I just wanted to have a little moan and I know there's so much understanding on here. My husband and I have recently had our first IVF cycle which unfortunately failed. We were obviously very upset but this past week I've been feeling a lot more positive and 'myself' again, until the insensitivity of someone's words yesterday.
I went out last night to celebrate the birthday of a friend of my hubbys, it was the first time I've been out in a while because of treatment and I was looking forward to having a glass of wine and some laughs, it felt like years after the bubble of IVF!
I am not working right now because I was made redundant late last year so decided to take a career break while we had IVF, I knew it would be all consuming and wasn't sure I would cope with finding and starting a new job at the same time. I don't regret this decision although I have struggled with not being in the routine of working and achieving every day and not having the distraction of work during a process like IVF. I also worry about what people think of my not working even though it's no ones business of course and I've worked full time for 20 years!
Therefore I've decided to do done volunteering and am about to start soon. I'm doing this before we start our 2nd cycle which will probably be in May.
Anyway I'm waffling now! Last night one of my husbands friends made a number of comments hinting about how so many people go through IVF whilst working, alluding to why couldn't I too, as if I should just suck it up and get on with it. I also have endometriosis which I was only diagnosed with 2 years ago at a late age and he also seemed to be saying why couldn't I work just because I have this, I managed before my diagnosis, even thothough this isn't the reason I'm taking a career break and I've never said it was!
His words have just really upset me as it's something I'm already sensitive about and the whole IVF process was so hard on its own. I know he couldn't possibly understand this and obviously wasnt thinking but am I wrong to be so upset by this? I know so many ladies work throughout treatment and I honestly admire them so much but circumstances arose and I made what I felt was the right decision at the time. I know it's none of his business but it's made me doubt that decision now 😕
Sorry this is so long ladies, thanks for reading xx