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A big hello from an older mum

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I am new to this so I thought I should say a big hello to everyone!

I am 41 and have just finished my first ever cycle of ivf and I’m on 5dp5dt. I haven’t experienced any major symptoms apart from a couple of pinches on my left side, each lasting no more than 30 seconds or so. Other than that I have only been feeling some cyclogest side effects including slight breast tenderness and tiredness. My OTD is not till 9th Feb, by then I will be 11dp5dt. I am trying very hard not to test early but it is proving more difficult by the day especially I keep reading someone of getting BFP 5-6 days after transfer...good luck to all fellow ivf’ers :)

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Tugsgirl

Good luck and welcome xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toTugsgirl

Thank you! X

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Charliebenj

Its so hard to resist from doing a pregnancy test, but it drives you even more crazy if you take one. Regardless wishing you lots of luck for your OTD x

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Mmmpudding in reply toCharliebenj

You are right, I might test on Friday or Saturday but not sooner x

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Tiddly1984

Best of luck 😊x

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Mmmpudding in reply toTiddly1984

Thank you x

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Yve_Do

Welcome. Hope you can hold out till Friday. 😉❤️

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Mmmpudding in reply toYve_Do

6dp5dt today and I didn’t test with fmu! A little cramping today so maybe Af is on its way ...

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Core

Good luck, I always manage not to test early just because I think I’d struggle to keep taking the meds if it was a negative and it would be hard to remember that that could be false if that makes sense?xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toCore

I totally understand what you mean, it is best to wait if we can help it xx

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hifer

Welcome and good luck. I’ve got an OTD a day after you! Also you’re not an older mum 😉, loads of people on here, including me, are your age. Xx

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Mmmpudding in reply tohifer

Thanks Hifer, I thought I was the only one in my 40s on here. How lovely to know there are many more others! Good luck with your 2ww and hope we both get a BFP! How are you feeling? X

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hifer in reply toMmmpudding

No you’re definitely not the only one, far from it! I’ve been feeling ok really until today (5dpt) but starting to fret a bit! I’ve got quite a lot planned today so that will take my mind of it. I just wish there was no symptoms at all because every time you get one and it goes you start to worry that it’s gone!! Fingers crossed for us both 🤞xx

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Mishmash12

Hi hun I've done a fresh and a fet both I tested early fresh tested day 3 fet day 4 both was positive but I tell you now once you test the worry kicks in if I can give you any advice from a lady that used to pee on a few sticks a day dont do it live in the bubble once you test there is no going back weather its positive or negative wait till test day on my fresh I had every symptom going on my fet I had no symptoms what so ever I'm now 18weeks pregnant and still no symptoms wouldn't even no I was pregnant if I hadnt done ivf.. please take it from someone that's been there wait till test day you can do this you got this sending you lots of luck and have everything crossed for you xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toMishmash12

Hello Mishmash I used to test early when I was trying naturally and it was torture, so you are right I must try hold off till OTD! I am feeling some slight cramps today but like testing , i feel bad either way (no symptoms I’m worried and I am still worried with symptoms). Good luck with your pregnancy! Is this your first? X

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Cinderella5

Hey, welcome! I'm older too at 42 and also in the 2ww. This is my 8th transfer so you'd think I'd be a pro by now....nope still googling g everything I've googled before in the 2ww!🤣🤪🤯 Wishing you lots of luck.xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toCinderella5

Thank you Cinderella. When did you have your transfer? Wow 8th transfer!!! How did the previous cycles go? I wish you the best of luck too! We all need it. X

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Cinderella5 in reply toMmmpudding

Just transferred on Saturday past, so 3dp5dt.🤪 Weve had 4xBFN, then 2xBFP which we lost both and last one another BFN. Certainly do need all the luck in the world!!xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toCinderella5

Wouldn’t it be brilliant if we all get our BFP this time round x

Welcome! I am 42 (43 in March) so you are a young whippersnapper in comparison!

Well done for holding off testing, I have never got a BFP before 8dp5det and it really achieves nothing because if its negative you get really down and if its positive you panic every day from there that its still positive and not a chemical - so ignorance is bliss although ruddy hard!

(we all know my next round I will be testing every day haha)

Masses of luck! xx

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Mmmpudding in reply to

Very true Daisy, ignorance is bliss, I am having a day off and am spoiling myself at home with all the food that I love! I will be back on my diet next week after my OTD! Are you currently on your 2ww? X

in reply toMmmpudding

Haha sounds like a plan! My nurses always say treat yourself during IVF - you have to sacrifice so much and go through so much you should do what you fancy doing and give yourself little rewards!

No 2ww yet - am about to start my 4th round - hopefully when AF arrives - she is due in about 2 weeks

Masses of luck! x

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Mmmpudding in reply to

Good luck with your next round. Keep us updated! X

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LittleMermaid1

Wishing you lots of luck from a fellow older mum to be!!

The 2ww is so hard but will keep my fingers crossed for your BFP ❤️

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Mmmpudding in reply toLittleMermaid1

Thank you Mermaid! Are you on your 2ww too? X

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LittleMermaid1 in reply toMmmpudding

I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant with twins!! So there is plenty of hope for us older mums ❤️ xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toLittleMermaid1

Wow many congratulations. I would love to have twins. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, not long now xxx

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LittleMermaid1 in reply toMmmpudding

Thank you ❤️ It’s not been an easy journey and we still pray every day that these 2 little ones arrive safe and well.

I hope you’re 2ww doesn’t drag out 2 long and look forward to following your amazing journey xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toLittleMermaid1

To be honest I am not too optimistic but I try to enjoy the next few days before otd. X

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Winter_Girl

Best of luck to you! The 2ww is crazy time but just keep yourself busy and test day will soon be here xx

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Mmmpudding in reply toWinter_Girl

Thanks, I keep myself busy by eating all the junk food that I don’t usually allow myself to have ;) xx

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Winter_Girl in reply toMmmpudding

Haha! Whatever you need to do to keep your mind occupied! 😂 xx

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