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Well two days before I was due to take the pregnancy test I started to bleed. I'd been having period pains for a few days and on that day (Friday) the pain got worse and the spotting was brown in colour. The next day the blood was red and heavy and I knew that was the end.

It's now Monday and I'm still bleeding with mild pains. I phoned the clinic with my negative PT result and the nurse said as long as the bleed gets lighter then it is OK. I just hope that it gets better.

My husband and I are devastated. I would just love to know what went wrong. Is it something I did? I'm not sure where to go from here.

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In all of this one thing that's certain is it's not your fault💕💕💕💕💕💕sometimes it just doesn't work and they don't know why. If they knew it's only take one try and would be guaranteed which we all know it's not💙

Hang in there💕

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Miracle believer is right, there is no blame or shame here .... even if we would prefer it if it meant we had answers. That's the worst bit of this. .... no matter what we do so much is out of our hands. Take time to grieve your response, have some wine and be together.💕💕it is rubbish honey, don't make any hasty decisions xxx


You are never to blame, just remember that! Life is just simple cruel.

I wish we knew why...it's what rips you apart X


Sorry to hear this, it sucks 😔. You did nothing wrong!! It's just not fair and this process can be so cruel. Sending you lots of love and hugs x


So sorry to hear this. The exact same happened to me. I remember being up all night nearly doubled over in pain with period pains but didn't want to take pain killers just in case. It really does suck but you will recover in time. For the moment plenty tlc xx


Sweetheart, it is nobody's fault so please don't beat yourself up about it.

I was asking the same questions when I had a miscarriage after my BFP. It took me a while to understand that it wasn't meant to be and this cycle was preparing me for the next one. It does take sometime to get your head around things but you will be fine. Please stay positive even though it's easier said than done.

I wish you all the best. xxx


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