The two week wait

[Noah1981]

Hi folks would people recommend taking the 2 weeks off work while waiting to find out if there pregnant just mentally preparing myself for when it comes around for us although we got a way to go yet or would I be ok to continue I work in a hotel cleaning .Any teosinte would be appreciated x

[CindyWeze]

Honey, it's okay if you wanna work. I don't think there should be an issue. I just remember that emotionally, it can be quite, taxing. I decided to stay in bed. That was probably not a wise decision. You just keep thinking about it. The stress and anxiety is killing! Your call, though! Best of luck to you!

[Noah1981 in reply to CindyWeze]

Awh thank you for your reply I’m just mentally preparing myself I’m just afraid the slightest knock will scupper my chances like I said I’m not at that stage just putting the feelers out there xx

[CindyWeze in reply to Noah1981]

Best of luck, hun. There's no harm in going to work. If you wanna stay in, that's your choice, too. It's just that, the anxiety really gets to you! I hate twws, haha! Lots of baby dust for you, though. You can do this! x

[Taraa9 in reply to CindyWeze]

I agree with, Cindy. I think, it makes sense to continue working. I had a tough experience during the tww, too. It's really hard to distract yourself. I can understand if you want to stay at home, though. Find something that keeps your mind off it. Otherwise, it's going to be really tough. You can do this!!

[Noah1981 in reply to CindyWeze]

Thank you lovely xx

[Kempton]

I would recommend going back to work to keep your mind off it. But take it easy. Don't push yourself and avoid harsh chemicals if you can.

Either that, or book yourself up for two weeks seeing friends and family, and doing fun things.

It can be a long two weeks so just keep yourself distracted! All the best.

[Noah1981 in reply to Kempton]

Thank you xx

[Hidden]

Hi

Working is definitely a good distraction. Takes you back to normality for a bit x

[Noah1981 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you xx

[Militarywife7]

I hadn't really thought about the two week wait as im not that far ahead myself but I think I will personally work up until a few days before. I would say if your doing cleaning it might be helpful to inform your employer as I know it can be manually taxing at times, just to make sure your not doing anything too strenuous. Whichever you decide has to be right for you personally best wishes on your journey x

[Noah1981 in reply to Militarywife7]

Thank you like you I’m not that far ahead either I just wanted some advice for when I do get to that stage good luck to you all on your journeys xx

[Blue1986]

The first time I went back to work straight away but I was very distracted and couldn't concentrate (I'm a teacher) so it wasn't the best choice. The second time I took 5/6 days off and didn't do a thing but relax. The choice is yours I don't think it makes a difference to implantation whatever you do! I suppose it just depends on your job and how you feel. Good luck 😃

[Noah1981]

Thank you xx

[Cinderella5]

If you're doing quite physical work it might be worth considering a bit of time off as you shouldnt be bending too much or heavy lifting. I have worked and had some down time through all of my 2ww but I dont have a physical job. The only thing I would say is if you are taking time off, see if your partner or someone can keep you company as being less busy drives the mind crazy with wondering!!xx

[Noah1981 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you xx

[Kari55]

In my 2 cycles, I have taken a full week off, and the other week I worked from home. Both BFN’s. In my 3rd cycle, my transfer was on Thursday and took Friday off, then I had a weekend. Afterwards, I went back to the office and worked from home sometimes too. I got a BFP last week.

What I’m trying to say is that being off work won’t increase your chances unless you have physical job, then you obviously need to be careful. I found that I coped mentally much better being around people who had no idea what I’m going through and who were focused on work objectives. It took mins mind of the wait as I’m going crazy being at home on my own. Everyone is different though so just do what you feel is best for you. Good luck xx

[Noah1981 in reply to Kari55]

Congratulations on your BFP enjoy it it’s amazing xx

[Novice_knitter]

I chose not to work both times I was on 2ww. My reasons were that mentally I was so concerned that I’d overdo things at work from a stress point of view (I have a number of unexpected stressors in my work environment which at times can get on top of me), but also I run long clinics at work with little time to rest or get some water down me (so I was worried about keeping hydrated). I chatted it through with the counsellor at my clinic and made the decision together - and my GP was supportive about signing me off.

Im glad I did, but I made a decision in my mind that if my second time of being signed off resulted in another BFN, then I’d work the third cycle.

I kept myself busy in my 2ww - I took myself out for cake & a reading a book, I had friends who were on mat leave come & visit me & went it for lunches, I got through a couple of box sets, did home facials/pedicures, dog walking, gentle Pilates, got my guitar restrung. I had a really great 2ww - don’t get me wrong, I was well aware of my OTC coming up - but I just took care of myself & made sure I had a good time for myself (a ‘myternity leave’ if you will 😂). My mat leave friends were really jealous of all my ‘me’ time. Plus I kept well hydrated, cooked myself healthy & super tasty food - really glad I did it. I got a BFP this time (which was in Feb).

Whatever you decide will be right for you. So many people choose to work with fantastic outcomes too - I think it’s just personal - balance your work demands, physical pressures & mental health.

Good luck hun xxxx

[Noah1981 in reply to Novice_knitter]

Oh how lovely so happy to here of your bfp news enjoy your time it’s just the best feeling in the world .Thank you for your lovely response I will keep everything in mind I’ve a way to go before reaching this ooont but I’m just trying to take it all in and decide in advance my options for when that time comes .Thanks again xx

[kirstyblue]

I’d say continue as normal with working. You will need the distraction and sitting at home you will drive yourself mad.

Good luck x

[Charleexn2]

I’m wondering this too! I’m just waiting for AF before I phone to get started this cycle. I work in a psychiatric hospital on a dementia unit. As much as I would be staying away from the more ‘risky’ patients some of my patient can be unpredictable so I will be taking the two weeks off. xx

[Noah1981]

Yes think that’s a good idea taking your job description into consideration good look lovely xx loads of babie dust for us all x

[Strawberry17]

It's entirely up to you. Some women prefer the distraction of work. I took the whole two weeks off and I'm planning to quit work and take a month off for the next one. Emotionally, it was just all too much and I couldn't cope with work and IVF. I'm no where near doing round 2 and I'm still not coping too well with work. Bring on the lottery win hey!

[Noah1981 in reply to Strawberry17]

It’s a big expense isn’t it !! I hope it works first time for us cause I can’t afford it again privately and time isn’t on my side with age I’m 38 this year and my partner is even older so keeping everything crossed it’s consultation day for us on Friday x

[Strawberry17 in reply to Noah1981]

It's so expensive, it's insane. We're moving out of London to somewhere much cheaper so I can take a bit of time off, and we can still only really afford it because my husbands Nan left him a bit of money last year. Otherwise, we'd be pretty stuck. I hate how it's become a money making business I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, best of luck x

[Noah1981 in reply to Strawberry17]

Thank you I hope it works out keep us posted xx

[NatureLover78]

I am currently in my first 2ww and just over a week in. I have gone to work as normal and also coincidently had a night away planned so plenty of distractions. I definitely wouldn't have 2 weeks off work it feels long enough with the distractions, can't imagine what it would be like being at home for 2 weeks xx

[Noah1981]

Ok thank you oh I hope you get a positive such an exciting time please god 🤞🙏 x

[HollyT7]

I've tried having a week off and going to work, I wasn't successful with either however when I was off my mine was going crazy so make sure you have a good Netflix series at the ready! X