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Missed miscarriage ๐Ÿ’”my heart is broken ๐Ÿ’”

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I donโ€™t know what to say or how to feel. I had no symptoms whatsoever ๐Ÿ’”

Baby stopped growing at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat.

Life is just cruel. I will never be a mummy. ๐Ÿ’”

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Mmmpudding

Awww Issy I am sooooo sooooo sorry to hear this. Take your time to grief and stay positive. You are only 39 so you still have time and you will become a mummy. I am heartbroken for you and please know that you are in my thoughts. Lots of love and big hug for you xxxxxx

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Chel91

So incredibly sorry to hear this, devastating news!! ๐Ÿ˜” My heart just breaks for you. Such a truly awful thing to experience. Sending you much love and prayers xxxx

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Francezc

Issy i am so so sorry, my heart breaks for you ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’” sending lots of heart felt hugs and I really cannot imagine the pain you are going through . It will happen for you one day โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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Core

Oh Issy I am so so sorry to read this. Life can be so cruel, no one deserves a miscarriage but after all the struggle Ivf brings it seems even crueler. You have been such a positive warrior on this site please donโ€™t think you will never be a Mum it will happen and you will be an amazing Mummy! Iโ€™m sending you a massive hug and know that Iโ€™m here if you ever want a chat or a rant xxx

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Kurstx

Iโ€™m so so sorry to hear this my heart is breaking for you ๐Ÿ’” itโ€™s the hardest news to receive I know how I felt on Friday when I received the same news ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข Iโ€™m hear for you if you need to rant or just need support we are in this and will get through this in time โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ thinking of you during this hard time ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’” xxx

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Nat246

So sorry to hear this. Life is so unfair, we are all sending hugs and love xx

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Charliebenj

Oh hun, Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. I just want you to know Iโ€™m here for you if you ever want to talk.

Thinking of you in this difficult time.

Lot of love and hugs

X

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KiboXX

Heartbroken for you ๐Ÿ’” Iโ€™m so sorry. Youโ€™re such an amazing person and you will be an incredible mum one day, donโ€™t give up Issy xxxxxxxxx

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HemBella

Oh Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this Issy. I can only imagine how you are feeling. Take time to grieve and allow yourself the space to be.

Happier times will come again xxx

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Janop79

Iโ€™m so sorry! I feel so awful for you. Life can be so cruel and unfair. It really makes no sense sometimes.

I really do hope that you get to be a mother someday. I really do!

Sending you lots of love xxx

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Tiddly1984

Oh Lord no! Issy Iโ€™m so so sorry to read this. This is really upsetting news. I canโ€™t imagine how youโ€™re feeling right now and my heart hurts for you. There really are no words, but I hope youโ€™re in warm and loving company right now and in the days to come. Life can be so cruel sometimes and this is one of those moments but I hope in time your broken heart feels better. Take some time to be kind to yourself and to process all your feelings. Today has been so unkind, but the days to come may be kinder and so donโ€™t let your heart settle on believing you wonโ€™t be a Mummy because beautiful things do happen that heal the heart. You will be a great Mum๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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Italy300618

Oh no Issy, I cant believe this, I am so so sorry, you poor thing. My heart goes out to you. Sending you so much love at this incredibly difficult time xxx

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MrsH86

Oh Issy Iโ€™m so sorry ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

I know there are no words just now that will help, but I wanted to let you know I am thinking of you and you will get through this.

Sending you a hug of strength, if you need anything please let me know โ™ฅ๏ธ x

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ttcemmie

Oh god Issy. This is absolutely the worst news, and completely unexpected. I'm so so so sorry. My heart goes out to you and there are no words that can possibly make it at all better. You will be a mum, but I know this is no comfort right now while you are going through this. This is so so unfair. Sending all my love and I am here if you need to talk. xxxxx

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Sunshine92

Iโ€™m devastated to read this ๐Ÿ˜” im so so sorry xx

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Jessy1280

I feel your pain. I truly do. I'm sorry for your loss ๐Ÿค—. Same happend to me a day before my birthday at Xmas. My first ever pregnancy. It was my 9 week scan on the tues, had seen the baby only the Friday before at epu and was discharged with all being well. By the Tues, nothing. Turns out she had full trisomy 9. I'm 39 now too and I understand the utter devastation and the fear of time running out. All I can say I try to process the loss and time to grieve. I've sought pregnancy loss counselling. Hope there's similar support near you xxx

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KayCan

Aww Issy, I can't believe I'm reading this, I'm so sad for you. I honestly can't believe it, I've no words ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

Take time to be mad, sad, angry, upset and just know that although I only know you through this forum, you most definitely do deserve to and you will be a Mummy one day. You are an amazing person ๐Ÿ’•

Much love and hugs sweetheart xxx

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Chi17

I am so so sorry to hear this, so so cruel. I have read lots of your posts and I really thought this was your time. Take care of yourself. I have been there too. It gets easier with time. Please donโ€™t lose hope for the future. Look after yourself, we are all here for you lots of hugs xx

Oh darling no๐Ÿ˜ข issy im so sorry to read this. Im praying for you to get through this hard time. Please allow yourself to grieve. Lost for words really my love ๐Ÿ’” i pray and hope you lil one continues to be your angel in the heavens and support his mommy in this hard times. Stay strong sister x

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FrancyItaly

๐Ÿ˜ž I PM you ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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Elle34Inz

Iโ€™m so so sorry my darling here for you whatever you need at all lots of love xxx be kind to yourself โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ bloody awful keep the faith though as you are such a positive, incredible human being x

Oh my.. I am just shocked ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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Kwags

I'm so sorry for you. We had a similar experience at 11 weeks and it's so devastating having that hope snatched away. I pray for healing for you and that that you regain your faith in the process.

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CLDxxx

Oh Issy ๐Ÿ˜ข Im so very sorry.

I understand how hard it is. Please take your time to grieve and talk about it as it will really help.

Thinking of you and sending you so much love ๐Ÿ’• xxxx

I am so sorry lovely - Iโ€™ve been there so I totally understand how you feel. Sending you the hugest of hugs and so much love. Take time to cry and shout and be angry at the world, you need to grieve xx

Iโ€™ve had 3 mmc it is truly heartbreaking sending love x

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PurplePiggie

Oh god Issy, I am so sorry, cannot imagine what you're going through, sending you so much love and strength, you can and will get through this even though it doesn't feel like it now ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜ xx

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L2213

Iโ€™m so so very sorry ๐Ÿ˜ข devastating news and my hear goes out to you. Thinking of you xxx

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Picalilli99

Oh no issy Iโ€™m so so sorry to read this. We have been there too so understand the utter shock, confusion and devastation of a mmc. I am heartbroken for you lovely ๐Ÿ’”. It may not feel like it right now but you will get through this. I hope you have people around you for support. Although I appreciate these times of isolation may make that harder, so remember we are all here for you too. Try to give yourself the time & space to grieve if you can. It is such a huge loss. Sending love and hugs โค๏ธ Xx

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Keepingfaith85

I'm so, so sorry to read this Issy ๐Ÿ˜” It is so shockingly unfair. Sending you all my love โค๏ธ

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Lowamh

So sorry darling. There are no words x

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Nix321

I am so so sorry Issy. There are no words I can say to even attempt to say to try ease the pain, grief and the loss you and your partner are feeling. I truly cannot believe it. My thoughts are with at this unthinkable time. I do hope that you will still become a mummy in time. Take care of yourself, allow yourself time to grieve. I am so sorry for your loss.

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RhinoCat

๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ no no nooooooooo!

My heart is breaking for you my dear sweet Issey ๐Ÿ’” ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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ChloeL934

Iโ€™m so so sorry to be reading this. Sending you hugs and strength xx

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Patches86

I am absolutely heartbroken for you ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ I am so so sorry. There can be no comforting words during such a tough, cruel time. Keeping you in my heart and praying for your strength through this.

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Lavender96

Oh Issy Iโ€™m so sorry, truly devastated for you! I know hard this is and right now there isnโ€™t anything anybody can say to ease your pain. Take the time to grieve and let your emotions out. Please talk to your loved ones, I really did find it helped to share my pain with my closest family.

Sending you lots of love xx

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Tryagain45

Awww Issy I am so so sad to read your post and see this news. You must be absolutely devastated.....this is such a cruel cruel thing to happen. I know that nothing I can say will ease your pain but I'm sending you love and hugs and strengthโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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MissSaoPaulo

Oh my darling, I'm so so sorry. Sending you the biggest hugs xxx

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Bubunoto

I canโ€™t believe you are typing this! This canโ€™t be real! It canโ€™t be ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

I am so so so sorry!

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shia11223

I know there is nothing which can soothe your heart as I been through this a year ago as I was 8 weeks preg and there were no heart beat and it was very painful phisically and psychologically and with the passage of time I get recover but the only thought made me feel better was that baby was not meant to be in the world and God had better plan for me and God will reward me for that loss and I pray for you that God almighty give you big reward for that pain and you play with your baby next year and you forget about this pain, May God bless you and your partner peace

Love ๐Ÿ’—

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WonderworldXx

Completely heartbroken for you Issy, iโ€™m so so sorry and canโ€™t find the words. I hope you have the love, support and comfort around you to help you get through this. Stay strong and take the time to grieve. Please believe you will be a mummy, donโ€™t give up that hope. Sending love Xxxx

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Rella22

I'm so so sorry my heart hurts for you. You still have time. Give yourself time to heal love

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JoP32

Oh no Issy. Iโ€™m so so sorry for you. Life can be so devastating and so cruel sometimes. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Always here if you need a chat (rant/cry). ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ’” xxx

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Cinderella5

Oh Issy, I'm so very sorry!๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’” So cruel! Massive love & hugs.xxx

Im really sorry hun i know how you feel. Just give yourself time to reflect on things and try not to be so hard on yourself. There is nothing you could have done to change the outcome. It is God's plan. It does not mean that this is the end for you. i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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MontsJ

So sorry to read this, please know you are not alone in your feelings of hopelessness and despair. Right now it feels like your world has ended, let yourself grieve and take the time you need to give yourself all the love I know you wonโ€™t feel that you deserve. Time is the owner healer for this huge heartbreak. Itโ€™s easy to convince yourself now that you wonโ€™t be a mother, but today doesnโ€™t need to be the end of your story. Lots of love to you X

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Tugsgirl

Oh I am so so sorry. I had two mmcs and the shock of finding out that your baby has passed, when you had absolutely no idea is just devastating. I really feel for you. It must be even harder given the current climate. Iโ€™m truly sorry. Please take care and hold Hubby tight xx

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Rainbowhope

Issy reading this is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. I want to say something to help you but I know I cant. I can imagine the devastation you feel. This is the worst fear I have. But you are so strong and I know you'll come back from this and try again when you're ready. You are a true warrior Issy. I have faith in your strength. I feel terrified and this could happen to anyone without any reason. It just makes no sense. ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”

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Miracle43

I feel youโ€™re pain, shock, heartache and devastation ๐Ÿ’”

I too would have been 9 wks yday with our little miracle. We saw the most beautiful heartbeat at 7 weeks, yesterday ... nothing ๐Ÿ˜ข.

Life seems so cruel. I had started ivf stims then found out after 10 days of injections I had caught naturally!! The clinic were in as much shock as us. To go from panic wondering if the drugs had caused damage to seeing the little bean continue to grow against the odds to seeing a heartbeat we truly felt that we had our miracle only to be taken away. Waiting to find out how to manage the miscarriage ๐Ÿ˜ขxx

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Tugsgirlโ€ข in reply toMiracle43

Iโ€™m so sorry for you too xx

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Miracle43โ€ข in reply toTugsgirl

Thank you โค๏ธ Feeling lost and scared x

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Tugsgirlโ€ข in reply toMiracle43

It is scary. But you will get through it. I promise xx

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peapop33

I am so sorry to hear this โค๏ธ You are in my thoughts. Lots of love x x x

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BettyBe

So so sorry for your loss, that is truly heartbreaking news. Sending you lots of love and I donโ€™t think anyone knows how to feel, truly am so sorry ๐Ÿ˜”๐ŸŒบ xx

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Georgie17

I am so sorry, life can be so cruel. I am heartbroken for you and I am sorry this happened. I have had an early miscarriage before and most recently lost my baby at 17 weeks 5 days. Don't give up....we will become mums one day. I am sharing this as you are not alone and we can support each other during this tough time and keep going to get our happy ending which I truly believe most of us will. Hang in there xx

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FertileMind

So very sorry to hear of your loss. Thatโ€™s heartbreaking. You will be a mum Issy, donโ€™t give up hope. Be gentle with yourself. I found hypnotherapy a godsend to tap into and release subconscious stuff. Itโ€™s a rollercoaster, sending love and strength to you ๐Ÿ™โค๏ธ

I'm so sorry to hear this, it really upset me to see it on your feed, you have been so positive and cheerful. I hope you get through this difficult time and don't give up the dream of becoming a mummy xxx

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Fingerscrossed38

You will be a mummy. I had a mmc and 2 chemicals before this pregnancy. You will find your embryo that will let your dream come true. It's devastating and unfair. You are strong. Take time to grieve your loss and when you are ready try again. Be kind to yourself, it's nothing you could have prevented. Xx

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Shelleybean

So so sorry to read this Issy ๐Ÿ˜ญ weโ€™ve been there too and have felt the pain ๐Ÿ’” The total joy of finally thinking you have achieved your dream, only to have it cruelly snatched away. Life is so unfair at times. Take care and be kind to yourself. This baby is a sign that one day your dreams will come true. Donโ€™t give up. Sending you lots of love and strength ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ชxx

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Sammy246

I am so sorry to read this. Life is so cruel sometimes especially for us ivf warriors. I know what you must be feeling as I lost my angel not too long ago. The most difficult thing to go through in this IVF journey especially after seeing a strong heartbeat. Take each day as it comes, allow yourself to process the loss. Sending you love and prayers xx

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Kitty230515

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this! Life is incredibly cruel at times! Take one day at a time. Thinking of you xxx

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franathy

Oh Issy I'm so sorry, how utterly heartbreaking. Sending hugs xxx

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Afrohair

Iโ€™m so sorry love โค๏ธ

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Twomomsttc

You will be okay! Take this time to grieve and remain positive at all costs! It will happen again and you will get your rainbow baby. My partner and I lost our son at 18 weeks in February. It was our first ivf but our 5th try, we had done 4 iui prior to the ivf. We are still hopeful and are just taking a break right now. Stay strong and keep your head up! I know it sucks but you will get through this. Take care of yourself xoxo

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Hope4usall

I am so so sorry. There is nothing we can say to make you feel better but please know we all understand and are here for you to offer support. Just take it one day at a time, sending you so much love xx

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Corchi

Heartbroken for you ๐Ÿ’” Iโ€™m so sorry.

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Bluelady-sing

So sorry to hear. Sending you hugs!!

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Dizzy79

I had a missed miscarrige 5 months ago and have recently read it's all about the egg on amazon, they recommend supplements you can take to minimise possibility of miscarrige and increase egg quality maybe worth a try. It's awful to come to terms with and you wont forget but it will get easier, take care x

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