Think it’s all over

[Binky1983]

So I had a positive pregnancy test on sat, but leading up to that I had been having cramps and a bit of brown blood spotting (I’d just finished taking provera to start my next round of clomid) I was still spotting on Monday and rang my dr, she said there’s no point seeing me as there’s nothing to be done and all they would do is another pregnancy test and it’s to early to go the EPU and to just wait it out and see what happens over the next couple of weeks.

I had barely any bleeding yesterday and mild cramps but this morning I have had a bit more bleeding and some stringy bits (TMI sorry!) it’s still brown but I can only assume it’s over.

I don’t know how many weeks I was but I know I hadn’t ovulated on day 21 of my last round of clomid so can only assume I ovulated late or by some miracle on my own and when I did a pregnancy test nearly 6 weeks a go it was negative.

My question now is do I just wait it out or some more or should I ring my gp again.

I think what’s got me more was if it hadn’t tested on sat due to going out and checking I could drink I would have just assumed it was the provera and would have been none the wiser. I think I also need to ring the fertility clinic as now I don’t know what to do about clomid etc.

Im trying to see the positives in this in that at least I got pregnant, but it’s hard.

Sorry this is turning into a bit of rambling and long post!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Binky1983. I can fully understand your confusion, you poor thing. If you can, wait a week and if nothing definite has happened perhaps see your GP or EPU for a blood Beta hCG test so that you know for sure what's going on. Thinking of you. Diane

[Dunla]

You poor thing, perhaps a call to your fertility clinic might help answer some of your questions and they could advise you on what to do. Fingers crossed for you xx

[Elynn in reply to Dunla]

Can't you call the EPU and ask them to see you ? I think It's insensitive of your GP to ask you to wait it out. It's an early pregnancy unit. Isn't that their speciality ? Wishing you all the best.

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I felt that medical staff weren’t interested when I had my first miscarriage at 7.5 weeks. I think they are wary of over-medicalising a situation which is unfortunately fairly common and in most cases will “resolve” naturally without medical intervention (ie the body will miscarry without causing ongoing illness). However, emotionally it helps to feel like medics are looking after you. I felt like I desperately wanted medical attention because I wanted to feel taken care of, and actually I needed to know what was going on and I needed strong pain killers! I was scared and sad, and felt alone despite having fantastic support from family and friends.

For my second miscarriage I demanded a scan at the epau but in my area you have to be referred through your GP- luckily mine was sympathetic. I was exactly six weeks pregnant on the day I started to bleed and this is the earliest they will scan at my local unit as they said they can’t see anything any earlier than that. In my case they scanned me and took bloods but also made me do another urine test and it was already negative, though the bloods showed that I had been pregnant. I felt better just knowing that I had been checked and that it was definitely a miscarriage. However, with hindsight I can say that I didn’t need that medical attention physically, it was more my emotional need. I could have done that urine test at home and not used up nhs money! If it happens again at an early stage then I would probably just sit it out at home unless I had a lot of pain again or suspected it was not straightforward. I apologise if hearing about my experiences isn’t helpful but with my first miscarriage I just wanted information and it was surprisingly hard to get.

Xxxx

[Binky1983 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thank you, it’s good to hear other people’s experiences. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through it as well. Xx

[Binky1983]

Thanks for all your replies. I went back to the gp in the end and she was lovely and examined me and confirmed it was a miscarriage. I got told I can wait it out at home but if the bleeding gets worse or it’s gets too painful to call them straight away or go to the epu.

I’m feeling reasonably ok about it today but have been signed off work for a week to give me a chance to get some head space. I’m bleeding a lot more today and been feeling a bit dizzy and hoping it will be over soon as I want to get back to normality but I know I’m going to be ok both emotionally and physically and I can’t wait to go for a run as I find it really clears my head.

I’ll be ringing the fertility clinic at some point next week to ask them what to do next. I’m looking forward to trying again soon.

Xx

[Elynn]

So sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself. Take time to heal.