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Think positive and never give up 😀

Hey I am so sorry for your loss 😭 I can feel the pain what you went through😢

I also had FET on 28th September last week I had the blood test done n I also did home pregnancy test at home which was positive and I couldn't believe on my eyes but I waited for the blood test result that was also positive.

But all of sudden Saturday evening I spotted some blood and had lower abdominal pain so I called ambulance they took me to A&E when I got there I started to bleed heavily 😭 I was so heart broken 😭 when I told the doctor who was attending me she said it seems like you are having a miscarriage and then she said you might not be. She took my blood test n urine sample to check and then one of the gaenacologyst came in and she did the internal examination she said it doesn't look like you are having a miscarriage as the inside of womb is closed I was like really? 😳 started praying that nothing goes wrong to my baby as I was 2 weeks and 3 days pregnant 🤰 too early to tell how many babies I was carrying as I had 2 FET. It was my second cycle of IVF. But anyway since Saturday I was admitted in hospital and I was confused until yesterday morning whether I am still pregnant or not? They did the first scan on Sunday where they couldn't see the baby as it was early pregnancy so she said we'll do a second scan after 48 hours, which was due on Tuesday morning so I was like okay and kept my hopes up that everything goes well. So from Saturday till Tuesday they did couple of blood tests and took urine samples and it was still showing my pregnancy but then Monday evening I got a call from lab and the nurse told me that my blood test level is dropping down so seems like you are having a miscarriage I was so heart broken but I was still praying. Anyway Tuesday morning I had a scan where she declared that I had a miscarriage and she said she'll give me the tablets to clear it from inside but she also said that with those tablets I will be in so much pain so I refused to take the tablets and told her that I want it to clear out naturally as I can't take this pain how am I gonna cop up with that pain so I refused to take the tablets. I stayed in hospital due to really bad pain in my lower abdominal.

Anyway After the scan the doctors decided to send me home with some pain killers. So in the afternoon they discharged me.

Moral of sharing my story was that these doctors confused me sooo much that one was saying I am still pregnant and one was saying I had a miscarriage all these days I've stayed in hospital I was not clearly told that I had a miscarriage. One doctor saying something and the other saying something else😳 I felt like that these doctors don't discuss anything with each other as there wasn't one or two doctors attending me there were couple of doctors who attended me during the time I stayed in hospital. Plus they couldn't tell the reason why I had a miscarriage?????

I had miscarriage in March 2017 but the doctors were unable to tell me why I had the miscarriage. It was only 8 days after the embryos were transferred.

These doctors should at least tell us the reason of miscarriage.

Now I have to wait another 2 months to recover and mostly likely my 3rd cycle will start in December or January and I only have one Frozen Embryo left😢 if I fail the 3rd cycle of IVF then I will have to pay the costs of IVF 😭😭 I don't know what I am gonna do. But when I found out I had a miscarriage I felt like committing suicide. As I have nothing left behind 😭😭 but thank God I've controlled myself but honestly I am so heart broken. That I am crying most of the times 😭😭😭😭 I don't wanna meet anyone. I just wanna lock my self up in a room n cry cry cry so no one can stop me from crying 😭 I feel I have lost everything😭

My husband is giving up on these long waited hospital appointments but I am not giving up because I know not today not tomorrow or maybe not day after tomorrow but one day God will bless me with baby 😊 I have my positive hopes up👍🏻 so ladies please don't give up and make yourself strong enough😘

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Oh hunny this is awful...I am so so sorry for your loss and then how you were treated just awful..it is understandable you feel the way you do. Allow yourself time to grieve and find your strength again which you do have as you got this far. I am sure the fab ladies on here will offer support and messages of encouragement that will help too..take care of yourself xxx

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Thank you so much vic77 😘 I'm just crying now and then coz after my pregnancy was confirmed I started to plan things for baby but since I got home I feel so empty handed not happy at all but still thinks that the 1 embryo I have left maybe that will be my luckiest one 😁 fingers crossed 🤞

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I so hope so too xx

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Hey Shan! I’m so sorry for your loss. Such a horrible thing to go through! And I’m the same with the crying 😢 I have cried everyday since! Just let it out Hun.

I had an infection that got into the uterus but that’s all I know, don’t even know the name of it. It’s disappointing the lack of information we get told, & the time we have to wait.

I also have only 1 embryo left fingers crossed that these are our little miracles. ✨🌈 xx

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Hope85 thank you Hun I'm also sorry for your loss 😭 but yeah never give up keep trying God will bless us with baby soon 😊

Maybe this 1 embryo is our lucky one 😁 fingers crossed 🤞

Keep me posted 😘

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So sorry for all you’ve through, allow yourself to grieve for your baby. Unfortunately doctors can’t usually give any answers as to why there cruel things happen xx

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Yeah E_05 thank you but it's very painful 😖

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Definitely is, I’m currently going through my 2nd miscarriage so definitely understand the heartache and frustration for having no answers.

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E_05 so sorry to hear that Hun 😘 my best wishes n hugs 🤗 for you 😘 we are in the same stage now I will be starting my 3rd cycle of treatment hopefully in December 🤞

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I’m so sorry for your loss and also the trauma you have gone through in the way you were treated. Unfortunately the drs still don’t know much about why people miscarry: 1 in 4 pregnancies and a lot of women never find out why it happens to them. It doesn’t mean it will happen next time. Wishing you lots of luck for your next FET- make sure you’ve given your body time to heal before you start again x

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So sorry for your loss and to hear that you were given so much mixed information, making it even harder to process. how you are feeling is understandable but your spirit is strong and your hope inspirational. Keep believing your day will come xxx

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