Need a ray of hope

[Saira134]

Hi guys, just a snapshot of what’s going on I had an issue with irregular periods to which i went to a gynae specialist they said I should go on the pill to regulate - and my amh was less than 0.2 and I’m 29 - advice was to try to get pregnant ASAP or look to freeze eggs nothing alarming they said. A year later I went to a private fertility clinic they said my amh is really low but fsh isn’t high so we will try to get some eggs but may not work. Fast forward I was on high doses bemfola for 12 days not much response from my ovaries so they stopped and basically said Ive got signs of early menopause and I won’t be able to ever carry a child .. been in tears since yesterday as being south Asian if you can’t have kids your basically a write off. Any experiences I’m not sure if I should get a second opinion or maybe there may be other hormone therapy I could go on to have a better result ? Has anyone had this sort of issue I just feel really helpless and don’t know what to do

[Tiddly1984]

Oh Saira so sorry to hear that. I can imagine that hearing that you’re showing signs of early menopause can be a very difficult thing to be told and harder to accept, but please don’t give up hope. I would definitely get a second opinion. It’s too big an issue not to be absolutely certain about and even then there’s been cases where women have been told similar and have gone on to have successful pregnancies. I would seek another opinion, keep in mind the advice given even if it’s not favourable so that you can manage your expectations, but look at other treatments available so that you can feel assured that you’ve exhausted every option. I have no knowledge of the treatments available but wishing you the best...x

[Saira134 in reply to Tiddly1984]

Thank you - I will look into it I’m

One of those ppl who will try everything.. I just feel like everything bad always tends to happen to me thank you for your kind words

[Tiddly1984 in reply to Saira134]

I completely understand your feelings but life and our bodies are complex things so give yourself time to think about next steps and then explore your options...x

[Aisha12]

Hi Saira,

Please don’t think you’re out. Definitely get a second, third and even fourth opinion. If your body hasn’t responded well to the drugs they gave you, then they should be suggesting maybe switching up protocols and trying alternatives. People with normal amh sometimes don’t respond well to drugs either, so they switch up meds.

I completely understand the pressure to have a child being from a south Asian family myself. It’s not only immediate family that have things to say, but extended family too, and it makes this journey all the more difficult. Just focus on yourself, and try and ignore comments etc. that you might be getting. Don’t give up, and think positive.

Also, have you looked at taking DHEA supplements? I don’t know much about it myself, but I’ve seen it being mentioned on this forum quite a bit. It apparently helps with diminished ovarian reserve and egg quality. There’s a lot of other things that people take and try that potentially might help. Worth researching.

Wishing you all the best, and praying things work out for you x