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I am so sad to watch my daughter and son in law, go through their 4th failed Ivf. As her Mum I so want her to have what I have, they feel so lonely at this time. I am so proud of them they live in HOPE, what are your thoughts on counselling, has it made a big difference to anyone, thanks ladies xx
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You sound like my mum. It is a horrid process with no guarantee. We just need to know mum understands, is there with a hug, a sounding board, but not to say relax and it'll happen. Let's face it, it might not and relaxing is impossible 
Mum knows best 
Thank you so much, yes lots of hugs is what we do, my daughter seems so strong, but I know her heart is breaking, and mine is too.
It's hard for everyone involved, really the only ones who understand are the women who are going through it. It's not easy to express how we feel as due to hormones alot of the time we don't even know
As much as husband and mum try to help it's just something we have to get through.
Mums are the best 
I try to be there for her every step of the way, I am so proud of her strength and her husband, fantastic team, thanks so much for your reply.
I know exactly how you feel as my son and daughter in law are going through the same process. I can help them financially but obviously cannot do anything about the outcome. Listening to them tell me about yet another friend getting pregnant is heart breaking. They do not want to tell anyone when the next Ivf starts as they don't want us to go through the process with them and worrying about them but now I'm constantly looking for signs that they are trying again. As a mum you want your children to be happy and when there is nothing you can do it is so hard. I personally think in your daughters situation could selling would be really helpful as they can share their deepest thoughts with a professional who may also be able to help them cope better. Wishing you all lots of luck X
Thank you for your thoughts, yes I think counselling may help, as sometimes it helps for them to talk to someone outside family, it is so difficult as they go through so much, and not many people are aware of it, which means they have to keep their feelings under wraps most of the time. Such a long hard journey for them, and heart breaking to watch.
Aw it's so hard. I hate the strain it puts on not just me and my hubby but our families it breaks my heart seeing my mum cry when it hasn't worked. All you can do is be there, support and encourage xxx
Thanks for your reply, I try my best to be strong in front of them, but emotions do get the better of us sometimes, their lives are shattered each time, but I feel so proud of their strength to go on, hopefully they will get their little miracle.
What a lovely mum to post like this. Counselling can help a person for so many hard times in life. I use a spiritual counsellor but I appreciate that isn't for everyone so conventional counsellors are amazing too. Has she considered alternative therapies to run alongside her medical help? Reflexology etc for relaxation but they also specialise in fertility
If it's any help I know a friend who spent a crippling amount of money on Ivf and each time it failed, she fell pregnant naturally! Faith hope and positivity and and shoulder to cry on good luck to you all xx
Thank you so much, I think counselling is the way forward, I will mention reflexology. My daughter has no chance of a natural pregnancy, and ivf is their only way, some of the time they feel it is all out of their hands. So sad for them when friends and family are constantly getting pregnant. After my daughters body has had a rest from all the treatment, we have to look forward to hoping next time will be the right time.
How lovely of you to find this forum and seek help. After 3 failed ivf cycles I've tried to make my mum see that I'm grieving and trying to live with this pain it doesn't go away..I've had to remind her I don't want to hear about distant relatives or family friends getting pregnant and I don't watch call the midwife or one born every minute! I've had a couple of counselling sessions and it has helped but it doesn't suit everyone
One thing this journey does demonstrate is the strength of their relationship as you need to be strong to go through it so it's good your daughter has that xx
Many thanks for your reply, I understand the grieving, as I grieve for my lost grandchild, and my heart is breaking for my daughter and son in law, the relationship they have is amazing, and I know their strength together will get them through, I just hope and pray that their dream will come true.
Hi there - it's really hard for parents too, I understand that completely. I don't give my Mam too much information as I don't want her getting her hopes up. We got some bad news a while back with our test results and when I shared it with her she broke down. This broke my heart. Counselling can help if you think they are struggling to communicate/heal after a failed cycle. We went to one session before we started treatment and I'm sure if we need it we will go back. Best of luck to your daughter and son-in-law, this site has taught me to have faith even in those really dark days; miracles do happen x x x
Thank you, I agree this site is wonderful, even chatting to people this way helps, we can learn so much from each other. Wishing everyone HOPE my daughter and son in law hold onto that.
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