Not sure where i am anymore

[Sammy18]

Hi Ladies, sorry long post

I have not been on here since my 8 wk scan which showed I had a missed miscarriage. not sure how many weeks later i am think 5 weeks should be about 12 weeks. Anyway I chose the natural way (stupid me) nothing really has happened, I have had a bit of brown spotting, slight cramps, did a test today and it is still positive. I found out the other day that the first scan i had at the early pregnancy clinic was different to the one from the ivf clinic and there had been a development just not what they were expecting for my dates. Early pregnancy want to re-scan me as I have not had one since 22nd Oct however, I have developed huge anxiety and cannot go out in the day so I have been avoiding it due to panic attacks. Not sure what to do really, I did have counselling at the ivf clinic but this seemed to make my panic attacks worse.

I am happy to see many of you get the good news you wanted and sorry to hear about those who haven't yet got their dream.

[Waterfall2]

I am so sorry to hear this. I'm afraid I can't offer any advice. Just to hope you get answers soon and are able to find some relief to your panic attacks. Take care. Xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Sammy. So sorry to hear all this. I think it would probably be best to see your GP and get him/her to refer you to an early pregnancy unit for some help. It does seem as if you will need some help if you are definitely going to miscarry, as it has been a long time waiting. Try not to be scared, but you can’t keep waiting like this without knowing what is happening. Thinking of you. Diane

[Hidden]

Really sorry for what you are going through & agree with Diane you need to get your GP to refer you the Early pregnancy unit to see what is going on. I do hope you have lots of support around you during this difficult time xoxo

[Kingsley09]

Don’t give up my daughter was trying for over 3 yrs with a couple of early miscarriages and thought it would never happen but yesterday I was holding her little girl in my arms and my daughter said I still can’t beli she is here so please fight on xxx

[Dunla]

Sammy I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It seems like such a long time to be left waiting and it is clearly taking its toll on your emotional well being. I think as Diane says I would also go to the GP and explain all of this. It must be unbearable for you. Sending you love xx

[Bridget_rose]

Hi Sammy, this sounds so hard. I have anxiety too and no wonder it has gotten hard for you with this going on. Have you got someone you can get to go with you to a GP appointment? I know I find it much harder to do these things by myself when my anxiety is bad. Sometimes one small step forward makes you feel a bit stronger too.

Thinking of you xxx

[Sammy18]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. I have been to my GP who only referred me to the early pregnancy (which I wanted to avoid, partly because they seem patronisingly too nice and I'm not in the mood for that plus I always seem to end up with someone in the waiting room who's also upset, I comfort them and they always come out with good news and I come out with bad news so I don't really want to be in that situation again) they also told me to breath and not think about it too much (great advice 🤣). My family live many miles away from me so it's difficult, my mum has offered but she looks at me with a really sad face (obviously she is just worried and sad for me) which makes me feel worse lol. OH really wants to come but I think I have pushed him into work as we are struggling without a second income, it is also difficult for him to get the time off too.

Anyway, I have the early pregnancy tomorrow so really hoping I can get out for it🤞

[TRYING2016 in reply to Sammy18]

Hello, i hope you are ok...... i had a miscarriage and haven’t really been on here since because i am still struggling. Although i read the posts i just feel empty. I was back and fourth with the early pregnancy unit and i hated it, i hated going and i didn’t have the best experience but after all the trips i miscarried naturally. I stopped going out and didn’t even want to go back to work i was started to get depressed but i forced myself to carry on because i do believe it will be my day one day, i forced myself to carry on so i could find the strength to try again. In this mega long post lol I’m just trying to say you are not alone i understand some of the feelings you are going through, take each day as it comes and start to look after yourself (go for walks, do exercise/yoga at home) go slow and I really hope you start to feel better xxxxxx

[Devj]

Hi Sammy. So sorry this is happening to you. Huge well done for going to your GP, that itself is a big hurdle - I hate my GP practice. Always feel anxious, never know who you’re going to see.

I think you’ve got to try your utmost hardest to get to the early pregnancy unit, which I know is easier said than done because of your anxiety. Once in the waiting room, keep your head down. Sounds harsh but try not to get embroiled in conversation or somebody else’s story. Concentrate on yourself and getting yourself into the scan room. I honestly think once you see what the situation is and start the process (whatever that may be) your mind will be a little clearer and you’ll be able to start moving forward. I’ll be thinking of you. Best of luck, take care of yourself xxx

[hannahding]

I am extremely sorry to hear about your MC. This must have been extremely difficult for you. Stay strong and positive. I know it's not easy but do try. I would suggest that you keep your hopes high. Just don't give up. Keep your mind busy be searching for different clinics and treatments. This will help in engaging you.