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Anxious about starting second cycle

Hi all. We have an appointment next week to discuss having a second attempt and now starting to get anxious about it all. I thought it would be easier this time around but I think knowing what to expect and all the things that can go wrong isn't helping. Also this time we'll be self funding and it's an awful lot of money especially as we need Icsi due to husband having azoospermia. If this doesn't work I don't think we can afford to do it again so it's an additional concern. Last time everything went perfectly and we had one top quality blastocyst transfered but resulted in a BFN. We had one frozen but it sadly it didn't survive the thaw. At the follow up appointment the consultant said there was no reason why it shouldn't have worked we were just unlucky. Am trying to stay positive but finding it hard. I'm hoping the appointment next week will help so we know when we can start and whether there will be any changes to medication etc. After the failed FET I have some medication left over so Im hoping this may slightly reduce the cost?

If anyone has any advice that would be appreciated. Thanks xx

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Left over medicine may well reduce the cost. I definitely think you feel more apprehensive after a failed round, it’s normal. I wish you good luck this time, it sounds like your chances are good xx

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Hello Lise-68.

I completely understand your worries. I had ivf in 2013 we were very blessed our first cycle worked.

We went back to see our consultant a few months ago about doing another cycle. After I was very anxious and worried about doing it again even though we have frozen embryos so would be exactly the same as last time. After we had our consultation I was very anxious and worried about doing another cycle I think I had blocked out the whole process from having it the first time to going through it again.

Again I thought it would be easier knowing what to expect this time around but I’m more daunted than I was the first time.

Your not alone

All the best

Jo x

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We had a pack of Menopur left over which reduced our costs for next round slightly. Just make sure it’s been stored correctly during the time you’ve had it xx

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Hi Lise

I just wanted to say you really aren’t alone, we are in a similar position having had our first (and only) NHS round in October which resulted in a BFN with no Frosties.

I was devastated and all hope I had has been squashed but while I was going through treatment I just remember feeling positive for doing something.

We’ve now just started round 2 (the expense was hard to swallow but once we made the decision I’ve just tried to put it to the back of my mind) and I don’t feel anywhere near as excited as I did the first time. In fact I feel almost numb to it all in a way, but I am trying to remind myself that by giving it a go have to be one step closer to our dream.

I’m sorry I have no real answers for you and everyone feels differently but I hope just knowing others are going through the same process helps somehow.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do and I hope your appointment next week helps, my follow up to our first round really helped me xxx

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Thanks for your reply and wishing you lots of luck with your second round. Definitely helps knowing there are others in same boat thanks x

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We've just been given the dates for our second round... following our (very first ever) BFP which we then miscarried early on with our first round.

I thought I'd be less apprehensive about the second round, I thought knowing what to expect would help with the anxieties....but I think I'm more anxious if anything. I feel there's more at stake...which is ridiculous and irrational... but it's just how i feel!

Sorry.... that hasn't helped you at all. Just know that you aren't alone in feeling this way x

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Hi, thanks for replying. I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. Thats exactly how I feel about starting again that has helped to know I'm not alone so thanks. When are you due to start your second round? Xx

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I have to have prostap first (due to endometriosis) which puts me into early menopause for 3 months before I start. So having that 2 weeks today and have got my dates for baseline scan 20th April. Not sure if the 3 month build up is useful or gives me more time to worry! (I am a natural worrier anyway).

Do hope your consultation gives you some reassurance xx

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Oh right, yes I am a natural worrier too, all the waiting around for appointments doesn't help does it! Thanks think we'll feel better after appointment next Thursday once we know what's happening, it just seems to be taking ages to get here! Good luck for your appointments Xx

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Going abroad would reduce the cost of you would consider that.

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