I just wanted to come back on here as everyone was so kind when I got my BFP
Unfortunately, I’ve had spotting that seems to be getting worse, just like my AF usually starts and my test this morning was so faint it’s barely there!
I think it’s a chemical and I’m out. I’m heartbroken and can’t believe this is happening.
Thanks for all the support on here and I wish everyone well on their journeys xx
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So sorry to read this JB1988. Sending you massive hugs xxx
It's so hard. But yes, you did. The dream is just a little further away. Hopefully you will get the strength together soon to try again. But do make sure that you take the time to heal from this xxxx
I am so sorry to read this. Ring your clinic they may be able to offer some advice - we always hear of spotting in pregnancy so hope and pray it’s just that. Take care sweets - sending hugs xx
It really is, because you think you’ve got your happy ending but then it’s snatched away. It took me a while to come to terms with.
Be kind to yourselves. Do what feels right for you, there is no wrong or right here. People will deal with this differently.
Personally we started to try again after my period post loss. I wish I could share a success story with you to give you hope but my endometriosis decided to flare up after the loss😒 ( I’ve had 2 surgeries this year to treat it)
Do remember that many women will have a healthy baby after a miscarriage .❤️🌈✨ xoxo
We took the positive out of it too, you have to don’t you.
My fertility doctor said to us “ through the dark cloud the silver lining is that you did conceive and this is positive. “ I thought it summed it beautifully. ✨✨✨xoxo
That’s what we do, try to reassure each other. I’ve done the same myself so many times. I’ve been on the receiving end of feeling reassured too. I would have offered you reassurance over spotting too, had I seen it. But I think you know what you’re feeling and going through. There’s a fine line between reassurance and getting someone’s hopes up. I hope I’m making sense and not upsetting you in any way (obviously you’re upset anyway). I just wanted you to know I’ve been there and I’m sorry. I wish you weren’t experiencing this xx
No, I understand what you mean. That’s exactly right it’s so hard. I’m just gonna keep an eye on it and see what happens next but I don’t think it’s going to work out x
I’m so sorry to hear this. I saw your post and actually felt a bit sick and my stomach went into knots. I don’t know that there are any words so I’ll just say I’m so sorry and I’m thinking of you. We will all get there one day xxx
I don’t think anyone would know what to do with themselves in your position. Have you spoken to the clinic?
I don’t know if you have people to talk to but if you ever need a friendly ear then I can always meet for a coffee or something. I live in East Twickenham so shout if you ever need it xx
Aww that’s lovely hun. I’m over in a Ashford but can always drive over to meet up, it would be nice to talk to someone that is going through similar xx
I'm so sorry to read this. I don't think people truly understand how devastating these early miscarriages are, especially when you've been through so much already. Thinking of you xx
I have also just had a chemical pregnancy after a FET. Pretty devastated this end. So hard to be up one minute and down the next 😕. Hopefully it will be our turn next time.
Sorry to read this. Like many of the other ladies I’ve been there too and it’s an awful feeling to go from cloud 9 to a burst bubble. All I can say is take some time to grieve and be kind to yourself. Like you say, it is at least proof you can get pregnant which is one hurdle you’ve overcome. Many ladies do go on to have a healthy baby after a chemical - I got my BFP 2 FETs later and I’d also had a BFP prior to my chemical so it shows that sometimes it’s just a cruel twist of fate that happens for no reason. Look after yourself x
Thank you hun. So sorry that you too have gone through this.
I am on autopilot now I think doing my usual of trying to look ahead and plan if we can do a frozen before the end of the year! Crazy to some to be like this but it’s my way of coping xx
Yes, I did exactly the same. Just wanted to put it behind me and get on with my next cycle. It was when I got a BFN on my next cycle that it really hit me and I let myself grieve properly. It does get easier over time I promise, but it’s something you learn to live with x
Thanks hun. I do just want to sit and cry but know it wont change anything, so i have come into work just auto piloting on and hoping it wont hurt so much eventually x
So sorry to be reading this .... its so so cruel this journey at times ... i to had a chemical, words cant describe how i felt sending you big bugs lovely i hope you and your partner are ok ... be kind to yourself Xx
Thanks Hun. I’m sorry that you have also been through this, it’s just so unfair ☹️
I’m on autopilot today I think, just getting on as I can’t just sit around crying. I know for some it’s crazy to think about next steps but that’s the way I cope, so I’m hoping we can get an FET done before the end of the year! Xx
Thats the best way to be it gives you something to focus on i was the same we have decided to do a none medicated transfer after xmas im now starting to look forward to that .... it is so unfair this process i had a consultation after my last failed fet and the consultant reasured me that it wasnt me nor my partner we will do this one day, that reasured me and made me feel less of a failure its an awfull process really plays with your emotions and mental health ..... wishing you lots of luck lovely x x
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