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Sorry ladies this is going to be a bit of self pity but why is life so unfair!

So my SIL that recently had her baby has now split with my brother. She said she only got pregnant again cause she didn't want my nephew to be an only child and didn't want 2 children from different dads. Apprantley she knew she wasn't happy with my brother.

Me and my husband (as most of you) are facing every difficult situation life is being thrown at us, have a loving marriage and home yet still can't bring a life into this world.

My emotions have already been every where this week and I'm not even due to start down reggin' till next week. I'm excitedly anxious about a 2nd fresh cycle as I'm worried it won't go as well as last years now all this extra rubbish on top of it, don't know if I want to cry or scream..arghhh! 😤

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Keep strong!<3

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aww it is even harder when you find out things like this, such care free attitudes. Wishing you all the luck for this next cycle xx

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Ah how horrible to hear that.. especially when you would give anything you could for a baby and there's people out there that have babies for their own selfish reasons.

Stay strong and positive xx

One of my friends recently commented that babies appear to be the go-to relationship fixer as a number of couples we know who had only been together a few months all got pregnant. Don't these people care?! I wouldn't have dreamed of getting pregnant if I wasn't in a secure, happy relationship!

I share your frustration and wish you so much luck with your cycle xxxxxxxx

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Thank you all for you lovely replies x

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Awww thinking of you

sorry to hear the troubling time you've been through especially with your bro and SIL that must be tough.

Hope you can keep positive, as I was told earlier it will make when it's our turn so much more magical xoxo

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Thank you. That's what I keep telling myself I know when I have my baby it'll be born into a loving marriage which will complete our family which is sadly what they don't have xx

It massively unfair rant away ! I hear you.. But take comfort from the fact when you and hubby do have a child your child will have strong parents setting a positive example to your child how a marriage should be. As much as you want a baby you wouldn't want to be on your own raising two children. My hubby's brother and partner are another example of people without a thought creating a life ( this awful excuse for a woman has already had two children taken off her and has another child just like that and didn't even appreciate it and smoked throughout her own pregnancy) but now their relationship is struggling under the pressure they have never faced hard times ( we don't have anything to do with them- long story) I think to myself going through this horrendous time with my husband has brought us closer together and that has built a solid foundation for our relationship and when we have a child we appreciate that bit more and our relationship is tried and tested- we've been through bad times and come out of the other side still together. And it's the same for you . It will be worth it when you get that positive test- deep breaths you can do this xoxo

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Thank you so much. I know your definitely right some days it's just hard to keep positive when that desperation takes over. I've always said even to them mine and my hubbys relationship is strong and continues to get stronger because of the challenges we face. One day it'll be our turn to complete our family (we have 2 cocker spaniels) so I always say a healthy baby is all I need now xx

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