Take 4: FET cycle with donor egg

[SushiTilly]

Hey Everyone

one whole year later, I am back in Alicante for FET cycle, my fourth try, never pregnant using donor egg to make embryo. The 5AAs never stuck and tomorrow it’s down to 4BC. Not sure how to feel about tomorrow. I avidly read this forum, so many mixed stories. Not sure how to hold this one, I have worked hard but I have found I don’t overdue the health regime because I started out hopeful, now I can never know how to feel in this situation.

So another 2ww is upon me from tomorrow. This time I have to travel directly to work, in another EU country then fly home Thursday back home. I wish I could be around other women like me in real life. It’s hard to go thought it.

Would love some support.

[Doodlebug23]

Good luck!! I used DE and clinic in Alicante. Took me 7 transfers of 10 embryos and it was my lowest ever graded BB that stuck! Sending positive vibes. 🍀

[SushiTilly in reply to Doodlebug23]

Hey Doodlebug23 - your story is one that I refer to my DH, we both had FET last year around same time last January. Your BB stuck whilst my AA dropped. I remember your 2ww the positive vibes you had, then anguish of early testing, then unexpected positive. I was so happy you had baby in the end. What a miracle. Everyone in my clinic wish me well, they’ve asked me to do something different this time, take prednisone 5mg, although Eshre does not advocate for it. I’m never pregnant and 43 years old, today they wanted to take my husband sperm just in case we needed more treatment and I told them to test it first, as expected (part of reason we can’t get naturally pregnant) is low with lack of quality.

News feels grim. I do want to believe in miracles, I want to believe all my prays, wishes, and financial as well as effort will bring us some joy.

Whilst I’m in Alicante, I do remember your journey. So happy it come so true for you.

thank you for reaching out.

Xxx

[Doodlebug23 in reply to SushiTilly]

I had prednisolone too on my transfer. This is your time!!! Stay positive and attract that positivity right back your way!

[Monsie97]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I’m on the DE pathway as well. This part of the journey can be brutal. But I’m going to hold hope for you. It might work this time, you never know. So good luck and sending lots of positive vibes x

[SushiTilly in reply to Monsie97]

Thank you Monsie97

I will pray that your FET comes out well. Sending you lots of luck. It’s certainly is the most challenging experience.

This trip to Spain has been pleasant, the sunshine, and transfer itself was little scaring. I saw the three bubbles of water carrying the embryo, that little dot…may it stick to give me chance I so long to receive.

❤️

[Sunshine809]

Wishing you the best of luck! I've heard many people say that their lowest graded embryo was the one which stuck, so hopefully it will be the same for you 😊

I'm with a clinic in Alicante too and it's a beautiful place to visit, so hopefully you can have a little relax before you jet off for work xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

Thank you Sunshine809, bless you. I hope you have a successful experience.

Alicante this time feels great, lots of sunshine, eating great food. I think coming here in January is great, beats the cold weather back home. We are relaxed after transfer I have bit of lower back pain and slight bleed.

Such a tough journey. I hope this last of the pack does something different to what came before. ❤️🙏

[Sunshine809 in reply to SushiTilly]

Glad you've had a nice time 😊 I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! 🍀🤞 xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

Thank you 🙏 just all down to hope now 🫥

[Christianbaby]

It’s okay not to know exactly how to feel right now. Hope, fear, frustration, exhaustion, it’s all valid. What matters is that you’re still showing up for yourself, even after everything you’ve been through. That’s incredible.

Heading into another 2WW with the added stress of travel sounds tough, but I hope you can carve out moments to breathe, even in the chaos.

Cheering for you and holding space for whatever you need to share. Sending strength and hope your way for tomorrow and beyond. xxx

[SushiTilly in reply to Christianbaby]

Thank you, I need all strength as I’ve never had one positive experience in this journey.

My flights in Spain got messed up yesterday so I just flew home instead and took day off to recover. I was tired and felt bit flat. After day of watching tv it has helped.

I really wish IVF can become better there is so many doctors working away that I can’t believe the innovations hasn’t moved on to make significant improvements.

[SushiTilly]

thank you Christianbaby.

Well I saw the bubbles and dot makes it way onto the lining, may Mother Nature come to the rescue to bring the joy we so longed for.

I’m hoping tomorrow travel goes okay. Few days in workshop, taking each day in my stride and each moment lightly.

So much inner strength and peace is required, when odds feel heavy on my soul…my DH sperm quality being low, DE hopefully can make up for it.

Yet I get news people getting pregnant even whilst wearing a coil, that was hard to compute, life is crazy. Crazy and cruel.

I hope. I hope for us.

Thank you for taking the time to reach out. ❤️🙏

[Believers]

Good luck! My Jan 2024 DE transfer in Alicante is currently sleeping on me. She was transfer number 8 and my last embryo.

I took 4 days by myself for my transfer… I even took the train to Valencia to spend the day. It’s great this time of year.

All the best to you xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Believers]

In retrospect I should have taken whole week of to enjoy the sunshine it’s so grim back in Blighty weather wise.

Congratulations after eight cycles it’s wonderful you have your little miracle. 💫💜

I’ve never had a positive pregnancy test, and I’m end of my current package. I am fed up with my clinic in Alicante, I’m constantly having to correct them, it’s so important they communicate better. I’ve had four different doctors and people keep coming and going. It doesn’t fill me with confidence.

I have really worked hard for this round. Although I failed to have reduce my weight because I wasn’t well towards end of last year with little activity.

Anyway I am rambling can you tell it is 2ww…no symptoms. Can you tell me which clinic you used - dm me…like to hear which clinic people used to get their little miracle.

Xx

[Believers in reply to SushiTilly]

I’ve messaged you xxx