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Well my sister has just given birth to her new baby girl. This is her 2nd baby in the time we have been trying. I'm really happy for them but I'm really sad that this can't be us. I'm really struggling and don't know how I'm going to react when we go and see them tonight.

How do people do this. 😥

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MeganMae

I'm so sorry for you both going through this.

Whatever way you react, your family should understand that you will have mixed emotions during this time and hopefully take that into account.

My sister is 3 months pregnant so I'm dreading the day I have to do what you are about to do!

I'm sorry I can't be more helpful to you, just wanted you to know I'll be thinking of you tonight! Xx

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Bec-A

My sister in law is also pregnant with her first one. I always thought my husband and I would have kids first so it's really hard. Also the whole family is understandably really excited as it is the first baby in the family 😞 I just try to be happy and supportive, not letting my own disappointment show and just think to myself one day it'll be me, and she'll be happy for me back. It's very hard though!

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NDE1987

Hey hunny just wanted to say your not alone. My sister had a baby last year and she has already said she wants to be pregnant by next year again. I just feel like she's being insensitive by saying stuff like that to me as she knows we have been trying now for 3 years!!! Xx

Hi love, as much its lovely to have close friends and family preggers its always a sore one as you feel further and further away from your own dreams everytime.

I am sure your sister will be well aware of what your feeling inside and hopefully you get through tonights visit without too much emotion.

Just remember your time will come and one day you will be in the exact same place as your sister is now.xx

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sipidania

I think you will see a beautiful new baby girl and be delighted to meet your new niece. No matter how much it hurts you, she's partly yours too, and she will love you forever as her Aunty. I spent many years watching my siblings have children and the most positive thought I found was 'if I never get to have my own babies, these are the closest I will get and I'm going to damn well enjoy them!' I don't know if that helps at all, but either way, don't beat yourself up about it, it's very normal to feel sad in this situation xx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply tosipidania

This is exactly how I feel about my nieces too. They're the closest I've got to my own children so I'm going to appreciate and enjoy them! And the older one, who is four, has turned out to be very like me, both in looks and personality, which is kind of bittersweet but I wouldn't change it for a moment. Xxx

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Leesalou

sorry your feeling sad,

I understand how crap it feels I've been there 4 times with my sisters, and countless times with my friends,

Not sure how I deal with it tbh I just smile and carry on like I always do, but I've got a brilliant bond with all my nephews and nieces which is so lovely to have,

Xx

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