Counselling

[hifer]

Hello,

Haven’t posted on here for a bit. Truth be told I am in limbo. I have an aquascan next Wednesday and then if everything’s ok then we will have a transfer next month. Waiting. And more waiting! I have been struggling with my mental health after a slightly traumatic egg collection as I was really very unwell. Just wanted to say that I have started counselling at my clinic and it’s been brilliant. For anyone that really feels like they are going through the mill and needs some extra support I would honestly recommend this. I felt like I was going mad and my counsellor has really helped. Talking to someone other than my partner (who understands fertility issues) is a must I think. Just wanted to try and encourage anyone that is thinking about it to give it a go. I know full well how stressful this journey is and everyone needs an outlet.

Wishing everyone all the best

Xx

[hannahkc]

Hi hifer, sounds like a real rough ride and all the waiting is like a lifetime.

Well done for getting to the counselor.

My partner and I have done the same as we are at a crossroads after 3 transfers but no baby and after just even one session our counsellor has been amazing to help us process everything before moving forward. I agree with you that letting a professional help is so valuable.

Wishing you good luck for the aquascan and beyond!

[hifer in reply to hannahkc]

So sorry to hear of your journey and very pleased that you are seeing a counsellor too. I hope you manage to come to some conclusions about next steps. Wishing you all the very best x

[Baby_gurl]

Thanks for sharing hifer. To seek out counselling is very brave. I am a big advocate as it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. I am so glad that you and your partner are getting all the help you need xx

[hifer in reply to Baby_gurl]

Thanks lovely. X

[Solly-44]

Good for you! I’m glad your transfer coming up, it feels like forever but it’ll be here before you know it.

My partner really surprised my by booking himself a counselling appointment when we were last at the clinic. It’s very un-him but I’m so glad he’s doing it. He bottles things up, I’m the neurotic one 🤪 so I worry he tries to be strong for me but where does that leave him?? I think anyone starting counselling is taking a really positive step in looking after themselves and it can be a big deal even acknowledging that it might be of use. It’s also taking some control back during a process where that can feel lacking.

Personally I had 1 appointment with a fertility counsellor and we just didn’t gel so I haven’t been back, but years ago saw one for bereavement and it was the best thing I’ve ever done.

Huge luck for your cycle xx

[hifer in reply to Solly-44]

Ah thank you. What great news about your partner and booking a session. Mine’s exactly the same but says he deals with things in his own way. Maybe he will go one day. I wonder if you could get a different counsellor? Xx