Such diagnoses, what to do

[margaret123456]

I have diagnoses: endometriotic cyst of the right ovary, genital herpes, bending of the uterus. At the husband - a left varicocele (a problem in a testicle), that too influences quality of a semen. In general, the full complex, we found each other. The operation needs to be done both for me and for my husband. It's good that we went to the ultrasound, I, for example, several times. On ultrasound, we have identified the reasons. Although we need to be examined again and again.

[sally007]

Oh Margaret, it's a nightmare, you have so many problems. I do not even know what to advise you, maybe you should join the program of surrogacy? And what does the doctor promise you, how long will the treatment last? I would even advise you to use donor sperm. First of all, that your future baby, if it is a boy, did not have such problems as your husband. Maybe you will not like my advice and they will seem too premature, but you can waste time in vain. Can you get pregnant with such diagnoses even after treatment? After all, no one can guarantee that it will go well. And even more so, you and your husband have problems.In my opinion, the only chance for you is a surrogacy and the use of donor material. Are you sure that the treatment will be successful? Are you sure that you can bear and give birth to a child? You know, I think about surrogacy, and for my case. I also had a difficult situation, but I tried to find a way out of it. But to you I wish successes in treatment and belief in the best. Although I still advise you to talk to your doctor about the possibility of surrogacy.I apologize if my sharp comment has upset you.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi margaret123456. Well, you have certainly got a lot going on here. Firstly, it seems that you suffer with endometriosis, and this why you have the endometrial cyst, where bleeding has occurred inside it. This will probably need to be removed by surgery. You would need separate treatment for the genital herpes. Not too sure what you mean by a “bent” uterus. Is it just tilting backwards?? If so, having treatment such as IVF would not be a problem. Perhaps having a hysteroscopy (womb x-ray) would diagnose this properly, and could be done when your cyst is “sorted out”. The varicocele your husband has might be left alone, unless it is affecting his sperm count. It is like a varicose vein that creates heat, which can affect sperm production. Lots to sort out, but hopefully you should eventually be able to try for a baby, probably with IVF/ICSI. Obviously, I wish you both well with all of this and hopefully, for success. Thinking of you. Diane

[elis14]

Hi, I wish you strength and energy for new surveys. I hope your treatment will be successful. But unfortunately it seems to me that you have been given the right advice about surrogacy. I think that with the help of surrogacy, you will be able to experience the joy of motherhood faster. And what did your doctor tell you, do you have a chance to get pregnant in the future? And another very important question: how old are you and how old is your husband? How long have you been trying to conceive a child?

[margaret123456]

Hi, thank you for your answers and recommendations. You asked me a lot of questions, but I'll try to give you an answer to each of them. I understand that the situation is not quite simple. I also understand that no one will be able to give us guarantees that we get to conceive a child naturally or even using IVF. But you must understand me, I can not live peacefully, knowing that I can try to do something to have my own child and maybe even a few children. Of course, my husband and I talked about surrogacy. Since he also has problems, he would agree to a surrogacy. But you must understand that this issue is very disturbing to us. Because we do not know where to apply for joining the surrogacy program. Of course, there are many such clinics abroad. But how to choose the best clinic? How not to make a mistake? We also do not know whether we can use our own egg or we will need to borrow them from the donor. You see, we would really like to have our own children. I understand that many couples use donor eggs, but this issue worries us very much. I would really like to hear from you the answers to my questions. And also I thank you for sharing your stories and advice with me. I am very pleased that you support me.