Question about timeframes between cycles..

[Georgina78]

Hi everyone

I know I should be remaining positive and I mostly am (depends on the day! 🙈) I was just wondering if anyone know what the rough timeframe is for starting a fresh cycle if the previous frozen one fails?

The counsellor I see told me you don't have to wait all that long to begin another fresh cycle after a frozen one but she wasn't sure of exact protocols.

We have recently failed our first fresh cycle and have been advised we can do a frozen cycle after a third bleed which, all being well, would be in May. I am wondering how long it would be to start cycle 3 if no.2 were to fail or if the embryo (we only have one frozen) didn't survive the thawing process?

I an trying to stay positive that the fet will work but I'm sure lots of ladies understand that, after a failed cycle you can't help but be realistic that it may not work.

I am just trying to make plans and decisions on what to do because I was made redundant late last year and decided to take some time out to complete the IVF rather than rushing into another job.

Now though, I'm wondering if I should get back to work but if the cycles were quite close together (if we needed all 3 we're lucky enough to be entitled to) it may be better that I wait till they're all done then take it from there.

Sorry for waffling on and I hope that all makes sense, anyone with any knowledge/experience of this would be much appreciated

Xx

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Hello we also got our first bfn at a similar time to you, we don't have any frozen so starting our 2nd fresh cycle, the clinic advised 3 bleeds so hoping to also start in May. How you doing? I am finding this time quite hard looking into different options and desperate to get started. Doesn't help with more friends annoucing their pregnancies xxx

[Georgina78 in reply to Hidden]

Hey Button

Thanks for you're reply and nice to hear from you, sorry to hear you've had to endure pregnancy announcements it's so hard isn't it 😔 I find they really set you back especially when you feel you're doing ok for a while.

I'm finding I'm quite up & down,I was initially taking comfort from being off the roller coaster of it all as emotionally it was much much harder than I thought it'd be but now I just feel sad & disappointed especially because everything else had gone so well. Then of course there's the fear of it never working but I try not to ponder on that too much 😕

Will you be doing a second fresh cycle of just IVF? It's a strange feeling isn't it because you just want to get on with it but are also really daunted by the thought of it all again. I am going to ask about a endo scratch when I next go to the clinic, have you had a follow up appointment yet?

Fingers crossed for us both hey, let's hope our road to parenthood is just a little bumpier but we will get there xx

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Reading your thoughts is exactly how I feel. Glad to be out of the game for a while but frightened time is ticking by and will it ever happen. We ended up having icsi last min this time so I presume that's what we will have again. I am hoping but also dreading going though it all again. I am waiting for our follow up as I didn't respond well and only got 2 eggs so have a million questions, I am also wanting to enquire about the scratch xxx

[Georgina78 in reply to Hidden]

It's comforting to know others understand exactly how you're feeling isn't it, I too am worried about time ticking by as I'm 38 and while I know there's still time I do get a bit panicky about being older 😕

I have lots of questions too, let's hope we both get the answers we need and that we get there in the end 🙏🏻

Lots of luck to you button xx

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As far as I am aware it should be 2-3 periods before starting a new. X

[Cmat]

Hi there. I'm 38 too and just been through my first IVF (bfn). I have my review appointment in May and then will decide when to do the frozen cycle. I know how you feel. I feel like time is ticking and after trying so long I've even given up on the 'maybe this month it will happen naturally' feeling I used to have (well 99% given up!) But the process took over me so much - more than I realised at the time - that I think I am going to give myself a bit of time before the frozen cycle. I have thyroid problems and macrocytic anaemia so I want to see if I can improve those a bit in the interim. We have also booked a holiday in August so I'm thinking September for the frozen cycle (will be 39 by then argh!) and then if that fails, next IVF over winter, if we can afford it. I have started doing a bit of research on surrogacy as I have a feeling my body isn't up to it, but it seems so complex and such a big decision to make. I admire everyone so much who keeps going on this journey- there is so much strength on these pages. Wishing you all the best and would love to hear how you get on xx

[Georgina78]

Hi cmat

I've only just seen your reply so sorry for the delay but thank you, I totally agree it really does take over you much more than you thought possible. The age thing doesn't help the sense of panic does it.

I hope you get your health to the best it can be & enjoy a lovely holiday before hopefully getting your bfp, I haven't decided if we'd do our frozen cycle as soon as we could or wait a little while. I think I'll wait till we've had our follow up appointment.

I was actually doing well this week, feeling much more myself & positive but then I went on Facebook and the first things I come across are a birth announcement then a pregnancy one, I really should stay away from it as it just sets you back doesn't it 😔

There is definitely a lot of strength here though, I feel like there's nothing you could say or think that someone doesn't understand or feel too, that's a real comfort.

It would be nice to keep in touch to see how we're getting on, hopefully we'll both get there soon enough

Take care xx