FET - body rejecting embryos?

[Monsoon_rain]

Hi everyone

I always read this forum as I find it so useful and at times comfortin but I never have posted anything until today

I am currently 45 years old and trying to have a baby with my partner who is 36. I finally found the love of my life but babies are not happening.

Given my age and after some testing, I was told donor eggs were the only option. We went to Spain to a very reputable clinic near where my mother lives.

I had a fresh embryo transfer in March which unfortunately did not work and I had a frozen embryo transfer last week, currently 10dp6dt.

First transfer I just knew it had not worked even though I resisted testing ahead of beta and this time stupidly decided to test ahead of my beta on Friday and it was bfn not even a faint second line, i have tested each day same result

i don't get my hopes up, I just haven't felt anything in the last week and a half

I have been crying for the last 3 days about everything and anything

I so desperately want a baby but I think I have to take a break of 3-6 months to get back to a good place emotionally and physically, I feel completely spent

I don't know what else I could have done .... it gets to a point where it someone said if you howl at the moon starkers in the first of the month you will get pregnant I would do it

I had a query and I wanted to find out if anyone in this forum has had this. On my first transfer which the doctor said was difficult, I had terrible cramps and after a couple of days I noticed that a small (sorry to be crude) bit of brown tiny mucus came out

this time the feet went much better and quicker, I had no cramps but the next day after my transfer, I noticed the same another bit of light brown mucus

I really think my body is rejecting these embryos and expelling them

Has anyone had this before? I tried to tell my doctor after the first transfer but he dismissed it

If anyone has had the same I would be so grateful to hear from them

Thank you all

Baby dust to everyone x

[Hidden]

I am really sorry 😔💔 it is so hard!

About 6 hours after my Frozen embryo transfer I noticed some really light pink spotting. It stopped but got a negative result on official test date. I tried to ask my consultant about the pink blood but he shrugged it off too 😔

Sometimes these embryos simply don’t attach. I hope you get on better when you try again 🤗🥰 xxxxx

[Monsoon_rain in reply to Hidden]

Hi pandora

Yes it certainly is 💔

I know you are right, a bit like playing the lottery with all stars aligned... think I just need some time...

Thank you for your reply

Bea xxx

[Cinderella5]

Im really sorry to hear about all your BFN's. It is really hard to pick yourself up from them, Ive had 4 BFNs - 2xOE & 2xDE. I had a couple of difficult embryo transfers too and I believed that this was contributing to my failures if Im honest. I did find some research to say that your uterus can go into spasm and reject the emrbryo however, I have been on this forum for a long time and seen other ladies have painful transfers and get pregnant. I think in an ideal world an easy, painless transfer gives the best possible chance but ultimately a lot of this is down to luck whether the embryo/s take or not. I had an injection of buscopan (muscle relaxant) before my transfer this time and transfer was an absolute breeze, you could maybe ask about that for future?! We have changed something in most of my failed cycles so far and on my last one we got a BFP, sadly lost the pregnancy at 6 weeks. On last transfer I had clexane blood thinners, prednisolone (gentle steriod), intralipids & buscopan injection prior to transfer. How has your lining been for your transfers as this is a big one, are you getting a thick enough lining? Big hugs.xx

[Monsoon_rain in reply to Cinderella5]

Hi

So sorry to hear😞

Some good suggestions thank you I will certainly consider them once I get to that place to be ready to try again

You are right completely, I guess as humans we always want to know why it did not work for us and what can we do differently to make it a success😓

The lining was ok as far as I was told 9.3 the first transfer and 9.2 the second transfer ... they did hormones blood tests each time and they said levels looked very good especially the second time ....

Thank you for your reply ... feeling better xxx

[Lots8788]

So sorry to hear this. I don't have any advice but sending big hugs xx

[Debrakay1704]

It is so hard and like you said the lengths you would go to for you to have your wish. Take some time but try to stay positive we had DE and were lucky it can work, please take care. xxx