1st day of paranoia on 2ww

[tinytim_3]

Day 4 of 2ww today. 1st few days I felt ok. Was feeling a lot of twinges, crampy period-coming on type feelings and was hopeful things were happening. However, today I have started to get paranoid and doubtful this is going to work. I know it's so irrational but I worry every time I sneeze (think this has happened 3-4 times in the last few days) thinking the embryo is going to dislodge. We're told not to lift anything heavy and today accidentally lifted a 15kg parcel into the porch. Worried stupid things like that have an impact. This 2ww is a total killer! Amazing how you go from positive and happy one day because you feel things and then down the next day when you don't feel those things anymore.

Anyone have any tips for getting through 2ww without second guessing everything and being so irrational!

I know I need to try and keep the positive things in my head but it's difficult.

[Gem2410]

Hi. I’m currently on a 2ww and on day 4 too. I’ve had iui though, and on my third and final round. We then move onto ivf. I can relate to some of what you are saying. On my first round I was so paranoid about doing anything. When I came back after the Insemination I laid on the sofa all day and evening.. Sounds silly. But I thought it would help. Then I was beating myself up because after the procedure I got straight up. I was like I should have waited I’ve ruined it now, to my partner. I was questioning everything I did and had done those whole two weeks. Then every little pain I had I thought this could be implantation. I went through a whole range of emotions. Now I’m on the last round I’ve learnt to relax a bit more, and try to keep my mind busy ( I know this is easier said then done.) I do mindfulness, there’s an app called headspace that I use before bed. When things get a bit too much I go for walks, and have started colour therapy which helps me feel relaxed, and takes my mind off stuff if only for a while. I also keep busy at weekends. I go from being positive to negative really quickly and find these things make the 2ww a bit more bearable. Sorry for the essay. I wish you good luck I know how hard this 2ww is xx

[tinytim_3 in reply to Gem2410]

Thanks for the reply. Can totally identify with a lot of what you say. This is our 2nd round (3rd transfer) so this time around I have been more chilled but the 2ww is obviously a step too far! 😂

I'm back to work tomorrow so maybe the distraction will do me good.

I'm thinking I might give the meditation and colouring a go this afternoon. Been finding playing games on my phone a good tool for distraction too.

Good luck to you too! Hope it's 3rd time lucky! X

[Kiedy84]

Oh hun, it's hard but think how far you have come already, just hang there for few more days. Netflix is the best distraction for me!

The sneezes ...well, this can't hurt your baby but can hurt your ovaries!! I have reported this problem to my clinic in week 6 of my pregnancy. I sneezed in the middle of the night and felt horrible pain on the right side, since then I had twinges so they scanned me earlier and yes the ovaries were still massive! They said to be careful and when you feel it coming grab a pillow, easy to do at home but not at work. So if you feel something after sneezing it's probably your ovaries hun.

Good luck with everything xxxx

[tinytim_3 in reply to Kiedy84]

Thanks. Congrats on your pregnancy.

I just think the 2ww is the worst part of the whole process. Just feels like so much is riding on it, and if it doesn't work, you have to wait a few months to try again.

Back to work tomorrow so that'll probably help as a distraction. Think I'll try and find a nice comedy movie/boxset for this afternoon. X

[Bridget_rose]

Totally agree that distraction is the ultimate key for the 2ww! Working was weirdly the best thing I did. I have also just had a horrid cough and cold so totally sympathise with the sneezing thing! It won’t make any difference so don’t worry. I’m also a fan of meditation to help calm the worries and there are some yoga videos on YouTube designed for the 2ww. Good luck xxx

[tinytim_3 in reply to Bridget_rose]

Thanks I appreciate that. I've just done a guided meditation thing and feel a lot calmer. Might look into the yoga. I normally do a regular yoga class each week but I missed it this week because it was only 2 days after transfer and was worried about doing anything too excessive. X

[Bridget_rose in reply to tinytim_3]

I love yoga too but haven’t been to my class in weeks because it stressed me out in case it was too hard! Just did plenty walking until I found the YouTube yoga. x

[tinytim_3 in reply to Bridget_rose]

Love yoga for relaxing me but worry about doing things like plank etc at my normal class. Thinking YouTube might be a good shout at least for the next couple weeks.

What stage are you at in the process? X

[Bridget_rose in reply to tinytim_3]

Just got my BFP yesterday after blood test at the clinic. But did do a naughty HPT on Saturday so was already hoping for the best. Can’t believe it really but still convinced something will go wrong! I’ve had quite a lot of cramping all through the 2ww and so I’m paranoid about having an ectopic. This process is so tough! Think I’m going to go back to the gym tonight - missing it! But might avoid any classes because don’t want to be made to jump around too much or lie on my stomach! X

[tinytim_3 in reply to Bridget_rose]

Wow that's great news. Congrats. Was that your 1st round?

It's so hard. I just feel with IVF there's so many hurdles to get over. Even with BFP, it's the 7 wk scan then the 12wk scan...

Yeah I guess doing your own thing at the gym means u can take it easier. I guess as long as you don't overexert yourself too much. I also do salsa dancing one night a week so thinking I might just go along to it tomorrow as usual. It always cheers me up and puts me in good mood and there's no jumping about etc so should be ok. X

[Bridget_rose in reply to tinytim_3]

Yes it was my first round. Feel way too lucky and like I won’t get away with it 🙈. I try to just focus on the next hurdle or it’s all a bit overwhelming. It’s so important to do stuff that makes you feel happy and relaxed I reckon. X