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We got our BFP and was over the moon. When we got our scan our little peanut was smaller than expected and it's heartbeat was slower so another scan was planned for 10 days time. This was yesterday when our world went to pieces.

Yesterday showed the sac and a very faint heartbeat but we're losing the pregnancy. The hardest thing is I've to keep taking the tablets and pessaries and get scanned again in 7 days.

It feels so mean and cruel. My partner won't deal with this until this next scan while I feel defeated and broken. This was our last Nhs funded attempt and really don't know when we can next try.

I would like to thank all the ladies here for the support and well wishes. I wish you all luck

XxxxX

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misswinky34

I'm so sorry jam jar. It must be absolutely dreadful. Sending a hug your way xxz

Awww life can be so cruel, I am so sorry your going through this. Big hugs X

So sorry to hear your going through this sending you hugs xx

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Georgina78

So sorry jamjar, there's nothing anyone can say to make it better but sending big hugs xxx

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Daisy14

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending a gentle hug X

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poochi

So sorry to read this. I had something similar happen & my other half refused to accept it also until the follow up scan. I'll keep everything crossed that you have a different out come to us. The heartbeat of ours was 85. X

Am sorry x

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M_V_B

So sorry to hear your news. Is there anyone else you can confide in? It's really tough when your partner doesn't seem on the same page. Sending hugs. Xx

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Isa84

I'm so sorry, big hugs xx

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Jaky76

So sorry to read this..sending big hugs xxx

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Hollibob

I'm sorry.

I know when we were experiencing something similar and had to keep going back for scans it seemed like we were being tormented and constantly reminded.

I think as long as there is a heartbeat then the scans and medication will continue, as I guess on some occasions you do hear about miracles.

This will be what your other half and many others will cling on to until told otherwise.

Not that it's any easier for us ladies to deal with this news or what might happened, but going through this whole process changes our mindset (never really believing or relaxing with the good stuff) and we know how our body feels.

Look after yourself X

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Daisy32

I'm so sorry to hear this, thinking of you Xx

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NDE1987

Hi jamjar I am so sorry you are going though this. I really hope and pray everything is ok at your next scan x

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emzlou25

Oooh no this is so sad an so sorry 4 ir heart break but surly theres still a little hope that it wont happen dont give up yet babez ..sending u Hugz xx

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lianm8

I am so sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself xxx

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Cinderella5

I'm really sorry to read this, it must be heartbreaking! Take care of yourself!xx

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Kelly-03

So sorry for you both, it's such a long journey. Just take your time and all I can say from my experience is save and if you want to try again then go back and try again. We are on our 5th time and hope is what keeps me going. Find something for you that does and keep in mind that one day it will be your day. Everyone is different on how they feel and we are all allowed to be X the emotions through this are up and down and just find your own way of getting through it, we're stronger than we think and don't let your dreams go just find a way to get back there. You got pregnant and seen on the scan even though you haven't got further this time, you could do next time and then have your baby but like I said what a journey it is, it's just getting to the end of it and having your miracle. We all want a miracle. Good luck and I agree we are all lucky to have each other xx

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