Joy short lived

[MrsAdzee]

Hi all,

So following round 1 of IVF we got our BFP only yesterday and was dated at 5 weeks.

Sadly, it seems I am already miscarrying (only once been pregnant before and it ended at 4-5 weeks). Exactly same as last time, more than just spotting and sore cramps.

What is cruel is that the clinic don’t appear to investigate recurrent m/c until you’ve had 3 consecutive. How cruel when infertility is also a factor!

😢xx

[Babyblues1]

Hi, sorry to read this 😞 I’d go and seek advice though to be sure.

Try stay positive and I wish you lots of luck it’s not sad news xxx

[Kempton]

So sorry to read this. I hope you are ok and have a support network around you. Best of luck.

[CM2011]

I am so sorry to hear this news. I can't imagine how it must feel

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this. I would push for some tests. Sending hugs xxx

[Kcrochet]

I'm so sorry, this journey can be so cruel and unfair. I hope you can get some answers soon. Take care of yourself xx

[Dunla]

I am so very sorry. Can’t imagine what you must be going through. Sending you love xx

[Tugsgirl]

I’m sorry. It’s true, the nhs won’t run tests until you’ve had three miscarriages. It’s such a shame they don’t test after two, it would have saved me a little extra heartache too. I’m sorry xx

[Cyg617]

I’m so sorry love. Do the offer PG testing?

[MrsAdzee in reply to Cyg617]

I have no idea.... I hadn’t heard of this test xx

[Cyg617 in reply to MrsAdzee]

Ok I just saw that I’m in the USA and this is the UK lol but PG testing tests the embryos to make sure the chromosomes are good. This way to help stop miscarriage which is one of the leading reasons we have them because something isn’t right and the body says this won’t happen correctly. I would ask them about getting them tested along with seeing if you test for antibodies. A good person to watch about all kids sod testing that is over there is youtube.com/user/celesteraynor She is amazing and has had every test under the sun.

[MrsAdzee in reply to Cyg617]

Thank you for the useful information x

[here-_to_get_support]

I'm so sorry x

[RR11]

So sorry, sending big hugs xx

[Bern2015]

I'm so sorry to hear this, MrsAdzee. xxx

[2018hopeful]

I'm so sorry to hear this x x

[Missy_22]

I’m so sorry to read this. You should be followed up at your clinic no matter what.

Take care and look after yourself xxx

[TerryNaples]

I’m so sorry! My prayers with you 🙏🏻

[everhopeful83]

So sorry to read this 💜xx

[TRYING2016]

Im so sorry to read this post, what a heartbreak xxxxxx

[TeenyTiny]

So so sorry to hear your news.

Heartbreaking xx

[Jonesjp]

I’m so sorry to read this hunny, sending you lots of love x x x

[AJJ123]

I’m in a similar situation. I got my bfp in October, I lost it a week later but didn’t find out until I was 7 weeks gone. I started the bleed this week.

This is my first miscarriage and I hope I don’t have another one. The only light from all of this is that I was actually able to get pregnant - ok it wasn’t a natural conception but I still conceived as did you. Whatever I needed to conceive in the first place was perfect in the first instance - unfortunately the two embryos were duds.

Maybe next time for us xx

[AJJ123 in reply to AJJ123]

This for me is two in one go.

[MrsAdzee in reply to AJJ123]

I’m so sorry, it’s just the worst xx

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry, I had experienced a chemical pregnancy last year & it was so heartbreaking. I’m really sorry you are going through this again & aren’t being supported more by your clinic.

My fertility doctor said if we had another loss he would begin & refer us for miscarriage tests - he thinks it’s too cruel to make couples suffer 3 losses. He’s a really lovely compassionate man 🙂

I would push for tests- I don’t believe it’s always “ just bad luck “ if it was just 1 maybe. Not 2 tho.

Failing that could you run some tests privately ( you shouldn’t have to)

If I was in the same situation I’d be reluctant to try again until further investigation were run.

Or could the clinic offer low dose steroids such as prednisone, low dose aspirin during your next cycle to see if they can help?

I’m on prednisone & progesterone pessaries until I’m 12 weeks pregnant- I started from a positive test . So far so good- I’m 11 weeks. I also took low dose aspirin during my cycle until a positive test & started on the steroids (I wasn’t allowed them until I was pregnant) - not sure if that made a difference or if our loss had just not been “right”.

Anything we can do to give our us the the best chance of success is worth doing.

Truly devastated for you & hope you can find answers & a way forward. Wishing you the best xoxo 😘

.

[MrsAdzee in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your detailed reply Jess. As soon as I got my BFP I asked about low dose aspirin and the clinic didn’t recommend (they stated that there is not enough evidence for them to believe it makes a difference).

The guidelines are so cruel. So I have to go through this once more (not to mention wasting another round of IVF - if it’s even successful) - I don’t know if it’s something we could appeal. I’m just devastated. The miscarriage association guidelines note that in the case of infertility, you should be investigated after 2 consecutive miscarriages. Ugh.

Hope you are keeping well! You deserve all the happiness that has come your way and I know it hasn’t been easy for you xx

[MrsAdzee in reply to Hidden]

Also Jess can I ask a silly question - is there a difference between a chemical and a miscarriage or do they both mean the same thing? Xx

[Hidden in reply to MrsAdzee]

Thank you- we all deserve our happy endings 😘

It’s not a silly question! A chemical pregnancy is a term to describe a very early pregnancy loss- it is just after when period was due so about 4/5 weeks.

I definitely think you should appeal for miscarriage testing, it does seem the clinic are not following the guidelines.

I would take low dose aspirin providing there is not a medical reason not to. Low dose aspirin can prevent miscarriage by preventing clots & provides blood flow to your uterus. xoxo

[MrsAdzee in reply to Hidden]

Its definitely something I’ll seek clarification on. I checked the NHS criteria and it does support the whole “3 consecutive” guidance. I just don’t want to put an IVF cycle to waste! Xx

[Masha111]

Im so sorry to hear your news. I hope you have a good support network and may you find solace at this difficult time. The criteria is crap and needs changing, its so unfair.

I hope you find the answers so it doesnt happen again. You have some good advice above from others. Thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs xxx

[MrsAdzee in reply to Masha111]

Thanks for your kind words Masha, life is cruel xx

[Aleelilook]

So so sorry for your loss, it is heartbreaking 😞 we were being treated privately at the time of my second miscarriage and opted to pay for a biopsy, however as everything is so bloody expensive I also went to my GP, I explained about the IVF, and said that I needed all the help I could get! At that point he referred me to the miscarriage clinic.

So when you are feeling able to, just go and have a chat with your GP, if their hands are really tied they might be able to just do a couple of blood tests to rule some things out 😔

But be kind to yourself lovely, you know where we all are xxx

[MrsAdzee]

Thank you so much for your kind words and so sorry you’ve had to endure this in the past too xx

[Kazz777]

Awww so sorry i have to read this 😞😞😞