely. You’re not alone xxx

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Bubunoto

Thank you, CLD. I think about it too. I look at their bumps thinking of their stories, trying to imagine what they went through. I ask myself- did it happen straight away or did they have to go through hell...But i will never know. What matters is the result- healthy baby. Guess all struggles and hard moments are worth it once you hold the little one in your hands. And my bf is constantly reminding me to not compare myself to anyone else so i don't understand why i am still doing it. Its so stupid! Is it coping mechanism? Ah, never mind...

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CLDxxx in reply to Bubunoto

It’s difficult as we all compare at times! Even people who seem to have everything can be envious of someone who has less. I also think social media has a lot to answer too with this which is why I find this forum so refreshing as no one is in competition here and everyone is honest 💕

We just must focus on ourselves and our lives because comparing with others won’t change anything xxx

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Chowlady14

Ahhh Bubunoto I’m in a similar position. I had a beautiful 5 day embryo transferred on a frozen cycle on 28/02 and my OTD is a week today (13th March) I’m so mad at myself. I tested this am and it was a bfn so I’m beside myself with grief now, I feel like it’s all over. Please stay strong and wait for your test date. I don’t want you to feel like I am doing. Hang on in there you are technically pregnant until proven otherwise.... I proved myself otherwise and now I can’t even enjoy the 2ww thinking I am! Good luck huni xxxx

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Bubunoto

Hey Chow, I think its very early to test on day 7. It's almost impossible to get a positive result. Maybe you should keep testing every day until you see the 2 lines? You tested once anyway. Do you have any symptoms?

Good luck to you and let's hope for the best! We deserve it!!!!

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Chowlady14 in reply to Bubunoto

I’ve got everything crossed for us both xxx I might try testing again tomorrow as you say I’ve already tested and if it was positive that would be lovely but if we have to go through another cycle I have learnt my lesson and would definitely wait. I’ve got sore boobs but always have that before period. I’m exhausted and my head has been close to exploding the past few days with the headaches but I honestly think that’s the progesterone. This is definitely the hardest part. Do you have any symptoms? xxxx

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Bubunoto

Oh, all kinds of symptoms. Cramps since day 3, very sleepy, feeling dizzy every now and then, no energy at times, bloated, boobs were sore for a while, now they aren't painful anymore just feel hard and full. Today i woke up all swollen up with a headache, cramps, feeling like crap which is my usual PMS. So I am waiting to see what happens next...

I pretty sure it's the progesterone...

Which clinic do you go to if you don't mind me asking?

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Chowlady14 in reply to Bubunoto

They all sound positive symptoms, so hard with the progesterone though isn’t it. I’m at RHG in Daresbury. I’m really happy with the care I’ve received I just feel like my womb is uninhabitable :( are you in the UK? xxx

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Bubunoto

Yes, I am in London Women’s clinic, Harley street. They have been wonderful, now its all up to God and my body!

Have a wonderful weekend ❤️

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ttcemmie

Oh Bubunoto sorry you're feeling like this. Completely normal and awful part of this journey unfortunately. I know test date probably feels like a life time away, but it will come round. You've done really well to get this far. Your PMS symptoms could also be pregnancy symptoms as they are all really similar to each other, and I've got everything crossed for you for a positive result. xxx

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Bubunoto

Thank you soooo much, Emmie. Have a relaxing weekend :)

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Luna_79

Hi bubu hope you managed to find a little sunshine today, I work from home on fridays but I went outside and sat in the sun and felt so much better for it, hope you managed yo distract yourself and are feeling a little better xx

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Bubunoto

Hey Fozzy. I took hour and a half lunch break instead of 1h. Had a long walk around the river than sat in a park and spoke to my best friend on the phone. I feel so much better. I am on my way home and i am so thankful the week is over. The sun is such a mood changer, its crazy!

Hope things are well with you?

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