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1st failed IVF over 40s

Hi Everyone, I just had my 1st failed IVF cycle. Devastated but trying to cope. Does anyone know how long one should wait until I can try again ? while I wait can I try naturally? I am in my early 40's. Thank you

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Sorry to hear this, I'm yet to start round 1 so don't know the answers but just wanted to say that I hope you can find the strength and positivity to keep going with your baby dreams xxx if you have a chance to fall naturally, I hope you can keep trying without having to wait xxx

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Thank you Scarlett13 , we are going to try naturally while we wait for next appointment. Keep trying.... good luck to you. x

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Hi MrsAb77, oh it's so hard and scary at this point isn't i?. Keep the faith though and listen to your own body and mental/ emotional well being as you go through this process to help you with the decision making process. There are a lot of variables here, dependent on whether you are nhs or private, natural/ mild protocols or high dosages etc. But I can say that I crammed in lots of tries one after another in the space of a year (see my profile or previous posts) and I can't see why you shouldnt be able to try in between :) As I said, you just need to look after yourself physically/emotionally/ mentally so you are in good condition to give yourself the best chances and cope with what comes after (hopefully a positive outcome but more work for your body/mind). After a really intense couple of years I am due to be induced and meet my miracle on Friday ... fingers crossed for the final hurdle. I am 41 and a half by the way xx good luck, be brave and most of all try to remember to be kind to yourself xxx

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Awww Datak that is wonderful news. I am so happy to hear your story and eager to learn about your journey......I am so inspired already. Good luck with baby and thank you for sharing xoxo

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I am so sorry to read about your failed cycle. It is heartbreaking. Yes keep trying naturally of course but Datak is right you need to consider your emotional well being as it drains you both physically and psychologically. You normally have to have 2 periods again before another cycle but worth checking with your clinic. I remember after our first bfn the need for a plan and to feel I am doing something helped me cope so I researched and read loads as wanted to feel more informed and that helped. Xx

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Hi Vic77. Thank you for for your advice and that is exactly what I am doing. I have learned things i didn't know before IVF journey that I feel will help me going forward. Had to give up alcohol completely and having a strict diet.

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To be honest I didn't give up alcohol completely as this process so tough I needed a drink at points..I went a bit overboard after our first bfn and when I found myself gagging whilst downing a beetroot and carrot smoothie I drew the line😉we got a 2nd bfn after lots of changes and I have now come down to thinking as long as I am healthy I am not going to live like a nun..I want to enjoy life and what will be will be. I am glad you feel more informed and onwards. .good luck xx

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Hi. So sorry to read of your bfn, it's very hard. My clinic ask for two periods between treatment for your body to heal and gain back some normality. Good luck for whatever you decide next xx

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Thank you Tugsgirl. I will take that on board. My follow up is on 14th July. My private clinic doesn't offer counselling so organised one on NHS today. I have also booked an appointment with NHS fertility to see if I can get one done for free before my 40th in Dec. I will also be trying naturally with hubby as I wait......trying everything I can for now.

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Sounds like you have all bases covered 👍🏻 X

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Thank you Tugsgirl

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Hi MrsAb77. Just wanted to add that - of course you can try naturally while waiting for your next IVF cycle. Your clinic will let you know when the best time is to try again, which will be around 2 months after the last one (general guide). Just wanted to wish you well with it all, and of course for success. Diane

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Thanks ever so much Diana xoxo

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So sorry to hear this it's awful when you don't get the result you want I'm currently in my 3rd round of IVF (Icsi) I waited a good few months even 6 months before we tried again sending you lots of love and positivity xx

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Thank you Amberlily and good luck to you too.they say 3rd IVF is usually successful. I wish you all the best

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So sorry to read this, I am in the same situation, I've just had my 1st failed IVF cycle and like you I'm devastated but trying to cope. I've been told by my clinic I need to have a bleed following my failed cycle which I'm having now then a proper period in July then should be able to get going again in August, I have another 2 frozen embryos, I'm 42 and yes you can try naturally, we will be 😊, wishing you all the best ❤️ x x x

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Dear MichM thank you for your message. I think we are on the same timeline. I am eager to know what happens in your story. Although I don't have frozen embryos like you. I am having a bleed at the moment and I think my next IVF try will be in August based on what I have read on here...2 months wait. Hope it all works out for you. All the best.xoxo

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You can def try naturally when you wait xx

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