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Evening all, I suppose I wanted to write this post in the hope that I will feel less like the only one who feels this... it’s hit me hard over the festive period as I’m the only one left in my friendship group with no children...

I have found myself avoiding social situations... once I’m there I generally have a great time. But this whole fertility journey consumes me and I find it hard to think of much else (were about to start our first cycle once hubby has gotten his karyotyping back).

Anybody found any helpful ways to ease the anxiety around the whole process? I have the mindful ivf app but I understand that’s more for once you begin, and I have acupuncture when possible...

thanks in advance!!

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You’re not alone Pip, I could have written your post. No helpful advice but Christmas & New Year are a hard time xxx

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Thank you lovely, it’s a hard one isn’t it. I try not to let it take over me but it’s really difficult xxx

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It is. I’m hoping everything starts feeling better after the festive period. Good luck wherever you are on this journey xx

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The Christmas season is just a complete nightmare isn’t it.

It’s really a time for children and families and the fact that we are struggling to have children means that every day just hurts.

I don’t have an answer as to how to make it easier but You aren’t alone. I think when the pressure to be festive and happy eases then hopefully it will get bearable again xx

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Thank you Kyell, I hope so. Roll on 2018!! X

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Thanks Rebecaron, we’re just waiting to start our first ivf cycle. Thank you for your reply

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Hi no advice sadly I know how you feel I just posted elsewhere that it’s been really hard to watch other people posting their posts about what Santa has bought and going to sit on Santa’s knee along with all the new announcements etc so I get it.

I wish you so much luck and baby dust ✨✨✨

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Thank you oregan, it’s really tough - much tougher than I’ve ever found before.

Wish you lots of luck too xx x x

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I booked a last minute trip to go away and do something active for just me and hubby from the 23rd Dec to today. It’s been the best decision I ever made. For the first time in YEARS I’ve actually had a nice festive break. We’ve been out exercising in the fresh air every day and I deleted all social media for the main couple of days so I didn’t get overwhelmed with the constant kid-focussed “look at our perfect and complete family” posts.

I had one wobble on Christmas Day where I got a bit teary in the morning but other than that I’ve actually managed to have a whole lot of fun...something I never thought I would say about this time of year.

I hope you managed to get through it and that next year, for a whole other, happier reason, you’re not feeling like this! Xx

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I think going away may be the way forward Kezbag! (Although Hopefully xmas 2018 will be different!) social media doesn’t help does it?

All the best!! X

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Hi lovely, just wanted to say you are definitely not alone in how you are feeling. Christmas is an especially hard time. I have been feeling the exact same way. I'm not sure i can offer any useful advice but i have found opening up to those close to me and chatting on this forum has helped massively. Take care and sending BIG hugs. My inbox is always open xxx

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Thanks for your reply Poppy. It’s hard isn’t it? It’s reassuring that it’s not just me but my heart breaks for anybody else feeling the same xxx

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I was going to say acupuncture, it helped my daughter immensely. Try and keep yourself busy and try to not over think it all, hard I know. Keep coming on here, vent your anger, say how you feel because all the ladies and men on here totally understand and will help as much as they can. Good luck on your journey xx

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Thank you Gilly, this app is a godsend! All those things I always want to say but can’t always find the right way to say it....

thank you x

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Hi Pip, I came on here to pretty much write the same post! I’ve torpedoed plans for new year. After spending 5 days with my side of the family and kids, I couldn’t face travelling to visit my husbands family and friends with their children. So that’s another thing to feel guilty about.! I wish I could say more to help but know that it seems like we’re not alone in feeling this way. We start IVF in January too, let me know if you want to keep in touch :) hope and happiness for you x

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Hi LittleBlue, it’s really hard isn’t it as I make excuses as to why I can do things, then I spend the night feeling guilty about it!

I’d love to keep in touch, I’ll pop you an inbox message xx

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