Counselling

[Star15]

Hi everyone

Hope you’re all doing ok.

Found out this morning that our third round on Clomid has failed. We’ve been TTC for such a long time but the negative tests never get any easier. Meeting with consultant on Thursday about next steps but feeling pretty low about the whole thing 😞 It’s so draining and takes up so much headspace. Has anyone found a good way to recharge or found counselling useful?

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[Apdp]

Hi. I’m just going through though my 3rd cycle just now and feel I have been really struggling. Tried to just deal with things myself. I’ve taken time off my work to see if it makes any difference but can’t keep doing that. I am going to start counselling but a bit nervous about it. X

[NsKaz]

Hi lovely, sorry to hear that you’re having a tough time. I was on clomid for 6 months and unfortunately it wasn’t successful. It actually can cause low mood and it made me extremely depressed. As soon as I stopped taking it, it was like a switch was flicked and I was back to my old self. I went for counselling whilst on it (as I didn’t want to go on any anti-depressants whilst TTC). I found it a good release to talk about all my feelings around infertility. It might be the clomid that’s making you feel low (on top of how hard TTC is) so anything that helps I’d do it. I also did acupuncture and hypnotherapy along with loving kindness meditation. My biggest piece of advice through all of this is to try and be kind to yourself. It’s a long hard journey but keep the faith you will get there in the end! Xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I found counselling useful. I’m lucky to be able to access it through work.

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I’m so sorry. BFN are soul destroying. It is truly a awful journey at times. You must do what feels right for you if you think counselling might benefit you do it 🙂

I hope your appointment goes well with the consultant and makes you feel a bit better about things. 🙂

For me I allow myself to feel sad and angry day of period ; I eat & drink what I like. 😁The next day I forget the failed cycle and start over all again and try to feel positive about next trying. A new month a new chance 🤞🏻But it does get harder & harder every time. It can be very stressful 🤦🏽‍♀️

For health reasons I have had to have various breaks trying ( endo) and actually it has done me the world of good to step back; I appreciate that isn’t for everyone. I think it can get too much sometimes. Perhaps have a month of “trying” to recharge your batteries. Maybe go away together and just enjoy doing things as a couple. So much gets lost in this dreadful process.

Bad days don’t last forever and tomorrow is a new day that’s my motto . Nothing lasts forever . Right behind you xoxo

[AnnieAnnie]

I plan on making use of counselling this time. I haven't had any counselling over the last 5 years so I feel sorry for them when I finally get in there! A holiday or short break together is a good way I have found to help. When my cycle failed last year, me and hubby were booked on a couples holiday with friends, it was really good to get away, eat, drink, get some sun and relax and not have to deal with life for a few days. My latest cycle failed last week and I'm going away with 8 girl friends in 3 weeks time. Again, I plan to relax, get some sun, eat, drink and forget life. I'm going to come back recharged and ready to face it all again xx

[Pauleenka86]

Hi hun. I was on Clomid for 9 months!it was very hard and my mood swings were terrible. However I wasn't doing pregnancy tests and was trying to just get on with my life.If you feel like you need to talk to someone then definitely do.It will help you.Just remember it's ok to feel down,It's ok to be angry or upset.Stay strong and good luck xxx

[sarahharas]

Hi Star15,

I am on my 5th Clomid cycle and I dont wven respond as it should be, so I am nit even ovulating regularly. My mood swings are absolutely terrible. I am feeling so depressed that I am sometimes constantly crying for a week.

I started talking about it with otjer people and this helped me. I also think that pregnancy tests are good they make you feel worse.

I think you have to somehow create a mental distance between you and TTC, I know that sounds difficult and I am not fully there yet, but otherwise it will destroy you. You are more than a baby machine. You had a worthy life until now and dont let anything take this away from you.

And never forget, there are a lot of women going through the same.

Good luck for everything.

X

[forMoira]

Sorry to hear about your struggle. I think counselling does help if you can access it through your work or afford it. I have also been going to a Chinese doctor whose sessions are very relaxing. It is part acupuncture, part medicines and a bit of unofficial counselling thrown in. I wish I had found her when I was trying with my own eggs. She is brilliant. I think you are near me so I could give you her details if you like or we could meet for a coffee. I'm in Cambridge.