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Bleeding heavy now, how do I get through this?

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I’ve just got back from the EPAU. My bleeding has got heavier and I’m now getting period pain on and off that paracetamols aren’t really helping.

My cervix is closed. She saw red blood and blood clots. They sent me home until it gets worse, or my scan on Monday.

Have any of you been through this? I’m 90% sure it’s a miscarriage. What do I do at home? How can I cope? How do I cope with the blood?

Please help someone???

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lianm8

Oh sweetie so sorry you are going through this. It’s good that’s your cervix is closed that means you haven’t had a miscarriage. I had similar when I had red blood cervix was closed baby was fine. Keep hope lovely 🤞 I am praying for you xxxxx

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I don't know what to say, but sending you a big hug! 💙 Xx

Oh my love I’m so sorry you are going through this.

I had a miscarriage at 4 and a half weeks last July. I was told by EPAU to go to A & E if I was using a pad every hour or so with the bleeding and not wait for the scan that was booked.You must go if this happens.

Really hope it’s not a miscarriage some women can bleed and babies are fine. My thoughts are with you xoxo

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I’m not soaking through a pad yet. Ive passed some stringy clots though. I just hope I’ll be able to get through it. I’m 10 weeks and I’m scared of the process of natural miscarriage. I’m scared of the pain, and the blood. And I’m scared to see my baby. I don’t want to. I’m so sad this is happening to me. Me and my fiancé are broken, we’re shells of people, I don’t know how we’ll ever get through this and heal. We so want to be happy again, I just don’t see how we ever will be, we are changed.

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I have read lots and lots about bleeding. It actually happens to a lot of people. So many more than I would have thought. If your cervix is closed then that is great. You may just have bleeding and sometimes that happens.

You need to try to keep positive. Rest and do something nice for each other.

Sending massive hugs. Xx

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It’s such a truly heartbreaking experience but hopefully if your bleeding isn’t heavy you be one of the lucky ones ; my fertility specialist said miscarriage isn’t that common and we were just unlucky. Most bleeding isn’t always a miscarriage more often than not bleeding isn’t a sign of miscarriage . Try to be positive; I know it’s hard.

If the worse is happening you will get through this; it won’t feel like it now but you will . I felt I’d never get through my pregnancy loss but we did.It’s a day at a time and one day you will feel stronger. You will find the strength to keep going because you want this baby so much; that’ll keep you going. It’s a kick in the face to lose a baby when it’s been such a battle to get there; but we have chosen to see our loss as something positive; we managed to conceive in six years of not; this is massive progress. We will always miss the one we lost. Even now when I declare it at gynae appointments it breaks my heart💔 but I hold onto hope one day we will be pregnant again.💕

Hopefully everything’s will be ok and I will have everything crossed for you. The scan was good last time.Not point in thinking the worst till you know ; you might be ok and worried for nothing. Keep resting and tomorrow will bring happy news; I really hope to hear good news for you. No one should go through this. 😭xoxo

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Hey hun what did they say about your. Heamatoma did they say it's expected? Did they say it would potentially harm the baby? Feeling so much for you right now hun, big hugs 💝😘

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Kathryn1984 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

They just said we won’t know for sure until the ultrasound on Monday. I know other ladies have had pregnancies carry on after really bad bleeding. But I think I need to prepare myself for the worst.

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toKathryn1984

Such a difficult situation I know I'd be the same if I was you, your being very strong hun and doing all you can. Try take Diane's advice on board and I pray Monday brings you reassuring news. Big hugs my love 💝😘

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Kathryn1984. So sorry to hear this. All you can do is to keep resting. Remember each time you stand up you may leak a bit more, because it collects. Hold on to the fact that your cervix is still closed, and maybe it’s because the placenta is developing low down, I don’t know. Thinking of you. Diane

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vickflick

Hey, I know how very scary it is, I bled heavily about 3 times during the first 12 weeks, each time I conviced myself it was all over but i now have a beautiful 7 week old baby girl!

Please stay optimistic, easier said than done I know but it's a good sign that the cervix is closed

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Lind16

Oh your poor thing. I've just suffered a miss miscarriage which is awful in its self and how I coped with it was ibroprophen , hot water bottle , deep heat cream and the night time sanitary towels. Also if you get really bad pains below they might be small contractions . It's an awful thing to go through . Try not to move around to much and I brought an adults colouring in book so my concentration which on that and not the awful thing that was happening. You can get the massive tenna lady pads which my husband says they look like a nappy but they are comfortable and help . Big hugs and make sure you drink fluids and that your taking iron tablets if your loosing alot of blood. Always here if you need a chat xxx

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