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Waiting games and feelings of sadness and longing

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Hi every one. It’s been a while since I wrote on here! We were told a few months ago that Chris May have some sperm damage, so he has changed his diet, taking vitamins and anti oxidents to see if this improves things.

He has another test booked in at the end of October and we’re hoping the results are better and some improvements have been made. Atleast on a next round of IVF we may have better success of it working.

Trying to keep ourselves busy and our minds active on other things so we don’t get too down about the long wait for a new donor and treatment to start again.

I’m struggling quite a lot over the past few weeks. I’m finding myself just feeling sad that it’s almost the end of 2018 and we aren’t close to being parents or at least having a good try at it. Feel drained of energy and quite emotional at times! 😢

Hope this feeling will pass and I can feel happier in myself again. It’s tough but I try to keep strong and positive ✨💕

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Hi Charley I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling low at the moment. This journey is long and rocky, full of twists and turns we weren’t expecting.

It sounds like you’re both doing everything you can right now to improve your chances and unfortunately there is so much that is outside of our control. I can totally sympathise with feeling like another year has past and still being stuck in limbo land. I can promise you this feeling will pass, all things do. But don’t feel like you have to be strong or positive all the time, firstly it’s not possible, and secondly being able to allow yourselves to feel angry, frustrated, upset, and like it’s not fair is part of what makes us strong. Being able to feel what we feel and keep going is the true strength and makes us all human. I often come on here to hear about other people’s struggles as well as offer support and share my own, because it helps me to know we aren’t alone in this.

Anyway, I'll stop rambling now! I have all fingers and toes crossed you have better results in October, and in the meantime things start to feel better. Lots of love. Xx

It’s very hard to keep strong and positive all the time. It’s only natural to run out of steam some times, we’re only human. Sending you a big hug and hoping there are happier days ahead for you xx

I know what you mean. In September it was two years since we started our first cycle of ivf. It feels never ending sometimes. We have three frosties so I’m holding on to hope that we might get the best Christmas present ever this year and if not maybe on our go in the new year, I mean that would be a great way to start the new year wouldn’t it?

I think you always have to have a plan in place or at least some sketchy ideas. A goal to work towards. It’s good that you’re both keeping as busy as possible. Remember we’re all allowed down times. It’s impossible to be positive all of the time xx

Aww I'm so sorry you're feeling down but I totally understand why you do.

This a super tough road to try and navigate with so many humps in the way.

I know how you feel about the year coming to an end, we've been trying for over 5 years now and we're still no further on and not even a hint of pregnancy. But I am hopeful for the future.

I'm sure the feelings will pass and in the meantime you need to look after yourself and put yourself 1st.

I hope you get good news at your next appointment at the end of October.


Hey I’m so sorry you are struggling 😔 so much of your post I feel like I could’ve written myself! 💖 I am trying so much to focus on the now, not looking back over the years (4 years for us) and trying to not panic when I think about the future. The whole thing so tough. I hope you get better results coming up soon 🤞 sending you love and hugs 🤗 Xx

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