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Somehow managed to delete my post from earlier!!

Did a test first thing and got a BFN. I’m a day early (OTD is tomorrow) but I think my clinic only gave me tomorrow as OTD as they didn’t want it on a Sunday. The test should be accurate by now. I’m devastated. Also relieved that I at least have a result even though it’s not the one I don’t want. The thing that keeps going round in my head is that it was all perfect. The embryo was good quality and PGS tested, it thawed perfectly and was hatching (ideal situation) and the transfer was dreamy (embryologists words). How come, if it was all so perfect, that I’m not pregnant?? The only thing left is the useless lining that I’ve got. It just can’t have implanted (obviously!). My husband keeps saying that we should wait until tomorrow but I’m not holding out much hope. Just really really sad ☹️ ☹️. It’s such a long grim wait, for this at the end of it!

Sorry for the rant.

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RhinoCat

Not a rant, just truth, and lots of your words , are mine also . 😘💐💖

My lining was excellent, the embryo A, straight forward transfer . Yet 👎🏻

Nice to have an ivf sister who GETS IT 😘

I’ll not even know if it implanted because my clinic don’t do bloods for losers 🤣🤣..... (my words not my top class clinic by the way .)

I’ve just told myself the embryo must have had something wrong with it and that’s ok 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s still not nice . I’m telling myself that Aunt Flo will be here soon getting my body ready for another go 😘 ( even tho this second I’m cursing the oul bitch 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂)

Sending you hugs of complete understanding at the annoyance of a BIG F£&@ing NASTY 😘

We will be alright in a day or two 😘😘😘🤩🤩🤩💖💖💖💖

Here if ya need me Hifer 💐

Hugs

Rhinocatx 💐

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hifer in reply toRhinoCat

Thank you🙏. Why doesn’t it work though??? If only we had the answer to that question! Do you have this bleed and then go again on your next cycle? Thank you for the much needed positivity today xx

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RhinoCat in reply tohifer

That’s what I’m hoping as I didn’t have Down reg and was just on estrogen tablets and progesterone gels. But I’ll have to wait and see what the clinic says. We only had that one embryo so it’s right back to the start for us .... 😩 but sure, it is what it is 😘 what’s your next step?

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hifer in reply toRhinoCat

We’ve got one more in the chiller and then not sure. I really didn’t get on very well with my last EC so we might be on to DE. Not sure yet. We have a next step so we’ll focus on that for now. Fingers crossed you can move on speedily to the next step. It’s all the flippin waiting in between that’s such a stress 🤯xx

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CLDxxx

I’m so sorry to read this Hifer 😔 it must be so upsetting when you know all was perfect.

Do you know what your lining was?

Rant all you like! Be angry, upset and maybe angry again & in the meantime know you did all you could for this to work!! Make sure you look after you and have some lovely treats whatever they may be.

Sending love 😘xxx

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hifer in reply toCLDxxx

Thank you 🙏. It was 6.8 which is the best I’ve had to date! It stayed the same and at least didn’t decrease like my cancelled cycle! I don’t know what else I can do for it!! Xx

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CLDxxx in reply tohifer

That’s not too far off 7 is it as obviously people measure differently too which makes it tricky. And you had the triple layer?

If you can, do a trial run without meds and pay for a scan (not necessarily at your clinic) just after ovulation just to see how your lining reacts xxx

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hifer in reply toCLDxxx

Yes I had the triple layer. I did a monitoring cycle last year at my clinic. Although it did increase, it didn’t increase as much as it would/ did on meds for this round. We’ve discussed doing a natural cycle with our consultant in the past and he’s open to discussing it further so we’ll see xx

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CLDxxx in reply tohifer

Ahh I see. You will get there lovely. I hope you get some answers 😘

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hifer in reply toCLDxxx

Thank you 🤗. We very much hope so 🤞🤞x

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Cinderella5

Sorry to hear this hifer! Its absolutely crap to see that negative but I know what you mean about having some kind of result. I just think its shitty luck!! I did a 7dp5dt yesterday & also negative. Sending love & hugs.xxx

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hifer in reply toCinderella5

Thank you 😘. It really is such a stark white space of nothingness on the pregnancy test! Surely you’re still in with a really good chance at only 7dp5dt? Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞xx

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Cinderella5 in reply tohifer

Thank you! I have had a late positive before but realistically I think I'm out! Really had hoped for this transfer but what will be will be!!xx

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hifer in reply toCinderella5

Oh honey. I’m still keeping everything crossed for you just in case. I had high hopes for this transfer too. Just sucks. When is OTD for you? Xx

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Cinderella5 in reply tohifer

It really does suck. I was so sure I was gonna turn over that stick and see some good news...not because I felt pregnant but just thought "surely this time". OTD for me is day 12, 13th Feb....the day lost our baby spontaneously last year...you couldn't make it up eh?!😩 Thank you for your kind words. Hope you're gonna treat yourselves to something nice now before you regroup!xxx

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hifer in reply toCinderella5

Oh god you really couldn’t make it up. You poor thing!! I really hope things turn around for you this time. Sending loads of love 💓 xx

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Justus1 in reply toCinderella5

Mine too 🙏🙏🙏🙏

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RhinoCat in reply toCinderella5

😣🥺....Maybe it’s a bit early tho ? What your OTD ?

💐💖

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Cinderella5 in reply toRhinoCat

Yeah perhaps a bit early RhinoCat! We'll see, what will be will be! I really hope I'm an advert for staying away from early testing however I do know that late implanter dont have great stats of making it either!! Hope you've had a we glass of wine and some treats by now.xxx

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Picalilli99 in reply toCinderella5

Hold on in there Cinderella! Sending all my positive sticky vibes your way 🍀🤞🙏. We are ALL rooting for you ❤️ Xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply toPicalilli99

Thanks lovely! I would love to be that one that proves everyone wrong but I think its unlikely now!! Hope you're holding up ok!xxx

I’m sorry Hifer 😢that sucks big time!!!! 🙈

What pisses me off of IVF is that there are so many questions left unanswered of why things happen the way they do. Although as my husband said to me once after a failed cycle, it’s a learning process. With every failure comes learning and with learning the medical team can tweak the process until IT WORKS.

Because it does work ❤️I know it’s hard to believe, especially now!

The important thing is to never give up.

I’m rooting for you ❤️🍀🤞🏻

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hifer in reply to

Your husband is a very wise man! He sound like he has the same positivity as mine although I don’t share it at the mo! Thanks for the support, it is much appreciated xx

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RhinoCat in reply tohifer

My husband said this ☝️ yesterday and all I heard was .... bla bla bla! 🤣

It’s ok to think this way for a day or two. You’ll agree with him soon 😘💖💐💐💐

Ps I already agree with my husband but I’ll not be telling him that for a day or two 🤣🤣🤣🤣😘

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hifer in reply toRhinoCat

Hahahaha.

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hifer in reply toRhinoCat

Yes I think I will. I’ve had so many set backs and know that when I get a negative result I just need some time to process and then can hopefully move on, like you. 🤞🤞

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Dogpark

Hi hifer

Sorry to read this, do keep on taking all your meds until tomorrow.

PGS embryos don't implant for 2 reasons:

-There remain things that we can't test about embryos and that we don't know about

-You should make sure your environment is as good as possible. Have you done an ERA test, have you checked your probiotics etc?

-I was recently diagnosed with HPV and I was wondering if this could play a role too for instance

Basically many things can go wrong even with PGS tested embryos.

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hifer in reply toDogpark

Thanks. I want to have a blood test done at my clinic (just to be sure) so I might have to keep taking the meds until Wednesday as I’m away for the weekend!! I can’t believe the news until it’s confirmed by bloods. Sad I know. I’ve not had an ERA test, no. I’ve been pregnant before (although lost it between 7-9 weeks), would I still need to take it? 🙏x

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Dogpark in reply tohifer

Yes I would try and test as many things as you can before transferring your next embryo if I were you. Several tests can be done at the same time as ERA and can help prevent some chemicals or early miscarriages as well.

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aamiller405

I'm so sorry.. Such a disappointing feeling.. Take care of yourself xox

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hifer in reply toaamiller405

It really is!! Thank you xx

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Solly-44

I’m sorry love, I hope you get some answers at your follow up xx

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hifer in reply toSolly-44

Thank you lovely x

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ttcemmie

So sorry to hear this Hifer. The "why" eats me up inside as well. And all the answers I get back are "chromosomal abnormalities" or "luck" which isn't helpful, and just not fair. I must say more than once a week "how have humans survived as a species?" because it's seems so bloody difficult to have a baby! Sometimes it feels like IVF is barely even a science when it's still just luck of the draw. I'm still holding out for a positive result for you tomorrow, but can understand how devastating this is. Lots of love. xxx

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hifer in reply tottcemmie

I know. It’s so bloody hard to have a baby!!! I agree it doesn’t seem like a science especially when it doesn’t flippin’ work! Thanks for your positivity for tomorrow that’s much appreciated 🤗xx

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KiboXX in reply tottcemmie

I honestly could not think of anything better to say so I’ll just second this post ⬆️ I’m so sorry Hifer xx

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hifer in reply toKiboXX

Thank you lovely xx

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londonrc

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this news - I was really hoping this was it for you. Unfortunately I think it’s just all down to luck- people get pregnant with worse grades embryos - do you have any left? Can I ask what meds you were on? My clinic made me take antibiotics before my transfer - I don’t know if that made a difference but it could be something to ask at your next apt. Did you have the triple layer morphology in your lining? Have you had an ERA yet? Sorry for my questions.....big hugs to you. X

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hifer in reply tolondonrc

Hey thanks for your response. We have one embryo left in the freezer so we’ll have another round. I was on Progynova and Prontogest (progesterone injections) for this round. I’ve never heard of anyone taking antibiotics before- what was the reason for that? No I’ve not had an ERA so will mention that to my consultant too when we see him. Thanks for the input xx

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londonrc in reply tohifer

No reason for the antibiotics but they do it as standard at my clinic - they do say we can have underlying infections and I suppose it can clear the decks! - just something again to mention. Take care of you and hubby. X

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Lavender96

Oh I’m so sorry Hifer! This process can really bloody suck! BFNs never get any easier and I feel your frustration with not having any answers as to why 🤯 I hope you can get some answers at your follow before you’re next go xx

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hifer in reply toLavender96

Thank you. I hope so too xx

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Picalilli99

So sorry hifer, Gettimg this news is always devastating, and perhaps even more so (and so confusing) when on paper everything looked so perfect. Really hoping your result changes tomorrow. But in the meantime I just wanted to send you a big hug 🤗 xxx

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hifer in reply toPicalilli99

Thank you so much. My husband is in denial today and I can’t work out of that’s cute or quite annoying! We’ll see tomorrow xx

Sending you hugs hifer

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Hanbee33

Hi hifer really sorry to hear this hope you’re ok. I am in the same situation tested this morning and BFN. Like you said it’s the not knowing that is the hardest part. Thinking of you 🤗😘 x x

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hifer in reply toHanbee33

Oh honey I’m so sorry!! Thinking of you too. I’m not at all happy to hear that you’re in the same situation ☹️. Are you ok lovely? Xx

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Mmmpudding

Hi Hifer I am so sorry to hear this. It is so tough and soul destroying isn’t it? While the quality of the embryo is very important, luck plays a large part too. It will be your turn next time round :). It’s my otd today and I also got a bfn. I don’t have any in the freezer so I will have to start a new cycle (with a new clinic). Are you staying with the same clinic? I Think I will use a London clinic next, three hours’ drive from where I am (Gloucestershire). Not ideal but don’t know what else to do.

I hope you are not feeling too down. Xx

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hifer in reply toMmmpudding

I know, my husband was just saying that it’s all about luck!! I’m so sorry you got a bfn too. That’s not nice for me to hear at all for you. Are you ok? Yes we will be staying with our clinic as we are actually happy with them and we like our consultant. (This is our second clinic though as we weren’t happy with the first so it’s important to find the right one for you). Are there any more in your area that you could go to that are nearer to you? Stupid question as presumably you have totally exhausted that research!! Xx

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Mmmpudding in reply tohifer

Who are you with if you don’t mind me asking? My clinic is in Bristol which is an hour away from me and it’s already the best one in the area according to my gp. There seems to be many bfn announcements today. Not a good day for the forum. But thing can only get better x

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hifer in reply toMmmpudding

London women’s clinic. I think clinics are an individual taste and need. Some seem to specialise in certain things so may be right for you etc. I did a load of research to find the right one for us. Yes sadly there have been a lot of bfn’s today 😕🥴🤯. Hopefully we all get lucky next time around xx

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Mmmpudding in reply tohifer

Yes I agree with you. It’s down to individual preference. I think I would like to try a more aggressive and tailored approach. I wish you best of luck with your FET. Xx

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hifer in reply toMmmpudding

And to you lovely and also in your search if you do decide to change clinics xx

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Stephykins25

Fingers crossed for your beta test. Mine is also tomorrow

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hifer in reply toStephykins25

Keeping everything crossed for you. We’re actually on a weekend away but we’re coming back early so I can have a blood test on Tuesday. Like you, I just want clarity. Good luck! Xx

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Stephykins25 in reply tohifer

Thank you so much. Ill keep you posted. Best of luck to you

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Stephykins25 in reply toStephykins25

Failed cycle 😔

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hifer in reply toStephykins25

Oh no!! I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s just devastating isn’t it. I’ve got my bloods this morning but know it will be failed as I got a bfn yesterday morning too. Sending you loads of love and hugs from someone who’s going through it xx

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Stephykins25 in reply tohifer

Yes it was a bad day. But thank you so much for your kind words. 💕💕

Hi, I am so sorry to hear this. This is so upsetting. I also had a pgs tested embryo transfer in Dec and did not work. I have been there and totally relate to it. Have you tried acupuncture to help thicken your lining or a natural FET? Sending you lots of good vibes. X

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hifer in reply to

Thank you. I’ve had regular fertility acupuncture in the past but stopped as it’s quite expensive. For this transfer I had a few during treatment and then a pre and post transfer treatment. Natural FET may be an option but the lining didn’t get as thick as with drugs as we did a monitoring cycle last year. It would be my preference to do a natural as my body hates drugs but I also want my lining to be as thick as possible so don’t know what to do!! So sorry for your failed cycle. It’s just so hard isn’t it?! What are your next steps? Xx

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