Transfer the last frozen? Feeling rather negative

Hi ladies, I’ve been reading everyone’s posts and it’s a great community. Congratulations to everyone who is got their positives, it does truly give me hope but then I also think why can’t it happen to me? What’s wrong with my body? Will it ever know what pregnancy is?! 😭

I’m going for a review next week after 3 failed transfers from a single ICSI cycle back in July 2019. We still have 2 embryos frozen from the same cycle but can’t see why those last two will be any different. My clinic repeats the same medication and steps which really doesn’t help as I can’t stop myself from thinking well you do the same thing again, you get the same result! 😢 😡 I don’t know what I’m looking for exactly but maybe some reassurance that if I keep going, it could happen one day! Husband really against changing clinics cz location is convenient but I’ve lost trust in the whole team 🙈 sorry for the long rant. Thanks in advance

[ttcemmie]

I think you still have a lot of hope for becoming pregnant and have been one of the unlucky ones on your 3 transfers. I can imagine it's very difficult to stay with the same clinic with no changes to your protocol and no positives. I've heard a lot of people having luck after changing clinics, and I think I would be tempted to if my trust in my clinic had gone! There must be other clinics that aren't too far away? Different clinics have different ways of doing things, so it just might result in a positive. I think I would want some tweaks to be made or additional tests or something! I don't want to feed in to the game of selling hope and encouraging the "gambling" that goes in to it, but just to say I don't think I'd quit with 2 frozen embies banked. You can always move the frozens to another clinic. However, it depends on your circumstances and how much you can put yourself through this gruelling journey. For some, they find they can't do more than 1, and some do 10 or more! Lots of love xxx

[Hidden in reply to ttcemmie]

Thank you for your reply ttcemmie. I’m just concerned that all the embryos from that cycle are defective or something cz they keep telling me my tests are all normal 🤷‍♀️ My husband is saying we will do them last two transfers, I think the consultant said he would put the last two together and if it fails we will look for another clinic to start another cycle. I hope I get more convincing answers on my review next week and get a bit of hope.

[ttcemmie in reply to Hidden]

Even the best embryos might not implant. Unfortunately, there just seems to be a lot of "chance" and "luck" behind it (as in: the doctors don't actually know what's going on), and the longer you try the more chance you have of getting pregnant (like with usual TTC). It super sucks. But, just because the others didn't implant, doesn't mean that these won't. I know some people get their embryos genetically tested to see if they have any reason they're not getting pregnant, but even tested embryos might not implant, and also I've heard this is very expensive. Really hoping for the best for you, and yeah, hope you get some answers next week or at least some idea of the best way forward. xxxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Pinkforever. If you feel it might be of some help to you, I have a couple of lists of questions I can email you in confidence. Most won't be applicable, but there will be some you can use. You will need to email me at [e-mail] and I will send them to you. Al the best when you do try again. Diane

[Hidden in reply to DianeArnold]

I have emailed you now. Thanks 😊