My neighbours pregnant.

[Rainbowhope]

So my neighbour knocked up to drop an Amazon parcel. I politely asked how her recent holiday went and she said she was well and pregnant. I thanked her and hastily shut the door. Then I cried. I live in a new build and I became worried that I will hear her baby through the walls. Even just seeing the baby around will probably be hard.

I started my prostrap injection yesterday. Hoping I will have a baby soon too but somehow it feels more unlikely now.

Life just feels like one big struggle.

[Missy_22]

I know this pain so well. When I lost my first little girl at 23 weeks my next door neighbour gave birth to a little girl two days later. I went home and heard her baby crying. Seeing her was bad too. Some how I got the strength to carry on and we did move house six months later!

Be strong and let’s hope this is your time xxx

[Rainbowhope in reply to Missy_22]

Omg this is worse than my situation. I'm so sorry to learn about your pain. I try to be strong everyday but I know my hope is slowly eroding. This is so crule. It's shock my faith in every way. I just wanna give in to the darkness and hate the world and accept I'm a failure in every respect. I'm holding on.....for now.

[Missy_22 in reply to Rainbowhope]

I know so many of us our struggling and it’s not fair! But we have to keep on going xxx

[Solly-44]

Oh lovely, I feel you!

My neighbours were blasting out music the day we found out my first cycle had failed. She knocked the door the next day to apologise if they’d been loud, and say they were celebrating her pregnancy. I’m having my 3rd transfer soon and what do you know, her due date is my OTD! 😂🤦‍♀️

Usually, seeing pregnant women doesn’t upset me in any way, but I’ve got to be honest, this one I’m struggling with a bit. Our walls are paper thin and we share a garden (which has been full of tiny babygros drying lately in preparation!).

No advice but sending hugs and luck for your cycle xx

[Rainbowhope in reply to Solly-44]

Seeing pregnant women for me is harder than seeing babies. I'm so shocked that so many others ate experiencing something so similar. Somehow I always think it's just me. Comforting to know others are fighting the same good fight. Best of luck for the next tarnsfer

[aamiller405]

hi..aw that's a tough one when its so close to home but whenever I heard someones news now I try to think.. "im so happy that lady doesn't have to go through the same struggles as me"..cause I wouldn't wish this journey on anyone.. good luck with your cycle xox

[Solly-44 in reply to aamiller405]

Yeah I think that’s a really good way of looking at it.

A friend of ours announced their pregnancy last year and said she’d caught the first month they tried. Her partner later mentioned to me that they’d been trying for ages and were due to start investigations. People chose to share differently I guess, and no one really knows another persons struggle (or ease as it may be) x

[Rainbowhope in reply to aamiller405]

That is a beautiful way to look at it. Yes I agree. Yes, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It kills me a little everyday.

[aamiller405 in reply to Rainbowhope]

I know it's just awful.. Hope you have a happy ending soon xo

[Sunshineraye]

I’ve lived where I am for 3 years in a new build and my neighbour had a newborn when we moved in and then another straight away and now another on the way. They ain’t stopping until they get a girl apparently. It’s so hard x

[Rainbowhope in reply to Sunshineraye]

So hard when people talk about just having babies like it's some easy thing. I even get sad when I see those teenage and pregnant shows on TV. Sometimes you feel like it's just everywhere.

[Aksad123]

Hi sorry for your pain. I also lost mine. I have totally given up hope. I pray all goes well for u all.

[Rainbowhope in reply to Aksad123]

We must keep fighting for our dreams. I'm sure they will be even sweeter when they come true. Please don't give up hope. You must always try.

[jenny34]

Sending love. Ive been there. It's so hard being around others who are pregnant. Put yourself first and take care of yourself xxx

[Rainbowhope in reply to jenny34]

Thanks sweets. Yes, I think maybe being around babies I might attract it. If only it was that easy.

[Sjr1988]

I remember this feeling well, me and my sister fell pregnant at the same time with same due date, she m/c at 6 weeks and stopped talking to me as hers was planned mine wasn't..... she then went on to falling pregnant again a few weeks later, I then went on to have a stillborn little boy at 33 weeks and my sister was pregnant with my niece! I was so excited when she arrived but I also felt gut wrenching pain that my little boy should have been there and we should have been going through it together.... 14 years later I went on to having my little boy who's now 7 months and he has made nearly all of the pain of every bit of my parenthood journey go away....

You just have to remember that every ones journey is different and your journey will take you to being a parent one way or another and you'll forget all about this pain you're in at the moment and relish in the fact you finally got your dream..... keeping my fingers crossed for you and wishing you all the happiness xx

[Rainbowhope in reply to Sjr1988]

Omg this sounds like both you and your sister had to suffer pain. I'm so glad you both have children. I can't wait when I look back on this and think it was all so long ago that it doesn't pain me anymore. Congratulations on your son. Wishing you a beautiful motherhood journey. Xxxxx