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[Dreamingofbaby]

Just tested today my otd and got a bfn😔. Any tips and advice of where to go from here? Think I’ve got a frozen transfer option. What helps to give the best chance for this you reck? Everything was going so well and now just feel broken and like what did I do???

TIA 😐

[ChloBo84]

Hi Chloe.

So sorry for your bfn. After all the hard work we go through to get to that point, it hardly seems fair does it.

God, I really am so so sorry!

I didn’t even get that far on my first ivf cycle back in June, mine was cancelled after a week of stimming. (Am awaiting my 2nd try starting mid November)

I know I can’t give you much advice, but I just wanted you to know you’re not on your own, and just wanted to share what I’m doing to try and get to where we want to be ...

Things I’ve done differently to prepare myself this time round - I’ve had acupuncture done, I’ve started listening to a mindfulness ivf app which talks you through the stages of the ivf process and just relaxes your head space and allows your body to relax too.

I’ve decided to try and take on as much of a positive outlook as I possibly can (I’m normally very anxious and a total worrier) so have tried to stay away from negative thoughts.

I so hope you’re able to do an fet cycle chloe. Take care of yourself, take the time you need, don’t rush. And then go into your next cycle with your head held high.

Sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts for you

Xx

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to ChloBo84]

Thank you. Good advice. What the mindfulness app called always up for something like that ☺️

Positivity is good but hard a😏

Onwards 🤔

[ChloBo84 in reply to Dreamingofbaby]

It’s called Mindful Ivf. The guy on it talking you through the breathing exercises etc has a really soft calming Irish accent which is nice to hear compared to an American accent which you find a lot of on meditation apps and stuff.

Positivity is really hard. My hubby is full of positivity, and it used to be so hard hearing him always saying, I’ve got a good feeling this month. But I’ve taken a leaf out of his book this time round and trying to apply it to myself.

Again Chloe, I’m so sorry it didn’t work this cycle for you 😔 it really is such a cruel and turbulent journey. But I do hope you get some good news soon.

Xx

[E_05]

It’s nothing you did so don’t blame yourself, BFN are really cruel. Did you try Acupunture, if not I’d definitely recommend it not only for the infertility side but it also helped with my anxiety. I hope you get some answers at your next apt xx

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to E_05]

Thanks Hun. Yeah not tried acupuncture. Thought about reflexology but not tried. How does it help? Will have to have a look. Up for everything and anything 🤔x

[E_05 in reply to Dreamingofbaby]

I’ve never tried reflexology but I’ve had Acupunture 3/4 cycles and it’s said to help prepare your body for the embryo transfer. For me personally though it really helps with my anxiety and I just leave feeling calmer. I hope you find something that helps you x

[Scarlett13]

You've done nothing wrong! How devastating though to go through everything that you have and to have hope and then to have a bfn. I'm really sorry and hope you don't have to wait to long to have an FET! At least you have one frozen one? Fingers crossed! Sorry it's not been your time this time but I'm sure it'll come xxx

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to Scarlett13]

Thank you. Yeah I hope I have not done anything. Guess it natural to question if could’ve done more which sure could’ve but guess can’t dwell n gotta keep on😏 yep indeed gotta stay positive for my fet. Hope to ring them today and at least start that process x

[Hidden]

So sorry to hear this, sending u hugs as BFN are so cruel xx

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to Hidden]

Thank you appreciate it. Def very cruel😩

[vic77]

Bfns are the worst..I have had 3 so I feel your pain. After our first bfn I looked at different vitamins, food, bought book called it starts with the egg, mindfulness and acupuncture. It helps to feel like you are doing something and to then get a plan for your wee snow baby xxx

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to vic77]

Bless you sorry to hear that yep def the worst boo. Ooh will look into the book thank you. Mindfulness def have to do more. Acupuncture maybe I should try. Not convinced at mo but only as know nothing about it 🤔🤔 thanks Hun x

[Dream32]

I'm sorry to here about your BFN, just be yourself in your next round of IVF, don't start until your ready and I did acupuncture I started before my cycle I find it very relaxing more than anything and feel it helped me through. Wishing you lots of luck x