IVF couples - we're stronger than we know! 💑💜

[Amanda86]

Seen this and thought I'd post it.

I remember before I went through my first IVF a girl in work (who had been through IVF herself and it was successful first time) told me that the breakdown of her marriage started during fertility treatment. I remember being terrified and thinking I don't want that!!

For me and my OH it's made us so much stronger! I love him to bits and I believe that we'll have a child together one day whether it be through IVF or adoption.

I hate this journey like everyone, but I have friends who are with their partners and have children and they aren't happy. Of course, I wish conceiving had been easy for us and we didn't need IVF, but I'd hate to be in a relationship with someone and wonder why I'm with them. I look at these friends and do think IVF would break their relationship.

One particular friend told me that if her partner had sperm issues (as my partner does) she would hate him and she would definitely resent him. She said she could only cope if the issue lied with her.

I'm extremely greatful to be with someone who through all of this we've come out stronger. He's my best friend 🙂

#ivfcouples #amazingpartners

❤️💛💙

[Cinderella5]

Ahhhh you're so right Amanda86 !! Even although we're having the issues we are we are lucky in finding that special person, my husband is my best friend too! This made me well up a wee bit!xx

[Amanda86 in reply to Cinderella5]

Me too!! AF is due and I'm feeling very emotional! Lol xxx

[Hidden]

I'm glad you've posted this. I was thinking the same about my hubby last week. Our issues are with me and his sperm is fine but he has still stopped drinking alcohol and takes his vitamins as we need his little tadpoles to be the best they can be. He sees it that we both have to make sacrifices and we're in it together, and I have had friends in the past where their partners have not been willing to stop drinking or smoking as "there is nothing wrong with them". I also came home last week and told my hubby that there is a risk of redundancy at work and since we only get funding till next march as I turn 40 then I can't delay treatment nor can I really move jobs with all the time off I need and flexibility. The upshot is that if I get made redundant I may not be able to work during treatment for a few months as this is our main priority. He was so supportive and basically said we'll manage if I lose my job. He really is my best friend too.

We may not have been blessed on the baby front yet but we're luckier than most people with our partners xx

[Amanda86 in reply to Hidden]

That is so lovely!! 🙂❤️

I completely agree. Majority of my friends have asshole partners and I thank my lucky stars than I don't have to put up with that on top of IVF treatment.

We're all very lucky to have such caring partners 🙂Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Amanda86]

We are. He may not think I'm so wonderful after two weeks of stims but we'll see 😀 x

[Amanda86 in reply to Hidden]

Haha 🙂 Good luck! 🍀 xxx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

So true, my husband is exactly the same with no drinking etc. He's the same and says I'm the one having to put my body through everything so the least he can do is give up having a drink! I wouldn't go through this journey with anyone else but him x

[Tugsgirl]

This is so true. I can't deny our struggles to have a baby haven't affected me but I can honestly say it hasn't affected our relationship, if anything we're stronger. We are a team. And we're so loved up lol xx

[Amanda86 in reply to Tugsgirl]

That's really nice 🙂 I agree in being a team. We face it together. Xxx

[E_05]

This is so true! They say having a baby tests your relationship, I think it should be try not being able to have one!! My husband is my absolute rock, no matter what we're faced with together we always get through it. I totally agree I'd much rather be in a strong, loving relationship and have a child that we both want than be with someone who makes me miserable. What a lovely post xx

[Amanda86 in reply to E_05]

I completely agree. I think this is one of the most testing things a relationship can go through! Xxx

[Missy_22]

Well said !!! ❤️

[Sunshine09]

So true!! My husband and I have been together since we were 12, inseparable at school, unseperable in infertility, and we sure as heck going to be inseparable in parenthood 💪 🌈❤💋💋

[Amanda86 in reply to Sunshine09]

Aww 😀 Now that is true love!! ❤️ xxx

[Sunshine09 in reply to Amanda86]

Although I think we can all relate to that one or two times we could poke them in the eye lol xx❤🌈💋

[Amanda86 in reply to Sunshine09]

Oh yes 100% lol!! I know I definitely can 😂😂 xxx

[Sunshine09 in reply to Amanda86]

😂😂 good luck with this round 🤞❤🌈💋

[Amanda86 in reply to Sunshine09]

Thank you very much! Good luck to you also xxx