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I think it’s all over 💔

I just wanted to come back on here as everyone was so kind when I got my BFP

Unfortunately, I’ve had spotting that seems to be getting worse, just like my AF usually starts and my test this morning was so faint it’s barely there!

I think it’s a chemical and I’m out. I’m heartbroken and can’t believe this is happening.

Thanks for all the support on here and I wish everyone well on their journeys xx

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So sorry to read this JB1988. Sending you massive hugs xxx

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Thanks Hun.

I’m heartbroken but trying to take comfort in that we did get a positive xx

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It's so hard. But yes, you did. The dream is just a little further away. Hopefully you will get the strength together soon to try again. But do make sure that you take the time to heal from this xxxx

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Thank you xx

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I am so sorry to read this. Ring your clinic they may be able to offer some advice - we always hear of spotting in pregnancy so hope and pray it’s just that. Take care sweets - sending hugs xx

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Thanks Hun. It looks like it’s getting worse and it’s now bright red so not holding out any hope.

Will ring my clinic when they open to get their advice x

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Really sorry to hear that, sending love and hugs x

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Thank you x

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Bless you please take care really sorry you are going through this x

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Thank you xx

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So sorry to read this. Bless you. Can you ring the clinic and ask their advice?

Take care of yourself xxx

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Will try them when they open but it’s not looking good. It’s more red now so I think I’m deffo out xx

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I’m sorry to read this. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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Thanks Hun xx

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Oh hunni I'm sorry to read this. Give your clinic a call soon as they open and see what they say, maybe they can get you into the epu. Big hugs xxx

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Thanks Hun. I don’t think they will do much knowing my clinic and it’s turninf red so think it’s my period.

I’m guessing they will change me to a follow up but will see what they say xx

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So sorry to be seeing this!! Sending you big hugs!! We went through exactly the same in April xxx

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Thanks Hun. So sorry you’ve been through it. It’s so hard 😭

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It is very hard!! Thinking of you xxx

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So sorry. I went through this in May - it’s so tough after the BFP. Take care x

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thanks Hun. Sorry you’ve been through it too, it’s heartbreaking xx

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Awww I'm so sorry to hear this 😔 please look after yourself sweetie xxx

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Thank you Hun xx

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Awwww Im really sorry to read this! Huge hugs.xx

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Thank you xx

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I’m so sorry, this happened to me last year & it’s utterly heartbreaking. I’m so sorry you are going through this. xoxo

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Thanks Hun. So sorry you’ve been through it too. It’s so heartbreaking xx

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Thank you.

It really is, because you think you’ve got your happy ending but then it’s snatched away. It took me a while to come to terms with.

Be kind to yourselves. Do what feels right for you, there is no wrong or right here. People will deal with this differently.

Personally we started to try again after my period post loss. I wish I could share a success story with you to give you hope but my endometriosis decided to flare up after the loss😒 ( I’ve had 2 surgeries this year to treat it)

Do remember that many women will have a healthy baby after a miscarriage .❤️🌈✨ xoxo

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Thanks Hun.

I am clinging onto the fact we did get a positive and we do have two frozen so not all lost.

I am broken but won’t give up. I hope you get your happy ending soon too xx

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Thank you ❤️

That’s the spirit hun 💪🏻

We took the positive out of it too, you have to don’t you.

My fertility doctor said to us “ through the dark cloud the silver lining is that you did conceive and this is positive. “ I thought it summed it beautifully. ✨✨✨xoxo

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Those are such lovely words Hun.

Thank you, we will get there it’s just a longer journey than anticipated xx

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So so sorry. xx

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Thanks Hun xx

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I’m so sorry xxx

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Thanks Hun xx

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I'm really sorry, we had a chemical pregnancy back in March and I know how sad you must be feeling. We are all here for you any time xxx

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Thanks hun. So sorry you’ve been through it too xx

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I’m truly sorry to read your news. Sending hugs xx

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Thank you Hun. I’m heartbroken, I know nothing is for sure but I don’t see how it can be anything else xx

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I know you are. And sometimes we just know don’t we? I’m sorry xx

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Yes you are right. Everyone was trying to reassure me with the spotting yesterday but I just had a feeling xx

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That’s what we do, try to reassure each other. I’ve done the same myself so many times. I’ve been on the receiving end of feeling reassured too. I would have offered you reassurance over spotting too, had I seen it. But I think you know what you’re feeling and going through. There’s a fine line between reassurance and getting someone’s hopes up. I hope I’m making sense and not upsetting you in any way (obviously you’re upset anyway). I just wanted you to know I’ve been there and I’m sorry. I wish you weren’t experiencing this xx

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No, I understand what you mean. That’s exactly right it’s so hard. I’m just gonna keep an eye on it and see what happens next but I don’t think it’s going to work out x

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Well I really hope it does.. 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xx

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Thanks Hun. It seems to be worsening so think it’s definitely period.

I’ve got some frozen so will have to hold onto hope for them xx

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I’ll be sending so much luck when you need it xx

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Thank you Hun xx

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I’m so sorry to hear this. I saw your post and actually felt a bit sick and my stomach went into knots. I don’t know that there are any words so I’ll just say I’m so sorry and I’m thinking of you. We will all get there one day xxx

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Thanks Hun. I don’t know what to do with myself tbh and I know it’s technically not over but I can’t see any other outcome.

Thanks for the kind words! Might be cycling with you at the clinic after all xx

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I don’t think anyone would know what to do with themselves in your position. Have you spoken to the clinic?

I don’t know if you have people to talk to but if you ever need a friendly ear then I can always meet for a coffee or something. I live in East Twickenham so shout if you ever need it xx

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I have tried them but awaiting a call back.

Aww that’s lovely hun. I’m over in a Ashford but can always drive over to meet up, it would be nice to talk to someone that is going through similar xx

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I'm so sorry to read this. I don't think people truly understand how devastating these early miscarriages are, especially when you've been through so much already. Thinking of you xx

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Yes that’s true. It’s so hard to deal with after all the heartache to even get this far. I just don’t know how to feel tbh. Thanks for the message xx

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I have also just had a chemical pregnancy after a FET. Pretty devastated this end. So hard to be up one minute and down the next 😕. Hopefully it will be our turn next time.

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It’s awful isn’t it! So sorry you’ve been through it too.

Hopefully we will get our little miracles soon xx

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Sorry to read this. Like many of the other ladies I’ve been there too and it’s an awful feeling to go from cloud 9 to a burst bubble. All I can say is take some time to grieve and be kind to yourself. Like you say, it is at least proof you can get pregnant which is one hurdle you’ve overcome. Many ladies do go on to have a healthy baby after a chemical - I got my BFP 2 FETs later and I’d also had a BFP prior to my chemical so it shows that sometimes it’s just a cruel twist of fate that happens for no reason. Look after yourself x

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Thank you hun. So sorry that you too have gone through this.

I am on autopilot now I think doing my usual of trying to look ahead and plan if we can do a frozen before the end of the year! Crazy to some to be like this but it’s my way of coping xx

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Yes, I did exactly the same. Just wanted to put it behind me and get on with my next cycle. It was when I got a BFN on my next cycle that it really hit me and I let myself grieve properly. It does get easier over time I promise, but it’s something you learn to live with x

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Thanks hun. I do just want to sit and cry but know it wont change anything, so i have come into work just auto piloting on and hoping it wont hurt so much eventually x

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So sorry to be reading this .... its so so cruel this journey at times ... i to had a chemical, words cant describe how i felt sending you big bugs lovely i hope you and your partner are ok ... be kind to yourself Xx

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Thanks Hun. I’m sorry that you have also been through this, it’s just so unfair ☹️

I’m on autopilot today I think, just getting on as I can’t just sit around crying. I know for some it’s crazy to think about next steps but that’s the way I cope, so I’m hoping we can get an FET done before the end of the year! Xx

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Thats the best way to be it gives you something to focus on i was the same we have decided to do a none medicated transfer after xmas im now starting to look forward to that .... it is so unfair this process i had a consultation after my last failed fet and the consultant reasured me that it wasnt me nor my partner we will do this one day, that reasured me and made me feel less of a failure its an awfull process really plays with your emotions and mental health ..... wishing you lots of luck lovely x x

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Thanks Hun. Wishing you luck also xx

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I’m so sorry to read this! Sending you lots of love xxxx

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Thanks Hun, much appreciated xxx

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