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Hey all

I haven’t posted in a while as been trying to get my mind and body in a better state as the first icsi cycle we went through resulted in a BFN. I have just had a WhatsApp message from my sister in law and it’s a scan as she is now pregnant with her third child. I’m over the moon for them but then I just burst into tears? Is that normal?

Thanks all 💖

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Jenjen84

Totally understandable so please don’t beat yourself up. It’s a rough rollercoaster of so many ups and downs that it is totally understandable to be a little upset. My friend text me the other day to say she was 4 months and like you, I am over the moon happy for her but it just brings the struggles we experience home again really..

Do you think you will go for another cycle? Xx

in reply toJenjen84

Thank you so much and yes we are trying to figure out the NHS options available to us as we paid private first time! We want to try again in June xx

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PurpleLove19

Absolutely normal!!

I can’t deal with families and babies!

My family seems to have gone baby mad all of a sudden!

Do your family know your situation or your sister in law?

My sister in law announced she was pregnant on a day we had recently starting to try. I remember being so annoyed that she got in there before me! Then it was over the top Instagram posts of bumps and then our nephew. I just used to want to scream but now she knows our situation she has seemed to have calmed slightly. I’m not going to lie I am dreading the day she announces Baby No2! But il just have to get on with it. At least I won’t have to attend her baby shower with no 2 as i had to attend her baby shower and it was one of the hardest things I had to do. It was because everyone didn’t know we were struggling to get pregnant. Xx

in reply toPurpleLove19

Thank you so much for your reply, really appreciate it xxx

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staaa88

Totally normal! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise either. Xxxx

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Dutchie_chic

Hi Elle32inz,

Yes, it is totally normal! Don't give yourself a hard time about it. My sister-in-law is currently 6 months pregnant with their second baby since we have been TTC - I cried both times I found out and since their first has been born I have struggled through all family events, it's my OH's family and I even removed myself from their family group chat after the first year as all day/every day was baby photos and videos and the conversation was 90% about the baby (which it totally should be and I completely understand why!) - it just wasn't helping me when I was struggling so much to get through every day. I feel sad it has to be like this but it's a very tough journey to go through so you have to remember to be kind to yourself. xxx

in reply toDutchie_chic

Thank you so much 😊 it is so tough but got to keep smiling xx hopefully our dreams will come true soon. Keep the faith xx

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Leesara

Totally, totally normal to feel pleased for someone else but sad for your own situation. Take things one step at a time and go easy on yourself x

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Scarlett13

It’s normal to feel sad or angry or bitter or left out as well as happy and joyous at this kind of news - you need to accept any feelings that you have xxx

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leanneski

Very Normal!! I have 12 nieces and nephews 8 of them are under 3 and I think I cried every time I found out my sisters/ sister in-laws were pregnant. And that’s not including all the tears from friends pregnancies and work colleagues! I have a sister who’s pregnant again ( no 13) and I’ve just found out my eldest niece who’s 20 is also pregnant😩 Sometimes I just want to scream at them to shut their legs and give someone else a turn 😂😂😂. Cry away my lovely!!! 😘 xxx

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murakami

Completely normal! I would even feel jealous/envious, that's human nature I guess. It even got to the point when my husband wouldn't tell me, then I would hear, oh so and so gave birth haha! Now I accept it and realise we're all different and what will be will be.

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Willow1976

I have never written a post, but just felt I had to reassure you that it is absolutely understandable. We found out 9 days ago after our 6th ivf transfer Was unsuccessful. The number of times over the last 6 years of trying and the last 3 years of ivf treatment that I have had family... friends and colleagues announce that they are expecting I have now lost count... and although you are happy for them the strength to congratulate them is hard as deep down you just want it to be you... it is only when I get home that the tears just flow.... so it is totally normal... and don’t beat yourself up... have the tears... have a little rant.. I still have to believe there is a little bit of hope left for us one day to be blessed... we have 2 day 5 embryos so when I feel stronger we are hoping...

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strong-girl

Don’t b harsh on yourself I know exactly how u feel but ur time will come try to stay positive xx

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