So we have 1 turn left on the NHS for egg donation but it has to be a known Donor. At our last meeting at the clinic our consultant asked us if we knew anybody who was 36 who could help us. I told her that all our friends were the same age of myself and partner. I’m 39 and my partner is 41.
She told me that my friend may be able to help and explained the risks with using an older donor ie: miscarriage and chance of having a Down’s syndrome child. My friend was happy to go ahead and filled out all the health Questionnaires. I would of used her earlier if I had of known that the age had went up from 35 to 36 only found this out last time we went to the clinic. Feel a bit cheated by them.
So my friend went to the clinic and saw a different consultant and donor nurse to the one I see and was asking her loads of questions like this isn’t going to work as your too old. She got told there is a 15% chance of it working as long as we accept the risks. She has had some blood to check her AMH and FSH levels. We need to see her count for her eggs and has to be at a high number to be considered for treatment. She then told me if we decided to go through with it, there would have to be a meeting with the doctors, nurses and consultants to see if it’s worth the risk and the money to spend. We myself and my partner have went through loads he can’t believe our final go is going to have to go through a panel process. When I know people use their own eggs well into there 40’s.
Has anyone experienced this before or come across it, we are still in two minds what to do 15% chance is better than 0% but it’s weighing what to do for best in the long run. Sorry for long post, we don’t know who to turn to for advice.
I forgot to say my friend is 39 xx