Miscarriage at 8 weeks

I haven't been on this site for quite some time like the rest of you our journeys are an emotional roller coaster and mid October I received the delightful news that I was pregnant had an early scan at 6 weeks all showed normal but today's scan at 12 weeks showed the heart beat had stopped at 8 weeks and ill be miscarrying in the next couple of weeks, earlier this year in June I was diagnosed with low ovarian reserve and had been approved for ivf on the nhs and now I'm not sure what will happen next. I'm very sad but trying to view 2017 as a new year of hope and possibilities as cannot face up to the alternative if anyone has any postive stories and happy outcomes please let me know xxx

[katya38]

So sorry to hear this how heartbreaking xx

[pm27]

I'm really sorry. I had a similar experience from a natural conception a missed mc discovered at the 12 week scan. I had to have treatment as the mc didn't complete naturally. The EPU staff were great.

I hope that 2017 brings you happier news.

[Hidden in reply to pm27]

Thank you and sorry to hear you had a similar experience, all the best for the new yr xxx

[Mantaray75]

So sorry to hear your sad news. I miscarried in August and Christmas was tough with 2 new babies in the immediate family.

Lets all hope that 2017 works out well for us.

x

[Daisy14]

I'm so sorry to hear this, it's just so cruel and unfair. I miscarried naturally and suddenly last year in November at 10 weeks and it was truly awful and I've never been so low. Christmas last year was horrendous and I remember on New Year's Eve sitting in my car refusing to get out to go into a party because of hysterical sobbing. I'd been a mess all day and my husband lost with me and asked if I would ever stop being so miserable. Dark times!

I didn't have much hope but did another fresh cycle eventually in June. It was physically easier as familiar but emotionally hard. Anyway it worked and I'm now 28 weeks and due in March. In many ways I still don't believe it.

There is strength in all of us, but also it's important to take time to grieve. I was torn between having to move on as obsessed with my age but yet in a desperate state of grief. I did wait longer than the clinic and my husband wanted but I'm glad I did.

Wishing you all the best. I know it's a cliche but time does help. Be lovely to yourself and for now take a day at a time. You'll know what I do next.

Good luck xxx

[Hidden in reply to Daisy14]

So happy to hear that your 28 weeks I hope everything is smooth running for you. I just want to move on from the grieve feel like I spend months grieving last year and it's just exhausting I know it will take some time it's just a horrible limbo place to be in, wishing you all the best for 2017 xxx

[Daisy14 in reply to Hidden]

You are so right in that the waiting and grieving is exhausting, the worst of times.

You are already moving on, it won't seem like it day to day but I hope you'll look back in a few weeks and realise what a long way you've come.

Good luck to you xx