Not feeling it

[Kenny75]

Morning. Not an easy post to write but need to know if this is ‘normal’.

Has anyone else found themselves not interested in intercourse?

I am waiting for a laporoscopy to remove one tube and investigate the flow in the other as well as an endo investigation.

Even before this was decided a month ago I realised I’d lost all interest in sex . Not helpful when we were hoping for natural conception miracles!

I feel terrible for my husband but I literally don’t feel any arousal or desire at all and if honest have been like this for a while now. I realise now that I haven’t dated talk to gp/ consultant about this ....

[jengi]

Hi Kenny75, you are not alone! I too struggling and have zero desire. I feel awful for my husband. I’ve no idea what to do or how to get out of this feeling Xx

[Kenny75 in reply to jengi]

It’s good to know I’m not alone. I’m sorry to hear you’re at this point too xx

[Buisquits]

Hi lovely

You are not alone, all the stress and uncertainties make us less and less interested in any intimacy. Personally I haven’t felt like having sex since September ! That’s when my lap was. Then I was on prostap which didn’t help at all, now I’m going through IVF, ET is tomorrow! As much as I need a cuddle, I do not need sex. We have talked about it and since ivf become reall my partner doesn’t feel like getting intimate either. He is 29, and going gray, stress takes its toll, on all of us unfortunately...

[Kenny75 in reply to Buisquits]

Cuddles rock but I know my husband is really struggling with the intimacy. It’s so difficult for everyone isn’t it. xx

[destiny121]

Hi kenny.... im about to have my tube removed on wednesday.... so pretty similar to you..... i have lost all interest in sex... dont enjoy it anymore...always have our problems on our mind thats the issue.... hope these feelings will pass... xx

[Kenny75]

Good luck for your op. Let me know how it goes.

Agreed. In time I hope the mind stops thinking! Work is rubbish too so that doesn’t help.

All the best xxx

[Kathy_t]

I feel similar although we are at week 8 with icsi twins and im using progesterone pessaries which make things down there a bit 'claggy'. 🤓

[Hidden]

You’re definitely not alone.

We tried for 5 months post my early miscarriage but each month I felt less inspired.

I also suffer with endometriosis. It turned out my endometriosis had returned ( first lap in June) and last week I had my second laparoscopy, as mine is in my bowel I have been referred to an endometriosis specialist that my fertility specialist knows! This specialist works alongside a bowel specialist so perfect really 😀.

Where my endometriosis is can cause pain during relations ;I cannot have deep penetration it is painful.He understands ❤️ suffering chronic pelvic pain didn’t help, hopefully it’ll be a bit better now.

. It is also difficult because we associate sex with failure of conceiving. Another thing fertility can answer for 🤬

Perhaps you feel better once you’ve had the surgery and have some answers ; I found myself very preoccupied before my surgery, don’t underestimate e stress waiting for this surgery is having.

I’m sure once that’s out the way your libido will return, hopefully you will feel more positive about the way forward 😊

If you have any questions on laparoscopy please feel free to ask. Good luck with your surgery xoxov

[Kenny75 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I had to ask as I feel so useless.

I think you’ve got the nail on the head when you said about feeling A failure as we haven’t been able to conceive.

I’m 42 now and definitely feel I’ve missee out on the most natural thing in the world for a woman.

As other ladies have said here I have also told my husband he is free to leave me as I know he desperately want his own child and is a few years younger than me. Wow I’ve ‘said’ it all aloud.

Thanks again and I may be in touch later as I have more questions.

xxx