Feeling emotional..

[E_05]

Hey everyone,

I've seen a couple of posts recently about dealing with friends/family that are pregnant. I posted before about my sister in law being pregnant and well shes due in a couple of weeks and I'm finding it so hard to feel excited for them. I feel guilty even writing that as I wanted to be part of my nephews (she's having a boy and already has a 4 year old) but I can't bare to be near them at the moment.

She'll continually send me insensitive pics, the ones today were of my nephew in the new pram box with the caption 'I didn't realise you could buy toddlers with prams' 😞 maybe I'm just more emotional as I know my periods due and hormones are everywhere.

Hopefully this will get easier?! 😢

[Heyanna2003]

Hey, I totally know what you mean, and feel for you.

My sister is due at the end of August; although I'm very happy for them given that she is 7 years older than me (I'm 31) I cannot help but feel bitter. They only got married last year and my husband and I have been trying since before the got together.

I've just had the news today that 2nd attempt with IVF has failed; so I'm feeling rather sorry for myself. The only saving grace for me is all my family are over 3 hours from where I live so I do not have to go through the daily updates like you have.

I also told my mum today that it had failed and in her second breath after saying I'm really sorry to hear that, she just bangs on how wonderful my brother's children are... I hung up as it makes me feel even worse about myself.

When is luck just going to fall our way?

[E_05 in reply to Heyanna2003]

I'm so sorry to hear about your 2nd cycle, you have every right to feel like that and it must of been such a hard conversation to have with your mum.

I think no matter how hard people try to understand they don't realise how the smallest of things can really affect us.

I hope your being kind to yourself today, I'm sure hope luck will be on both our sides soon 🤞 x

[Hidden]

This happened to me and at the time it is soul destroying. I was going through my first round of ICSI and my sister found out she was pregnant. It was totally unplanned and just 'happened' 😡 It was also going to be the first grandchild in the family so everyone was ecstatic and I was devastated. I felt so guilty about not being happy and I didn't stop crying for 3 days. I do think hormones had a massive part to play in this though and they probably, by the sounds of it aren't helping you.

It's a really difficult situation to be in and I got through it by making all the right noises when around my sister and the baby and then taking my emotions and anger out at home (I felt really sorry for my husband).

If that doesn't work have a quiet word with your sister in law and tell her you love them all dearly and are so happy for them (even if you don't feel you are) but could she be a bit more thoughtful towards your situation . Explain you are finding it very difficult at the moment. You never know she might be really understanding.

I hope you feel better about things soon. Good luck on your journey xx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Ah that's awful for you it always seems to happen that way 😔 I'm the same I often feel rather sorry for my husband lol when they had their first child I was told 2 weeks before Christmas by a very unhelpful GP I would never have children they then decided to announce their pregnancy that Christmas by putting the scan photo in each of our cards. I thought this time she may have realised but doesn't seem like it.

Thank you, good luck on yours to x

[lauren3189]

i think its understandable to feel like this especially when its someone so close to you. I too am having the same issue.

I hope it gets easier too x

[E_05 in reply to lauren3189]

Thank you very much, hope it gets easier for you too. Such a tough place to be in isn't it x

[Georgina78]

Aw Hun that's tough, I completely understand how you feel. Your SIL clearly isn't thinking how that message could affect you but then you feel it affecting the relationship because you're so upset and even a little angry that they would be so oblivious to your feelings. Even if you are more emotional, that doesn't mean you're not right to be upset. I would just not reply to things like that and hopefully she'll get the hint. Big hugs xx

[E_05 in reply to Georgina78]

Thank you, i thought after her having my first nephew and knowing I struggled she'd be a little more sensitive this time. As guilty as I feel not replying I think your probably right best just not to at the moment xx