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Struggling to get motivated this time 😬

Solly-44
Solly-44
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We are 3 days into a medicated FET cycle and as the title says, I’m really struggling to get my head into it.

Our first cycle failed about 7 weeks ago and I was not in a good way afterwards so think I’m probably still processing that. We went for our follow up appointment last week expecting them to say we could start again in about 6 months time, but came out a bit shell shocked as he said we could start that day.

Obviously we had the choice to defer but it took us 2 years from referral to completing cycle 1 so I feel like we need to crack on.

First time round I got super healthy - didn’t drink for the best part of a year, ate really well and did a lot of meditation and what not. But since our cycle failed I’ve eaten badly and done a lot of drowning my sorrows in a bottle of wine! It’s tough throwing yourself back in, mentally and physically when you’re so unprepared and I’m worried I should have waited?

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Pandora2019

It’s normal to have ‘lack of motivation’ days. I did the same as you after all failed cycles - drink cocktails & wine. I’m not a huge believer in that our diets have a massive impact on our success.

Maybe look at this as a positive? As your not overthinking every little detail. Sending you lots of good luck 😘 😘

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Solly-44

Thank you, that’s such a good way of looking at it! I definitely tried to control every single thing in my last cycle and dont think it helped my reaction to it failing so maybe you’re right! Xx

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Coles2020

Understand.. I just failed my first cycle and in pieces really. I think it’s important to have time to grieve and you know when ur ready.. but I know what u mean I just want to be in the process again so that there is hope. Im nearly 40 so not got a lot of time to waste. I get the ball rolling but not gonna rush.... good luck with all and don’t let ur first fail cloud the excitement of ur next round. Fresh start. Chances are increasing every time xx

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Solly-44
Solly-44
in reply to Coles2020

I’m so sorry about your recent cycle. In the weeks afterwards all I could think about was wanting to start again straight away, so I don’t know why I’m feeling unsure now. I know this sounds so ungrateful because lots of people are waiting to start again.

But you’re so right, I’m going to try hard not let the last cycle define this one. Thanks for your lovely kind words. And same to you, when you’re ready to start again wishing you all the best xx

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Alpatchino

Good luck Solly! I hope this is your round!!! I know it is hard to get hopeful after a failure, but this is what we do! You got this!!

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Solly-44
Solly-44
in reply to Alpatchino

Ah thanks so much! Woke up feeling a lot more positive. I wanted to start again ASAP so got what I wanted, I just need to overthink things less!

I hope this is your time too! Xx

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SConnor

Hi Solly,

If your doctor thought you are prepared, you are prepared for sure. It’s not late to start eating healthy now and resume your meditation, this new cycle is a fresh start and what’s important is what you do now. Time to focus on this new opportunity, I will keep my fingers crossed for you 💙

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Solly-44
Solly-44
in reply to SConnor

Thanks for your lovely support. It’s true, they wouldn’t have let me start again yet if I wasn’t ready so here’s to fresh starts!

Wishing you all the luck wherever you may be in your journey xx

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