1st IVF failed

[Babyjoshua]

Hey ladies

Just did my first cycle of IVF but it failed. Any advice if you guys think I should try again? Feeling very discourage.

[Cinderella5]

Sorry to hear you've failed your first treatment. Oh that's a hard one that only you can decide. Lots of us on here have had failures 1, 2, 3 or even more times. The success rates for IVF is so low unfortunately, only around 30%. Perhaps you just need to take some time out and build some strength to see if you want to try again. Im not quite sure where we get the energy from to try again but many of us do! Look after yourself meantime!xx

[Babyjoshua in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you very much for your advice I will take the time out to see if i should try again

[strong-girl]

My first cycle failed and Iv had a bfp with my second cycle I know how u feel though I was going to give up and took 6 months to think about it but we are strong and u will get through this all the best xx

[Babyjoshua in reply to strong-girl]

Thank you but what is a bfp

[strong-girl]

Ooo it’s a big fat positive

[Babyjoshua]

Oh thank for the clarification. Good luck and congratulation

[KB11]

Sorry to hear your first round failed, it is a tough time. I had one failed fresh round and then a failed frozen cycle (was lucky enough to have some frozen from first cycle) and now have a positive from 3rd attempt (very early days so keeping everything crossed).

Take some time to see how you feel. I knew I wanted to try again as soon as I could but everyone is different. I was lucky enough to not have side effects from the drugs so I know it can be a tougher process for some x

[Babyjoshua in reply to KB11]

Thank you for your encouragement and I will definitely take it into consideration. My only side effects from the drug for me is the weight gain.

[NDE1987]

Hey Hun, so sorry to hear it failed, that pain dosent go away. My cycle worked on number 3. I had two failed IUIs and two ivfs. But my third cycle a dforzen cycle worked. My husband and I took about 6 motnhs off before we were ready to try again. Ivf takes over your life so please take time out to be you again x

[Babyjoshua in reply to NDE1987]

Thank you and it really does from the test to the medication and the wait it's just so stressful.

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you and congratulation

[Caza2009]

So sorry to hear your first cycle failed. I know how depressing that is. Take some time out for yourself and then decide what you want to do. My first cycle failed and I am now waiting for AF to come so I can start my FET. Sending you loads of love 💕 xx

[Becca21 in reply to Caza2009]

Sorry to hear about your failed cycle as well. Yeah, you're right it's probably the best to take a break till you're ready. I need a mini-vacation too when we had to decide about donor conception after 2 failed attempts. We've realized that the break was much needed and helps you both reconnect and catch up on all that you've missed so far over the TTCs, failures, state of panic and everything else.

Just wanted to write to you to send love and good luck to you too!

[Caza2009 in reply to Becca21]

Hey, thanks for your reply! (I have just replied to your post actually 😊)

I definitely think you’re right about the holiday - my OH and I are off on hol next weekend for a week to regroup and spend quality time together before I start meds for FET (well that’s if AF decides to make an appearance any time soon!!)

Sending you so much luck and love for your FET 💕💕💕 xxx

[Babyjoshua in reply to Caza2009]

Thank you and I pray that it all work out for you. Sending you extra baby dust your way

[Caza2009 in reply to Babyjoshua]

Thank you!! 😊 you too 🌈 xx

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you very much

[Apdp]

Sorry to hear it didn’t work, it’s so difficult. I’ve so far had a failed fresh and frozen cycle. Feel each time gets harder and I feel worse - so upset. It is hard to keep going. My husband said to me if it is making you so ill and upset. That was the point to me I thought I can’t give up and need to keep trying x

[Babyjoshua in reply to Apdp]

That is so true I guess it's too early to make a decision because it hasn't been a week yet since my negative beta test. Thank you

[NsKaz]

So sorry to hear that. My first round failed and I was devastated. It was hard to gear up for the second round and I felt so negative about it all, but I’m so glad I did cos it worked and I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant. You will find the strength to keep going. Don’t give up - it’s so worth it! Xxx sending u lots of love xx

[Babyjoshua in reply to NsKaz]

I hope I do find the strength because my husband wants me to try again but I don't think he understand because his body don't have to go through nothing. Lol

[NsKaz in reply to Babyjoshua]

You will, but just take your time. My clinic said I had to wait 3 months following my bfn but actually when it came to it I didn’t feel ready so waited another month. Just be kind to yourself xx

[Babyjoshua in reply to NsKaz]

Well I think I am going to wait a year if I do go back because my clinic is oversea from where I live so we have to save up some funds.

[Becca21]

I'm so sorry to hear that your first IVF failed. Honestly, in spite of being in the same shoes none of us really know the right set of words to make it ease up or ameliorate what you're going through. All I can say right now is don't let it discourage you... because success lies on the other end... in moving on. I know you'll feel bad and probably there's nothing to really console you, take the time you need to muster your strength and let go of the grief. Cinderella is right, lots of us face the same, even over several attempts... I had 2 failed rounds so far and finally had to settle with donor conception... not sure of the success with full-term pregnancy yet but hoping for it. A failed attempt hurts for sure... but it's not the end of the world. Stay strong, be optimistic and plan out your next move. Sending love and good luck! <3<3

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you very much I really needed da encouragement. Good luck and safe delivery

[Hidden]

I am so sad for you. I know this must be a hard time for you. IVF is indeed an amazing process but yet it is not successful. It is risky and as well as painful. I hope you will find your way soon. I hope you will be a mother one day. IVF works over a number of cycles and if you have a good number of eggs then you could be successful in very early cycles. They would never stop the cycles until you say or conceive. I hope your next cycle will be successful. Take good care of your health and try to relax. Good luck.

[Babyjoshua in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much I have a great number of frozen embryo but it's just the disappointment I can't take but as you say take the time out to decide if we want to try or not

[NB610]

Sorry to hear that your first cycle of ivf failed, I had a failed cycle in February, its devastating, I felt so deflated and emotional, I felt like I couldn't pick myself up from it, i also felt like I didn't want to do it again cos I didn't want to feel like I did when it failed, as the days went by I started to feel better and then couldn't wait to start again, i had a frozen transfer in may and I'm almost 9 weeks pregnant. Please stay positive and believe you will get through this horrible time.

Wishing you luck for the future 😘 Xx

[Babyjoshua in reply to NB610]

Thank you very much for your advice and encouragement. I will see if as the days and months go by if I will try again because has you say I don't want to feel like how I feel now again

[ClayJet]

Hey there Dear. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I know it must be really hard. IVF is a great procedure. It can sometimes take a lot of time. Please don't lose hope. keep trying I wish you good luck.

[Babyjoshua in reply to ClayJet]

Thank you and I am up and down with my emotions one minute am ok the next minute am sad.

[Hidden]

We had a failed cycle and I took a month off worrying - went on a holiday, drank Sangria, swam in the sea and gradually felt better after feeling so low with our BFN.

Try to recharge as much as possible xxx

[Babyjoshua in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[lorraineb61]

Sorry to hear your first cycle was unsuccessful. I am now almost 12 weeks pregnant after my 4th ICSI cycle. We never had had frozen embryos to use so was a fresh cycle every time.

The only thing I would say is don't rush into the next cycle unless you really feel ok about it. We ended up going straight back in and I regretted it and ended up having to go for counselling as it was 2 failures within 3 months. It's a hard decision to make but, for me, I'm glad we persevered. x

[Babyjoshua in reply to lorraineb61]

Thank you and good luck on your journey to motherhood

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you and your so correct ivf allows you to go to the process of mother as nomrl as possible.

[RachAdams]

Hey girl. I am very sorry to hear about you. That's a very hard one to take. But success on the first step isn't guaranteed. You shouldn't give up. Giving up is like the worst thing you can do to yourself. Get up. Give it another shot. If that fails, give it another one. Until you succeed. But you just can't give up on your happiness already. Everyone out her is praying for you. We really hope you succeed. Keep us updated. So much love to you!

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you very much I needed that

[lucyjones8]

Hey there Dear. I am really sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I know it must be really hard. I have been there too. IVF is a blessing. I am sure it will work. Just be hopeful and don't give up. Take care and lots of love.

[Babyjoshua in reply to lucyjones8]

Thank you very much for your advice and love

[ziannarose]

hi, So sorry to know about your loss. Handle the situation wisely and calmly. All will be fine soon. Don't overthink. Stay positive and happy. Think positive all will be fine sweetheart. My best wishes are with you. All the very best. My prayers are with you. Keep smiling. Nothing is possible. Yes, you should give a try . Don't lose hope sweetheart.

[Babyjoshua in reply to ziannarose]

Thank you very much for your advice. Its like you are on a emotional rollercoaster some days your up and other days your down.

[Hidden]

Hi there. Hope you are doing nice. I know it is very hard to bear. I have heard a lot of stories. IVF is usually not successful in the first attempt. So you should go for its second time. I wish luck to you. Good fortunes.

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you for your advice.

[Babyjoshua]

Thank you very much