How to keep going when you feel to old and too tired of it never ending ok.

I know I’m lucky to be able to try again but after a recent miscarriage at 8 weeks that needed medical management if feels so hard. I’m 42 have been on this rollercoaster for 3 years and some days it just feels too hard to keep going. We have 3 more chances in the freezer but I can’t help but think what if this just keeps happening. Finding it hard to pull myself together.

[Kimbob82]

Totally get it… I turn 40 in two months and have been on this ivf hamster wheel for 2 years (ttc for 5 in total) … we have our 13th embryo transfer today and it’s so hard to stay positive. It’s so exhausting. We also have two frosties in the freezer if todays transfer doesn’t work out… but I know how you’re feeling. X

[MyLittlePinkness in reply to Kimbob82]

Good luck for today 💕

[Kimbob82 in reply to MyLittlePinkness]

Thank you 💗

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I am the same age as you. The pressure at this age is really hard, so your feelings are understandable.

I think having 3 more chances in the freezer is amazing if you decide to proceed.

Xxx

[butterfliez]

There’s so many emotions that we go through isn’t there , sorry to hear your feeling so deflated at the moment , so many years on the journey with loss sure does take its toll I’m pretty much feeling all out of hope & positivity at the moment too

I wish you all the best with your next transfer x

[Bomboncita in reply to butterfliez]

Deflated is a good word to describe the feeling.

[AMJean]

Really get this. Some days it just does feel too hard. Try and give yourself a day off it all if you can…. Easier said than done! I’m 43 and gearing up for another cycle after miscarriage. I feel like everything is taking too long at the mo and want to scream! Wishing you lots of luck with your frosties. Keep going xx 🤞👍

[MyLittlePinkness]

*sensitive*I used to hate seeing these types of posts so I’m marking it sensitive.

It is one tough journey, i know how you feel, one disappointment after another and having to gear yourself up for another cycle, transfer, trotting back to the clinic for the umpteenth time. But I’m sitting here with my 2 week old daughter, born just after i turned 44 after 2 years of ivf, so it does happen, there are lots of happy ends,even if it feels helpless , tiring and never ending, hang in there, one of your frosties will make your gorgeous baby 💕💕

[Bomboncita in reply to MyLittlePinkness]

Wow, thanks for sharing your experience. Sometimes I start to wonder if it is all a mirage as it never ends ok for me. I'm also 43 and have been trying for 3 years. Feeling deflated now but trying to recover and get back on the horse.

[MyLittlePinkness in reply to Bomboncita]

Aw i know, it really is a cruel journey. Hang in there, don’t give up hope💕

[Bomboncita]

I hope you take some time to rest and recharge. As others have mentioned earlier you still have 3 more chances in the freezer. That's really good! Fingers crossed for you 🤞

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If its any consolation I think you will find there are a lot of us that feel like this.. and a lot of us a lot older than you too! So my first comment is you definitely aren't too old.

I think the best thing you can do is take a break. Its physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting doing IVF, and then adding miscarriages into the mix too, I think we underestimate the impact as we feel like we just need to keep on keeping on. I am so sorry for your loss and think you need some time to remember the good bits of life before this relentless journey started, and to grieve what might have been. Eventually things will become clearer and you will feel recharged and your fight will return. The good thing is those embryos aren't getting any older, and honestly six months or something won't make any difference at all to you being an amazing Mum. There are loads of 'I was like you and then..' stories out there and sometimes they actually don't help because they aren't you.. but you never know in a year or so you could be replying that to other people! I think you just have to have regular check ins with yourself and think 'will I regret not doing it' and 'is having a baby more important than all this distress' and maybe one day the answer will change but I suspect at the moment you just need to recharge a bit and you aren't ready to give up yet xx