Second cycle

[May37]

Hi does anyone on here have any mental health illness. I've just been started back in microgynon and my clinic say I could have my second cycle anytime from mid June, but I feel OK emotionally but a bit all over the place mentally. But there's part of me that just thinks go for it, there is no perfect time. Any thoughts?

[haileyp85]

My first transfer failed last week . I’ve been very emotional since . They have asked me to prepare for the next transfer, I’ve decided to put it off for a couple of months because I’m not in the right place . I think if your not ready it’s not going to hurt to wait a month or two until your feeling ready and better in yourself

[EmGLA]

I know this whole process can put such a strain on your mental health on top of usual life stresses. Delaying is definitely something to condider, I could have started my first cycle in April but I've delayed until July after speaking to the clinic and my OH. I'm using the few months to help me get other life stuff sorted so I can focus on the IVF cycle and try and get in the best shape (mentally and physically) for it. My clinic offers counselling, I think most do so you could enquire about that if you thought it would help? I have a few mindfulness apps on my phone, one is specifically for IVF and I use them if I feel I'm starting to struggle.

I'm happy to chat about this if you feel it will help. I hope you are able to come to a decision soon and best of luck with your cycle when it starts

xxx

[May37 in reply to EmGLA]

Hi Emma Thanks but I'm in my 40s so even though donor eggs I can't hang around too much. I was probably looking at maybe 8th July so that gives me time to prepare. My clinic is abroad, it doesnt offer counselling

[EmGLA in reply to May37]

Hello

Coincidentally the 8th of July is also the day I start. Could you ask the clinic, as they will be aware of your precise circumstances if they think a July start would affect your chances? That way it could put your mind at rest or focus you on an earlier date?

As for the counselling aspect if you thought it would be beneficial to you could you access it locally? Basically I think whatever you would usually do to de-stress you should try; accupuncture, exercise, yoga, going out with OH, friends. Or saying to someone close to you that you are struggling and you want to have a proper conversation about how you are feeling.

I hope you are ok.

xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to May37]

Hi May. You might like to contact the British Infertility Counselling Association on bica.net

They are a charity that deal just with fertility problems. There is a charge, but not extortionate. Good luck! Diane