Feeling so happy to not feel bitter

[ZigZag90]

Just found out that a work friend is pregnant after trying for three years. I am so so happy for her and loving the fact that I do not feel bitter like I usually do when people announce pregnancies. I guess because I know how hard she was trying.

I was quite open with her about that fact that I was trying and struggling early on and she in return opened up to me so it's always been something we've chatted about whenever we see each other.

It's so lovely to feel genuinely happy for someone else with no jealous feelings and it's refreshing to not feel like a bitter cow and then feel bad for feeling like this.

I'm hoping that I and all you ladies still trying out there can make the same exciting announcement soon. Fingers crossed for everyone.

[ClarabGlasgow]

My friend text me yesterday with her bsbybnews and similarly I feel happy for her. It's cos I know she's been trying for 2 years so it didn't just come to her on a plate. It's funny to feel that way when of course none of it is about deserving or serving your time, it's just so random! But knowing other people have struggled does give a sense of fairness about it all and that little bit of hope that we will eventually celebrate the same outcome. Good luck xx

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when you know someone has succeeded after a hard battle you are friends with you are wholeheartedly glad for them as it feels fair. I think its when it feels unfair is what upsets people and the attitude of those concerned.

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its because you are close friends and know how much she has suffered so you feel its fair which is why you are glad for her without bitterness.

[kelsbels88]

I know how you feel, the ppl who know we are trying always say “isn’t it hard working with her?” ( j work closely with a friend who struggled) But I knew she struggled and was trying so I was genuinely happy for her and then when someone else who wasn’t trying announced a few weeks later I was a ball of tears and anger. It is strange how some effect you more than others. I have again had to take myself off of social media because of pictures of babies and announcements.

I agree it is lovely to genuinely feel happy for someone who has struggled and not feel sad or bitter xx

One day it WILL be our turn xxx have hope and faith xx