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Please Help Me :-(

Hi my name is Kelly and I'm 37 years old. I have a little boy of 6 years old who I love more than life itself. I've always wanted to be a mum and had to have tests before my little boy as after nine years of trying and one missed miscarriage nothing was happening. My periods stopped two years ago and no one could work out why? I had full blood tests done and only a under active thyroid was found. I also had a internal scan done and was told everything was ok. I then had a period on 13th April just gone and was over the moon but I haven't had one since. I was given Metforim and told to lose some wait to see if that kick started my periods. Nothing happened so I had another full blood test done. I was told yesterday that it has come back showing that I am menopausal (I'm 37) :-( I am completely deverstated. I sooooo badly long for a baby.

I read on the internet that you are classed as being over the menopause if you have gone 12 months without a period??

(I had one in April so does that mean that I still have a chance of having a baby?) If my eggs are no longer any good could I find a egg donor and still carry a baby myself? If I have no good eggs and I can't carry a baby then I have nothing to offer anyone (like a surrogate) so does that mean that It's the end of the road for having a baby? I can't get any answers from anyone. The doctors are telling me they don't specialise in it so can't comment and I can't get an appointment with the hospital for another eight weeks and that's with the doctors sending a urgent appointment needed fax over this morning. My time is running out fast and I don't know what to do. Please can anyone help. I'll do anything. Thank you xx

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Could you get a private appointment? And which tests did they run? Egg donors are a good option if everything else inside you is fine.


I will look into it thank you so much for replying xx


I am 34 and i am also going through early menopause. It was devastating to hear after trying for our first baby for 6 years. We had a failed IVF cycle last October and this is when we found out i was heading for early menopause. The medical staff at Glasgow Royal Infirmary suggested i go down the route of egg donation. Luckily, my sister offered to donate eggs for myself and my husband and we started treatment just 2 days ago and should have the result in around 4 weeks time so egg donation is an option for you. Good luck x


Thank you so much for sharing that with me. You have given me some hope. I've got two sisters both have three children each. My older sister is 44 years old so I don't know whether they would work and my younger sister who is 29 got sterilised after her last baby 18 months ago (because it was her third c section) Would she still have eggs that could be used? I wish you all the luck in the world hun and I really hope it works out for you xx


Hi Kelxx,

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I would make an appointment to see a private fertility clinic, there are a few in your area such as The Nuffield or GCRM. It will cost approx. £175 for your initial consultation, but they should be able to advise you of all the tests you would need to determine your situation, although get written evidence of any test results you already have from the NHS. Each clinic will have a full pricelist on their website.

They will discuss options I'm sure, it might depend what quality your eggs are at this point, or there are egg donor options to consider.

Even if you continue with NHS treatment you could get clarity on your options by seeing a fertility clinic.

Hope this helps,



Thank you so much it really means a lot to me that you have taken the time to reply and I will get onto it straight away xx


Hi Kelly. I have been ttc for 5 years. I underwent my first IVF last year and I was told that I had a low ovarian reserve too. My husband and I were told that our best chances to be parents were through egg donation. I was devastated and couldn't speak when we were with our consultant. My husband asked what the chances were if we attempted it again but try changing the medication. We were told that we had a 10% chance of it working. We took that 10% with both hands, and by changing our dosage, we got a much better result. It had worked and we finally got a bfp. Unfortunately three weeks later we had a miscarriage and our world came crashing down.

We tried again at the end of last year but it didn't work. We're waiting for a miracle now.

Is it worth asking about changing medication? Up the dosage to see if that works? My friend has early menopause, she's only 30. She underwent something called 'timed sex'. The hospital literally monitor your body to the point of ovulation and then you go home and 'do the deed'!

I really wish you luck x


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