Don't know what to do!?!

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and hope i'm posting in the right place. 

A few weeks ago i was told by a family member that under new guidelines i am able to get Artificial Insemination done on the NHS even though i'm a single women which surprised me but i went a long with it anyway.

I was finally able to get in to see my doctor this morning to ask to be put on the list and she wasn't so sure that was how it worked. 

received a call 2 hours ago from my doctor confirming my worst fear...  i'm basically not eligible on the NHS and i'll never be able to afford to go private so i don't know what to do now. it feels like someone has stabbed me in the heart and keeps twisting the knife.

I have wanted a baby for over 10 years but due to various things including poor health it's never worked out the "traditional" way and feel like my last chance to have a baby has just been taken away.

Has anyone else gone through this or similar or have any advice on what i can do if anything?

Thanks Nikki

7 Replies

  • Hi Nikki,

    Your defiantly posting in the right place firstly 😊. R u England or Scotland?

    I am in Scotland and the guidelines are completely different 😖. Myself and my husband have been diagnosed with unexplained infertility and I have a son at home from a previous relationship. This means we have to pay for IVF but if we lived in England we would be entitled through the NHS which is £4K.

    Now I am in the process of being a egg donor and sharing my eggs with someone so they can have a baby too. This means our IVF will only cost £900 and I also get to help another women achieve her dream.

    So don't give up hope and stick with the NHS as its still slightly cheaper than private and it's called self-funded.

    I have read on the internet that clinics offer free IVF for egg sharers in England.

    Don't give up hope and welcome to he journey of fertility 


  • Hi Lucyloo

    I live in England and also have a child from a previous relationship so my partner and I aren't intitled to any funded IVF. They will do investigations on the nhs but no ivf if either person has a child from a previous. I feel so bad for my partner even though he would never blame me x 

  • Hi Lucyloo,

    Thank you for your advice...I'm in England. 

    I have read about egg donors before but i have a few health issues so i don't think i'll match the criteria to be an egg donor and i wouldn't know where to look to see if i could find someone to share their eggs with me.

    I have a blood test form from my doctor to check my hormone levels and take it from there i guess. I don't really know where to go from here.

    I think it's great that your helping someone else have a baby too. I hope the treatment works for you both xx

  • Hi I'm sorry to read your story. You will find most post code areas in the UK now don't offer free IVF and more are trying to stop offering it. It's like a post code lottery now! It might be worth you writing to your local authority but whether it will get you anywhere I don't know. 

    I'm considering going abroad if time comes as the price is much cheaper and still excellent care.

    Consider donating your eggs like lucyloo said if you are under 35 I think. Could be a great option, I'm too old for that now. 

    Don't give up and good luck xx

  • Hi Mrsjj, 

    Thank you for your advice.

    I have an autoimmune disease and an undiagnosed issue with my Liver which i'm still having tests for so i don't think i'll match the criteria to be an egg donor.

    I have a blood test form from my doctor to check my hormone levels and take it from there i guess. I don't really know where to go from here xx

  • Hi, nikki! I'm so sorry to read your story. A great amount of things girls share above. And as for the egg sharer it's really great. If no age issue then why not to try?

    Also I'm amazed you've decided to go through this on your own. This is so nice circumstances don't play the crucial role in the process.

    We're currently passing IVF with donor eggs overseas - Ukrainian Biotexcom clinic. We've chosen the place due to its reasonable prices considered to those in UK.

    May God bless you on the way. And lots of baby dust to all Xx

  • Hi Mel,

    I'm going to look into it but i have Auto-immune diseases so i don't think i'll be able to donate. I did have my hormones tested ready to start trying and there was no issues.

    I've just turned 30, so i don't have an age issue just yet.

    In the meantime i'm trying to save up to try and do AI myself x

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