*Sensitive* I’m almost 8 weeks pregnant with my first baby

[BabyM2021]

This is an IVF pregnancy & this baby is very much wanted & loved already. I had my viability scan at my clinic last week & it was confirmed the baby is in the right place, measuring as he should & we see the heart beat.

I wake up every morning feeling so grateful. However, I also feel like I’m constantly thinking about the baby & worried of something going wrong. I’ve no reason at all to think anything will happen & haven’t had any bad pains or bleeding. I just feel like I’m driving myself mad. The scan last week did make me feel better.

Has anyone else felt like this? At what point did you relax? I know I still have a long way to go until the baby is born & would love to enjoy this special time rather than being a crazy paranoid pregnant lady. Thank you xx

[Jonesy84]

Hi lovely

Firstly congrats on your pregnancy!

For me personally the worrying never stopped. Each scan would give me the boost and then a few days later I was back to feeling worried when nothing had even changed. I had my 20 week scan nearly 3 weeks ago and I do feel more at ease after that. That could be to do with the fact I can now feel him move so I have found reassurance from that. I have paid for a couple of private scans as we had to wait a few weeks between the first one and the 12 week one. Then we had one half way between the 12 week and the 20 week so it cut the time down.

You are definitely not alone in how you feel but do try to enjoy it. All the best xxx

[BabyM2021 in reply to Jonesy84]

Thank you so much for replying. I think you are right! I honestly thought after the 1st scan I’d calm right down but just like yourself a few days later back to worrying!

Congratulations to you too. Hope everything continues to go well xx

[Running79]

Hi

Congrats! I’m 16 weeks + 3 today. I had a scan yesterday as I’m high risk due to my age mainly but also because it’s an IVF pregnancy

Today I lost my footing on the last 2/3 stairs at home, sprained my ankle and landed on my backside.

I didn’t panic but carried on, as I knew I had a midwife appointment today, luckily they needed to check the heartbeat which was 152bpm and in the right range.

I won’t really rest until our baby is here, every scan or check is another milestone to get through - I haven’t had anything since week 7 that has caused me concern but that doesn’t mean you won’t worry

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xx

[BabyM2021 in reply to Running79]

Thank you! So glad to hear your are ok after your fall.

I think you are so right & I’m going to be exactly the same. I think we have gone through so much to get to this point & I guess the extra worrying we do is to get expected!

I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well hun xx

[Running79 in reply to BabyM2021]

Thanks, and you!

I’ve now just had the indigestion and heartburn start 😢 so trying to tackle that at the moment 🤦‍♀️

It’ll be worth it all in the end xx

[PenguinBlue]

Hi, congrats on your pregnancy! It is so hard I think, particularly coming from infertility to feel like you can fully relax.

I’m 26+3, I had some relief at my 12 week scan and then felt better at my 20 week scan as all measurements were normal. I have an anterior placenta so have only felt him move in the last 3 weeks but this has also now given me reassurance. I also had a multitude of private scans between 6-12 weeks and at 16 weeks too to help ease my anxiousness.

Take each day as it comes. It don’t beat yourself up about being worried, it’s normal. Good luck for the remainder of your pregnancy xx

[BabyM2021 in reply to PenguinBlue]

Congratulations to you too! I think taking each day as it comes is literally the best I can do.

I look forward to each Saturday as that means we are another week along!

It must be so lovely to feel the movements xx

[Weareback2]

Hi i think ivf/infertility takes the excitment away from being pregnant. I couldn't relax/enjoy being pregnant until 20 week scan. All the best xx

[BabyM2021 in reply to Weareback2]

I think you are right! We have already been through a lot to get to this point & in a way it’s desperation I feel at wanting everything to plan out well! Xx

[Sukibubs]

Congratulations 🎉

I am 18 weeks pregnant now and can honestly say the worrying doesn’t stop, especially when you have been though so much to get to this point!

I have had extra monitoring as I developed OHSS so had extra scans which I was grateful for as it provided me with reassurance.

I am starting to feel more at ease now I am starting to show, but still in the back of the mind there is that worry.

Try to enjoy it, but worrying is normal for anyone.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy 🤰

[BabyM2021 in reply to Sukibubs]

Thank you for replying & congratulations to you too!

Hope everything continues to go well xxx

[Sparklylife]

I am 32 weeks tomorrow - mainly feeling really calm and happy now! And reminding myself to enjoy this pregnancy! I try to tell myself something positive every day! The feeling of calm happened towards the end of second trimester - I got a bit more energy at around 18 weeks or so. Which helped, losing it again now, with lack of sleep 😂 but will be fine! But I also have days where I am overcome with worry! Mindfulness techniques and trying to slow down has helped me a bit at those days. The worry was more at the start and it has got easier, but I still worry. I think I will even after little one is here 😂😇🥰 But at the moment I just want baby to get here safely! And I suppose some days I still find it hard to think this is really happening - because for so long it was just bad news and nothing. But I am so, so grateful too! Starting to feel movements does help. But I still built up scanxiety in the week before every scan, but then I feel great after the scan! So be kind to yourself - I think it is pretty normal 🧡 Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy - and congratulations 🥰

[ToughCOOKIE78 in reply to Sparklylife]

Hey hun! Totally sharing your feelings, 33 weeks tomorrow and counting! Can’t wait for our baby girl to be here 🌸😍💪🏻We can do this! Xx

[BabyM2021 in reply to Sparklylife]

Congratulations & how exciting! Not long now 🙂

Thank you, that is some really useful advice. I totally agree on the scanxiety! I’ve booked another scan for 10+1 and I already feel nervous but praying when I come out of their I’ll get some relief & calmness just like when I came out of my 1st scan at 6+2.

xx

[courage2021]

Congratulations .. the worry doesn't go away . however the excitement balances it all out . I am 19 weeks now and I still worry. Enjoy your pregnancy

[BabyM2021 in reply to courage2021]

Congratulations! Thank you! It’s nice to know in a way it isn’t just me xx

[saraht23]

Firstly congratulations!

I also feel like this all the time. I’m just coming up to 8 weeks now. My clinic pulled my viability scan forwards as I was convinced something was going wrong after having an MMC on my last cycle, but all fine.

Hubby wasn’t allowed to my clinic scan so we booked a private one for this Saturday (thinking it was before my clinic one). Even though I only had a scan on Tuesday I’m already panicking that something will be wrong tomorrow. Welcome to the world of pregnancy and the irrational thoughts it brings I guess haha

[BabyM2021 in reply to saraht23]

Thank you for replying & congratulations to you too!

It’s mad they didn’t let your husband in, it’s so much harder not having them with you.

Really glad to hear that everything was good & I’m really sorry to hear you had a MMC, that must have been awful.

May I please ask, what made you think that something was going wrong this time?

Totally get you on the irrational thoughts 🙈 xxx

[saraht23 in reply to BabyM2021]

I had a couple of days where my nausea was really bad, then that seemed to fade, so I was concerned my symptoms were going away. It seems it just fluctuates with me quite a bit though and nothing to worry about. Silly me consulted Dr Google and that was where the worry started. I think because of what we went through the last time with no symptoms to suggest any problems, I now read into every little thing far too much x

[KateBrian]

Just thought it might be helpful to know that we have a group for those who are pregnant after fertility issues because we recognise that people often have additional anxieties.

The group meets monthly online (the next meeting is on Monday early evening) and we also have a closed Facebook group.

You can find the Facebook group here - facebook.com/groups/Pregnan... - and you can email me [e-mail] if you would like to know more about the meetings.

[BabyM2021 in reply to KateBrian]

Hi Kate, thank you very much. I’ll look into joining the group now 🙂

[MomaJoni]

Congratulations, it's going to take you a while for it to sink in because when trying to conceive, you learn to expect the worst, and right now, you've reached where you wanted to be for a long time. The worry is sometimes good because it makes you more self aware but try to relax, and enjoy it

[BabyM2021 in reply to MomaJoni]

I think you are right & it’s like we have this irrational fear of everything plus this being my first pregnancy I have nothing to compare it to so reply on all you lovely ladies for advise xx

[PrayingforMyBaby]

Im so happg to hear at 44 you make it❤️❤️❤️❤️..im rooting for you.I really really hope i will have the luck in the world too..im currently 43 now qnd soon i wipp be 44, qnd this is really my last chance. Me and my husbqnd cried after my FET...All we do now and more faith and Hope🥰🙏.

I really admired reading your journey.

Best Regards to you❤️