Well I'm even more baffled now. Basically with my eggs 5-10% chance donor eggs 40-50% chance?!! Hearing that I just burst into tears.
I'm 38 amh of 2.2 AFC of 4 so the most follicles I can get is 4, so that's then crossing fingers we get all 4 follicles mature enough at the same growth rate and then all fertilising normally and having hopefully 1 put back. ?
Options....
1. Do another cycle january (last NHS) with my eggs but this time short protocol. See how I respond. If low follicles can always cancel before egg collection and start again.
2. 4 Donor eggs If Somerset fund it. They are ringing me to let me know if they will and a part of me hopes they won't so the decision is taken away from us and we go with my eggs. This will take counselling and waiting list of 4 to 6 months but a bloody good go of it working.
I feel numb at the mo haven't a clue what to do for the best I just want a baby! My head is saying go donor as more chance it working but heart says what if my eggs are still useable?
We can afford to fund a 3rd cycle ourselves if needs be but again should we have 2 goes with donor eggs rather than one not working then just one go with good eggs?!
?! Xx
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Hey, take deep breath, 38 is a fantastic age ( I'm 38 )
I also consider donor eggs
My first cycle they got 16, 15 fertilised, day 2 all great, day 3 all but 4 lived and were poor quality.
I have spent the last 3 months believing my eggs are bad. Now I get told no, they are great, we just don't know what happens day 3
I believe that if you feel the donor ones give you a better shot, go for it. They are a shell. Your hubby Fills the shell, then your body puts the special added touchés once implanted and safe.
It is your little one, your blood, your oxygen, all the great healthy food you eat that makes it develop to your baby.
Do what your instinct tells you, don't worry about anyone else xx
Oh Blondyboo, I'm sorry you're appointment didn't go as you hoped. I don't think you need to make any decisions right now. Take some time to yourself to think it through. Maybe arrange to see a counsellor privately to process it all.
No one can make your decision for you but I noted in your post you say you just want a baby so if door eggs give you the best chance then I wouldn't rule it out. I've often thought how amazing a gift donor eggs are.
Hey blondyboo, I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling now, and to be fair we haven't got to the stage of requiring donor eggs, but reading your post reminded me of an article I read a few wks back.
Professor Macklon is a specialist of Ivf, and he's at our clinic (Complete fertility in Southampton), anyway, he's just published research that proves the mother carrying donor eggs/embryo does in fact pass on her own dna to the unborn child. Even though I didn't need that type of treatment it grabbed my attention and thought, god, that's amazing. In my book, a mother is a mother if she wants to be, regardless of dna but that research just shows how pretty amazing our bodies are!
Good luck in which ever way you choose. I massively believe in your gut instinct, go with it honey.
Can you get a second opinion on whether there are alternatives that would increase your chances with your eggs, or is not a viable option financially? I did a little bit of reading after my disappointment and there seems to be a suggestion some clinics go to donor eggs too quickly.
I think the main thing is that you need to be comfortable with what you're doing - it's your body and your baby.
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No eggs retrieved- end of the road. What now? 
Real chances at 44?
Slow growing follicles - don't know what to do
