Period after BFN

[Summan]

Hi ladies, just when I think things cant get any worse, my periods are starting after my BFN on Monday, feels like my body is just slapping me in the face. I am fed up, upset, sick of people telling me to think positive, I just want a baby, is that so much to ask for? x

[Kat9lives]

Oh hun. It's so hard at the moment but it will get better. Plus your body getting a period and being normal is a good sign! Some ladies don't get periods and that's a whole other kettle of fish. Keep your chin up lovely xxx

[Summan in reply to Kat9lives]

Hi, yeah that's true I guess! Just wasn't expecting a bleed so quick. xxx

[anna0908]

I know that feeling all to well after 2 bfn's. I'm still off work after my last one. I've avoided contact with friends since then as their well meaning comments make me feel worse. The space has given me time to build up some strength and know i have to find the strength to push forward. This is such a hard process but somehow you will make it through. Best wishes xxx

[Summan in reply to anna0908]

I am so sorry to hear you have 2 failed BFN. It is really hard, too hard to be honest. I guess space is good, I am taking some days out before I return to work next week to build my mind. You will find the strength and I really hope your next cycle will get a BFP. Best wishes to you too, sending lots of love. xxx

[Hidden]

Hey summan.

You and I will get through this, I know we will. And we will find the strength to do it all again... Must be mad!

Be good to yourself.

I'm enjoying got baths, cups of tea, strenuous doggy walking, chocolate without guilt. Doing the washing, not watching hubby trying to do it. Cooking my favourite foods. Not being on a schedule if needles, patches, pessaries etc.

Your period is your body doing a deep clean of all the crap hormones makes us feel like utter crap, true, but now you can pop a decent pain killer instead of just paracetamol.

I refuse to sink to the depths again!!!! Hang n there, our time will come, we will be fabulous, we will share scan pics with comments of disbelief.

Have faith, you are a super woman to have gone through this!!!!

Sending you the biggest hug ever. I get you as do most of the girls in here xx

[Summan in reply to Hidden]

Haha, your reply has made ma laugh! Finally I have smiled lol! We must be mad but I guess it will be worth it in the end. I tell you what though, it felt nice vacuuming today, my husband has been doing it but not to my satisfaction! I am also eating to heart content, drinking lots of tea, lying in my pjs and watching lots of TV! Your right our time will come, it has too, be brilliant if we get BFP together soon! That's really sweet with your message, I feel ready to go! Thank you hun, sending hugs and love back. xxx

[randall55 in reply to Hidden]

What an inspiring message!! Thank you as I'm having one of those days of doubt feeling my journey is over its my test day Tuesday but I feel AF is on her unwelcome way X Nicola

[pm27]

Sorry to hear you got a BFN, it feels so unfair as others only have to do the deed and get their baby. Treatment is physically and emotionally draining and then the BFN puts the boot in.

Take care of yourself. I've had 3 BFNs and time has helped, but I'll always think "What if".

[Summan in reply to pm27]

Thanks, it does feel unfair, I talk about this with the counsellor as some people don't know how lucky they are. Definitely agree that it is emotionally and physically draining. I am really sorry to hear you have had 3 BFN's, I wish you lots of luck with your next one. Sending lots of love. xxx

[pm27 in reply to Summan]

I've had some counselling and it has helped.

We've decided to cease treatment, variety of reasons including age, finances (self funding) & emotional impact.

I hope that you get that BFP soon.

[Summan in reply to pm27]

Hi, I had some counselling today which was good and helped. Thank you. xxx

[Ams2016]

Hi summan

Mine is the same story..bfn and periods..my clinic has asked me to test at the end of this week but i know my body..

I am feeling so angry and frustrated but my mom is giving me all hope...

We are trying again in july as i have to fund it..

Just hang in there...you are not alone...

Take care

[Summan in reply to Ams2016]

Hi Anna, definitely agree, I sometimes feel 'okay', then angry and then upset. It is such a rollercoaster of emotions. We are thinking of trying end of July too in order to save! We can be IVF buddies?! Keep me posted, sending lots of hugs and love. xxx

[Hidden]

So sorry to hear about your bnf. I haven't started IVF. I'm still waiting from the CCG respond, if I will be get funded or not. hopefully I will get answer by tomorrow or next week. Big hugs to you summan. Take care. Infertility is a tough, long journey. xxx

[Summan]

Hi Amira, thank you, hopefully you do get the funding, definitely agree it is a long hard journey, I wish you all the best and success with your IVF when it starts. Lots of love. xxx

[randall55]

Hi Summan I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time..my otd is Tuesday but can't help feeling like AF is on her way as unwelcome as she is!! No it isn't a lot to ask for a baby life can be so cruel sending you baby dust Xx Nicola

[Summan]

Hi Nicola, thank you, you never know, wait for Tuesday and see what the result is. It is very cruel, I am okay at the minute as focussing on returning to work Monday but sometimes I feel a tremendous amount of sadness. I really hope your result is good news. Fingers crossed. Lots of love. xxx